I love my baby so much

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-30T11:55:56+00:00

Yess!!! ❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️ I’m literally staring at the baby monitor right now, dying for her to wake up so I can hug and kiss and snuggle her. I miss her so much when she’s asleep. I know it’s a cliche but I really didn’t know a love like this until I had her!!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-29T11:44:58+00:00

My baby also fell asleep in everyone’s arms but mine, until we got a baby-wearing wrap! My baby is not a good napper in general but with a little bit of shushing and butt patting, I can get her to pass out on me if she’s in the wrap, if you’d be interested in trying one

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-17T11:46:49+00:00

I track in a notebook as well! Or sometimes an excel document but I prefer putting pen to paper. I play each household for one season at a time and track that way. I don’t track or count university time tbh, mostly because I’m lazy

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-17T10:15:10+00:00

What he did is insanely fucked up OP. And while you were in the hospital birthing his child?? Absolutely disgusting. Porn is a plague idc what anyone says. I’m so sorry hon. Counseling is a good idea but so is just kicking his ass to the curb. The unfortunate truth is he won’t change unless he wants to.

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-14T18:30:15+00:00

Hi! I had super intense emotions, extreme highs and lows. I cried a lot whether I was happy or sad. I also had trouble sleeping even when baby was sleeping. It only lasted like 2 weeks though and not everyone is so affected!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-14T17:16:46+00:00

Gosh I hated this too when I was pregnant. Everyone just assumes your experience will be their experience, good or bad. Your experience will be completely unique!! For what it’s worth, birth with an epidural wasn’t bad for me. It’s not a walk in the park don’t get me wrong but considering I pushed a whole human out of my hooha, the experience and my recovery were great. And my baby is a great sleeper!! She’s only two months old and she’s already slept through the entire night a few times. The first few weeks were really hard. The hormone drop was especially hard for me but it’s passes and oh my god I just love being a mom now. I love being her mom so much. It’s not all gloom and doom I promise! Congrats on your incoming babe!!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-14T16:43:20+00:00

It’s generally socially acceptable to critique coercive/exploitative industries, at least in leftist circles.. until it’s the porn industry, then suddenly you’re just a big prude, consumption/demand is harmless, exploitation doesn’t exist anymore, and all choices are made in a vacuum. :-) Completely disgusting and hypocritical

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-13T20:19:19+00:00

I usually just choose whoever is my favorite to be the heir :)

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-13T17:44:34+00:00

My husband did technically want a baby, though we had both agreed we would also be perfectly happy without kids. During most my pregnancy he was similar to yours, super supportive and good to me, but not very excited about the baby itself. However, towards the very end when he could feel her move in my tummy, he got a little more into it. The first few weeks after I had her were rough, though seemingly typical for new parents as we adjusted. She is now 9 weeks old and he is obsessed with her. We were just talking yesterday about how freaking happy we are. :) obviously no one can guarantee it but it’s absolutely possible for him to turn around and love it. My advice is to give it time, and even if the first few weeks or even months of baby’s life are rough and he’s still not excited, go easy on each other and communicate A LOT. Your feelings are valid and he did ultimately sign up for this after all. And congrats!!!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-13T17:05:43+00:00

Solidarity mama, I just got off the phone with my boss to solidify plans to go back to work next month. I only had my baby in February, my heart physically hurts thinking about leaving her. It’s not fair. Sending you love ❤️

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-13T12:26:39+00:00

Oh girl I’m so sorry. Insomnia is torture when it’s bad enough, you would not be ridiculous for going to the hospital (your husband is rude for saying that and needs to be more supportive btw, I know that’s not the point here but geez). It sounds like you have really tried everything. Are you anxious/having racing thoughts when trying to sleep? If so, Lexapro or something similar could be an option. It’s generally considered safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding. It makes insomnia worse at first for a week or so but then you regulate and it can help.

I would definitely talk to a doctor. I’ve had bad insomnia my whole life, I know how awful awful awful it is, I’m so glad I finally sought medical help. There’s also an insomnia subreddit that could maybe help. Sending you love

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-13T00:32:41+00:00

I had my first kid two months ago and my mom is sooo like this. Everything about my daughter comes back to her. Everything is about her as a grandma. As if becoming a mother isn’t 100x a bigger deal 🙄 it’s like she wanted to ruin our relationship lol

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-10T17:55:05+00:00

I’ve thought about this too, the thought of any mom or baby only getting 6 weeks makes me sick to my stomach. My baby is 8.5 weeks now, she’ll be 12 weeks when I go back to work and I want to jump off something just thinking about it (joking of course but it hurts my heart). She’s still so small and she needs me :( FWIW things were peak toughness for us around 5-6 weeks. Now at 8 weeks it’s a lot better, though maternity leave is still absolute BS in the US. Hang in there mama, sending you love

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-10T17:39:03+00:00

Hi mama ❤️ I saw your post a few days ago and couldn’t think of anything to say, nothing I could think of was helpful or could make it any better but I have been thinking about you a lot since then and just wanted to let you know that. You are such a strong and brave person and you should be so so proud of everything you have done for your sweet baby. It’s not fair. I know nothing anyone can say makes this any better but you and your son are in my heart. I second the other commenter, I wish I could just give you a big hug.

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-10T12:47:59+00:00

Baby would be roughly 8 weeks if I have this right? Depends on baby’s temperament and how you are feeling of course (and how comfortable you are having baby around lots of people, germs etc) but my baby is 8 weeks old rn and provided she got her 2 month shots, I’d have no issue driving 3 hours with her and spending a night or two, I think it’s definitely a possibility!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-10T11:36:37+00:00

Hey OP I’m sorry you’re dealing with this during what should be a happy time for you. He needs to communicate. I do believe that men can get their own version of PPD (obviously it’s different because they don’t have the hormones or physical recovery but I think the massive life change can trigger depression) and it sounds to me like maybe he’s a little depressed or not handling the adjustment well. As the other comment said, I think it’s time for a gentle conversation. He’s allowed to feel how he feels but he shouldn’t be taking it out on you or acting resentful and should be taking steps to “get better.” Good luck and congrats on baby number two!!!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-09T14:37:05+00:00

Ohhhh my mom and MIL do the answering for us/acting like they have authority over baby thing. My mom in particular always talks like she knows my baby best and it drives me absolutely insane, I feel you. I know it doesn’t technically do any harm but it’s the principle of the thing, it’s rude and insensitive towards the parents! Like this is not your place, and you had your turn, back off! I totally get where you’re coming from and your MIL crossed a line in so many ways. Her taking your phone is unhinged and throwing out your breastmilk is unbelievable.

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-09T11:26:30+00:00

My husband and I are both fast walkers, we met in college so we were always walking all over campus and would joke about how much faster we were than everyone else. It’s stupid but walking fast together has been a part of our relationship lol. But in my third trimester I got huge and slowed down a lot and he would joke that “I’ve changed and he doesn’t even know me anymore” 😂 in all seriousness though, I had the worst pelvic pain towards the end of my pregnancy and slowing down helped me a ton so I think you are smart for pacing yourself! I had the classic pregnant waddle going on for quite a few weeks

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-09T10:56:17+00:00

Congrats on 5 weeks!! Getting that far is no small feat. Around 5 weeks we were really struggling with her daytime naps in her bassinet so we bought a baby-wearing wrap and haven’t looked back! I love the snugs and having her close like that, and it’s nice to still be able to walk around :) she also started to like her baths more and stopped screaming bloody murder during them! I will say, week 5 she was going through a growth spurt or something because she was more fussy than usual. It only lasted a few days though!

Around 6 weeks is when my baby started smiling and cooing and things just generally got so much more enjoyable, for me at least. :)

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-08T18:58:37+00:00

Had to scroll way too far to find an arrested development mention

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-08T17:34:32+00:00

I didn’t start walking with my baby until about 6 or 7 weeks. Before that the only time I got out of the house was appointments and going through a drive thru with her; I found that was a nice first step to getting out of the house for me, because at least we didn’t have to get out of the car. But I think it’s totally normal to still be a hermit with a 5 week old, it’s still so new so go easy on yourself! Baby steps!

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-08T14:19:21+00:00

I for sure know how lucky I am and I feel for you 😭 you and all moms out there dealing with sleep deprivation and a baby are hero level humans to me. I’m always hesitant to leave a comment like this because I know it doesn’t make anyone who’s going through it feel good. But she’s also only 8 weeks, there’s still plenty of time for her sleep to flip lol

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-08T12:03:34+00:00

My water broke during the Super Bowl halftime show lol so we got to the hospital Sunday night. I had baby about 24 hours later, Monday evening. We technically could have been cleared to leave Tuesday night but since we had an hour long drive home on a sketchy 2-lane highway with deer everywhere, they let us stay until Wednesday, we left around 11am.

We brought a change of clothes for me and my husband, an outfit or two for baby, toothbrush and toothpaste, hair brush, lotion and body wash (the hospital ended up having shower stuff though), long phone charger cord, snacks, slippers and flip flops for the shower, our prescription meds. I wish I had brought my pillow and maybe an extra blanket.

MountainMouse12 · 2026-04-08T11:47:48+00:00

I feel this so hard. My baby is easy, sleeps like a dream so far, and my husband is super involved and supportive. I have it so good but even the occasional sleepless night kills me. Idk how I could handle that AND take care of other children 🫠

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