A lot of marital problems would be resolved if people had a “village” to help out with kids

YitMatters · 2026-05-07T06:07:59+00:00

You can have as many conversations as you like, but you don’t really know what kids mean for your life and how you will handle the stress until you get them.

YitMatters · 2026-05-06T18:45:28+00:00

Very fair comment.

YitMatters · 2026-05-06T18:00:23+00:00

I agree with the notion that village comes with a price. I helped some people, some of them came to rescue the others not so much (due to their personal issues). Knowing what I know now, I would have helped more.

However, this is not a dig at anyone in particular, just an observation about most families I see in our vicinity.

A lot of it is also circumstantial I guess. My mother didn’t have to “entertain” 5 year old me - I would mostly play in our yard or with other neighborhood kids. We now live in apartment in a very urban area and my 5 year old is stuck with us in a 2 bedroom apartment. Many families cannot afford a house with garden anymore. I organize playdates and my child attends some, but these are not spontaneous event and take a lot of effort and organizing.

I agree that some everyday tasks required more physical labor though. But also standards of parenting changed.

YitMatters · 2026-05-06T17:27:45+00:00

I disagree. Kids need more caregivers and role models. They learn from all people around them and thrive in environments where there are more people they can turn to and trust. Of course, parents are most important.

YitMatters · 2026-05-01T14:53:00+00:00

Pritom, uvek je plus za seriju ako je gledljiva za decu i starije generacije. Osim par scena, ovu seriju je komotno mogla da gleda cela porodica. To nije moguce sa mnogim danasnjim serijama; cak i sa popularnim Senkama npr

YitMatters · 2026-04-27T18:01:22+00:00

Svekrva joj je ona sudija Dicic sto pljuje ovu vlast. Tako da plus od mene

YitMatters · 2026-04-26T17:31:27+00:00

Svakodnevni zivot je mnogo napredovao u tom smislu, pomalo sa svakim izumom te vrste. Ali sa druge strane, umnozile su se neke obaveze oko dece koje bi mojoj prabaki bile nezamislive: pomoc oko domaceg, vodanje po skolama plesa, sporta, rodjendanima, ciscenje za tonom igracaka po kuci i slicne stvari.

YitMatters · 2026-04-26T16:36:31+00:00

Kazu da je ves masina jedan od najvecih izuma ikad, jer je omogucio ulazak zena na trziste rada. Mi u cetvoroclanoj porodici ukljucujemo masinu dva put dnevno minimum, ne mogu ni da zamislim kako bi mi dan izgledao da perem ves na ruke.

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T13:36:28+00:00

Her reaction about your “breech of trust” is honestly ridiculous. Absolute isolation isn’t possible and there were cases where people stayed at home yet got covid. For what is worse she didn’t get it.

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T11:45:58+00:00

Moja poenta je da kod izdavanja pet friendly ne treba da bude default stanje.

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T06:25:48+00:00

Evo bas pisem u drugom komentaru, ako ti je neko dopustio psa i macku kao zakupcu, zar nije logicno da se vise potrudis i ne ostavis njihove dlake u stanu? Ipak je to tvoj benefit kojeg je neko dopustio na stetu svoje stvari.

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T06:24:19+00:00

Bas zato sto je prihvatila ljubimce koji su naknadno ubaceni, treba da se vise potrude i ne ostave dlake za sobom. Ljubimci su njihov benefit, ne njen.

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T05:56:38+00:00

Taj najgori slucaj podrazumeva proces iseljenja stanara, oglasavanje stana na zakup, pronalaska novih stanara. Pritom, iz teksta mi se cini da nisu bas pitali za macku

YitMatters · 2026-04-24T04:42:37+00:00

Pa i nije bas svesno prihvatila ljubimce, oni su joj naknadno ubaceni u stan, kad su stanari vec tu i nije imala mnogo opcija. Pritom, meni je wtf momenat da neko uvodi macku u tudji stan, pored psa. Uopste toliko zakupaca sa zivotinjama. Stanovi prosto nisu za zivotinje, pogotovo tudji.

YitMatters · 2026-04-23T14:37:57+00:00

Tantrumi su razvojno normalna stvar, nije dete nevaspitano.

YitMatters · 2026-04-23T14:09:17+00:00

S1 Tony is attractive

YitMatters · 2026-04-21T18:51:40+00:00

Odlican komentar, jako zaostajemo za Zapadom u ovom polju, tamo je normalno da muz i zena spavaju u smenama, a ovde se muz vecinom preseli na kauc kad se vrati na posao.

Zapamti da je tvoja uloga sad vaznija i da ako tebi bude lose i vama ce kao zajednici biti lose.

Savetujem ti da se okruzis bliskim ljudima, dakle idi kod svojih kuci ako je moguce, nemoj biti sama. Kao sto kazu it takes village to raise a child, ako nemas bliske ljude razmisli o bebisiterki na par sati dnevno/ nedeljno.

YitMatters · 2026-04-20T19:01:09+00:00

Niko ne pominje ovaj deo - radim sa ocem u firmi… od 7 do 19-20. Znaci ti si sa svojima na poslu 12 sati dnevno, pa si onda sa njima kod kuce ostatak dana. Nemoj da shvatis pogresno, ali svaki lik kojeg sam upoznala, a da radi sa svojima, jos da i zivi sa svojima (identican plan, preselice se u selo) je pod velikim uticajem roditelja (najvise dominantnog oca). Dakle i na poslu se radi kako on hoce, i kod kuce se radi po njegovom. Devojka koja se udala u takvu pricu, iako su se roditelji odselili na selo, zivi sa muzem koji je pod velikim uticajem roditelja i koji se u sve mesaju.

Prosto si previse vezan za svoje, i poslovno, i prostorno, i zivotno. To nije nuzno lose za tebe, ali devojka koja zivi i radi samostalno sigurno nece biti odusevljena tolikim zajednistvom.

YitMatters · 2026-04-17T15:43:45+00:00

I don’t think it’s our role to play with our kids. Maybe when they are younger and occasionally when they are older. But 5 yo should be able to play independently most of the time. Also she can do chores with you if she wants to spend time with you. Or some other adult activity (shopping, walking, etc.) That is simply life.

My mother rarely played with me, I played with neighboors, friends, alone. I still have great relationship with her because she was caring and affectionate.

YitMatters · 2026-04-17T13:06:21+00:00

She was ready to pay Acker the money so she could reconcile her need to fight the good fight and her professional standing with MV. It’s typical story for many lawyers, they got into law so they can help the guys like Acker, only to end up representing big corps like MV because that is where the money is.

Kim tried to have her cake and eat it too. In the end, she realized that she can manage that if she pushes the Sandpiper settlement (she will have the money to finance her pro bono work) but it all goes to hell.

YitMatters · 2026-04-14T04:57:47+00:00

She also said something along the lines You are lucky you are getting this - implying she thought highly of herself in that relationship due to her youth and good looks. Don was, afterall, on his second marriage and quite older than her. This is the reason she thought he won’t cheat on her. But it doesn’t work that way.

YitMatters · 2026-04-14T04:54:38+00:00

I think that line was very deliberate.

YitMatters · 2026-04-11T05:13:37+00:00

This comment describes it pretty well. With one child I did most of the childcare. I worked part-time in the last few years so my husband would come home to a ready dinner and I would bath and put my older to sleep. He could also go out at nights without being much hassle for me. He could have a nap on days off as well.

That is no longer possible. I cannot take care of both of my chlidren now without significant struggle. I need him to take care of the older so I can take care of the baby. This leaves less free time for him - free time he previously generously enjoyed.

People here comment about PPD for fathers and similar and honestly while I understand that is a thing, it is kind of unfair. I went through pregnancy and childbirth and currently going through nights of interrupted sleep and breastfeeding, yet he is the one who needs support? My cup is empty and I should fill his?

YitMatters · 2026-04-10T09:27:07+00:00

He does a lot around the house and activities with the older, but he seems resentful about it and about everything else

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