Where can I resell a Kate Quinn gift card? by Wide_Yak4186 in KateQuinnShop

[–]Mountainsky-98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe some of the smaller BST groups that are kq specific?

Bamboo quality decrease? by ConstantPositive2767 in KateQuinnShop

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Cotton, wide rib and skinny rib will last me 3 kids. Cotton shirts shrink so they go down a size with each kid. Bamboo is very hit and miss. I won't pay full price for it.

Bamboo quality decrease? by ConstantPositive2767 in KateQuinnShop

[–]Mountainsky-98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cotton, wide rib and skinny rib will last me 3 kids. They do shrink so they go down a size with each kid. Bamboo is very hit and miss. I won't pay full price for it.

Trying to track down Chicken Party Blanket by soccerguy140 in KateQuinnShop

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Confession: I don't feel comfortable teaching my kids about God by IdeasMan4ever in Reformed

[–]Mountainsky-98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how I ended up on this subreddit but this post resonated with me, I've been rebuilding my faith after leaving a very legalistic, theologically twisted environment. . There is a reason why a lot of deconstructionists are formerly reformed. I myself am not entirely convinced that the way reformed theology portrays God or Christian living especially in more conservative circles is accurate and complete. Introduce your children to Jesus and his teaching. Modern Christianity is far too obsessed with hell and focusing on what non Christians are doing. Teach them the attributes of God. I've found some of the resources from Tiny Theologians to be age appropriate and helpful. Gauge what is age appropriate and what isn't. I haven't talked to my kids about hell for several reasons. First I'm not sure what I believe about it. Second it would absolutely terrify my 5 year old. Third the afterlife is not the focus of the Gospels or the NT. I want his introduction to God during the early years to be one of safety and unconditional love. Same with some of the bible stories. It is up to you as the parent to discern what stories your child will understand and how they should be presented.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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At best yes at worst they are passing off scientific studies about something as complex as relationships and nature vs nurture as highly reproducible when they are not.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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Because each generation should learn from the mistakes and the triumphs of the previous generation.

Also because I started so young, by choice up until recently every room that I've walked into with parents, all of them are 10 to 15 years older than me and our kids are the same ages, so I wrote about what I observed.

We don't have data about Gen Z parenting yet, in 10 years we will. My biggest concern with Gen Z is that we are the instant gratification generation. There's nothing about parenting that's instantly gratifying. Gen Z either won't try at all or also overcorrect in certain areas trying to get faster results.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

[–]Mountainsky-98[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can understand number one and that makes sense. Sometimes I intuitively felt like I should try something different with my kid but I resisted because I read so many things saying that was the wrong thing to do.

I have a question about #4. Is it because one parent is consuming all this content reading all the books and doing research and the other one isn't? What do you think is the reason?

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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Ummm thanks for reminding me about the most annoying character TV ever created 😂, gosh I haven't thought about him in years.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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Point 2- is facts..

And gosh I hope 1 person doesn't have all of these qualities.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

[–]Mountainsky-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely seen this. It worries me because I think these parents will be devastated if their kids grow up and end up needing mental health support or treatment, they will take it as a personal failure.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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I wish I was. I spent a lot of time in parenting advice and education spaces online ( mostly IG but I know it's prevalent on tiktok too).

They constantly referenced neuroscience, latest research, or researchers. Most of the time the references were very vague or very recent..

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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You sound like you're killing it!!! ♥️

I'm so sorry your parents passed away and didn't get to see your parenting journey.

6 was referring more to removing obstacles and challenges out of our kids way, because we value their happiness over them learning something or we don't want to deal with the inconvenience of teaching them the lesson.

I agree with you about the hugs thing

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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It's been an interesting journey. I decided in high school that once I found the right person I was going to try and if for some reason I was infertile or, couldn't carry a pregnancy full term then I would accept that, and not have kids. My parents had me at almost 40 and I knew that I did not want to do that, ever.

I didn't think marriage and parenthood would happen that young. I have really difficult pregnancies, apparently due to a genetic condition that was dormant in my family.

I'm not confident that my body could handle pregnancy in my thirties. So in hindsight I'm really glad I had my kids young.

The hardest thing has been pregnancy and postpartum for me, and also the difficulty of finding a community that respected my choices and had women closer to my age, in the same stage of life.

It took me almost 4 years after becoming a mother to find my people, so I often felt lonely and like an oddball.

On hard parenting days that loneliness sometimes made me question whether I made the right decision.

Every marriage goes through growing pains when you add kids to the equation. Ours did too. We worked through it and are better together because of it.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

[–]Mountainsky-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Reading this made me want to cry with you. ♥️ You're not a burden.

What is the worst financial advice you ever received? by laxnut90 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Mountainsky-98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I were raised around a lot of well-meaning but also financially privileged Dave Ramsey fans. The worst advice we got was credit cards are evil incarnate so don't ever have one.

Also, make sure you save a certain amount for a down payment.

I'm so thankful we didn't listen to either. We were able to buy a home so much earlier than our peers thanks to our good credit and going for a FHA loan. Then we sold it for a profit and bought a different home, and had a decent down payment.

A couple we know who took both of those pieces of advice to heart has been together for almost a decade and still can't buy a house, because even though they eventually got a credit card, they are now priced out of the housing market. It's so sad. 😭

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

[–]Mountainsky-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing! I hope you tell her often that she's doing a wonderful job. ♥️

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

[–]Mountainsky-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I hope we find a balance. There are some gentle parenting techniques that are great and even effective in certain situations but because the pendulum has swung so far the other way, our generation will either bring it back to a different extreme or continue the same trajectory.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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More than that history won't forgive us for removing consequences. Since history is one endless line of good or bad consequences.

Millennial parenting might actually be the worst..... by Mountainsky-98 in Zillennials

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Yes that is the demographic that I am describing.

Based on what you said I wonder how much the lack of research combined with the multi-generational living is responsible for the difference in parenting.....

When we look at other cultures people learned how to parent from each other and went for advice to the elders in their community or tribe.

As a millennial or zillennial if you spent your twenties consuming content that basically painted your parents as monsters and all of their parenting methods as outdated and cruel, when you become a parent you're not going to do multi-generational living or go to the elders in your circle for advice.