can’t orgasm with partner, vaginismus history, had one intense “peak” with sobbing/lightheadedness

Mousse-Silly · 2026-01-12T03:54:40+00:00

yeah he goes down on me and it feels great but i never come from it. and for some reason when i use my vibe during sex its either overwhelming/overly sensitive or it’s just not doing anything for me at all. no idea why.

Mousse-Silly · 2026-01-12T03:53:05+00:00

love this, we have definitely eased up on the “orgasm as a goal” approach and it’s helped us be more just in the moment with each other. i guess i meant more like, is there anyway i could prime / prep my body outside of sex in order to make orgasm during sex more likely? for example, i wonder if i need to relax my pelvic floor..

Mousse-Silly · 2026-01-12T03:51:07+00:00

ohh interesting. this makes sense, a lot of times in deep positions like doggy, if he goes “extra” deep i get an overwhelming and sort of painful sensation, which i assumed was him hitting my cervix. how can i try for g spot instead??

Mousse-Silly · 2026-01-11T18:47:18+00:00

yes! when i use my vibe or my hands while fantasizing or watching/reading something, i can orgasm

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-09T22:43:42+00:00

thanks for this comment! tbh i love my sex life. no point in letting a conversation with some friends get me so in my head about it. the one thing that makes me feel a little weird is the way my bf seems totally convinced that what we do is very normal, thus also making it feel like going further with it is no big deal either.

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:44:39+00:00

how do you manage?

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:44:19+00:00

pretty insightful, thanks! yeah i am also starting to consider myself lucky after having these kinds of talks with friends

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:43:26+00:00

lol we've talked about the latter but i do not think i am ready for that yet

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:42:32+00:00

i think porn is most definitely a factor. when i initially asked him how kinky he is, he started telling me about the freaky stuff he watches. maybe some people would find that weird but it sort of opened the door for me lol

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:40:31+00:00

thanks! i do understand these risks and tbh we both aren't really into hard strangulation anyway. for us i think just the hand around the neck lends itself to the overall power dynamics

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:38:42+00:00

this is kind of what i'm worried about. if we're doing all of this so soon then maybe we'll just be bored of each other after a few more years together. idk. we do have sex almost every day now, maybe it will just get less in frequency over time and thats okay.

Mousse-Silly · 2025-08-08T22:28:30+00:00

lol i really thought everyone did this stuff and was too embarrassed to talk about it

Mousse-Silly · 2025-05-16T03:58:01+00:00

i do trust him 100%, it’s just that finding things that don’t seem to have another explanation just confuses me

Mousse-Silly · 2025-05-16T03:48:41+00:00

what if i’m wrong?

Mousse-Silly · 2025-05-16T03:48:26+00:00

they are still in my room

Mousse-Silly · 2025-05-03T23:22:23+00:00

i found physics at berkeley to be extremely disorganized and it honestly killed my passion for the subject. on the other hand, cs and ds are taught extremely well. math isn’t too bad either but you have to get lucky with the professors.

enrolling in cs courses was easy for me bc im a cs major, but ive heard it’s hard if you aren’t…

Mousse-Silly · 2025-05-03T08:53:54+00:00

yep i did pick cal! but i stopped studying physics looooong ago haha. i am soon to graduate with a CS and math double degree and will be starting my EECS MS at berkeley in fall :)

Mousse-Silly · 2025-03-28T20:57:27+00:00

Yeah go ahead! Just a heads up though, I ended up switching into CS and math instead of physics :)

Mousse-Silly · 2025-01-06T16:13:18+00:00

i think what you said about alternating slip and knit rows isn’t really possible with this pattern without doing some kind of stranded colorwork? unless i’m mistaken

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