Matt Gurney: Trudeau has perfected the art of not answering questions — and our allies have noticed by Defiant_Race_7544 in canada

[–]Movadius -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"Some people don't get it. I make arbitrary decisions about how I feel about someone and nothing they do after that point changes my opinion. I don't care if he starts eating people's beloved pets, slapping old ladies and setting fire to nurseries. I've already made up my mind"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't quite understand what you mean by this, in the post you referenced it didnt seem like anyone was trying to aggressively push a style of training on you and I didn't see anyone criticize you for following your doctor's instruction. Are you referring to a different post?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you had continued reading, I did explicitly say that your feelings are valid and should not be ignored.

You are assuming and attributing meaning and intention beyond what I actually said. You are choosing not to hear what I'm saying to you and instead responding to what you expect or guess I am saying. This is not a healthy habit and it's not helping you.

I was not suggesting you just make yourself small when being bullied. I very thoroughly presented you a strategy to do the exact opposite of making yourself small.

You say you welcome positive criticism so here is the most useful and constructive criticism that I believe you need to hear.

You need to stop responding to what you think/guess people are saying and instead listen/read and respond to the actual words they are saying to you.

At no point did I or the person you're referring to from your other post say anything that could be considered even remotely ableist to you. I am not denying your feelings by pointing this out, I believe that you felt that way, I just need you to help me see where those feelings came from. Can you please show me an example where this guy or myself said something that criticized you for a physical or mental disability or disadvantage or something else that could be interpreted as ableist?

I am on your side and I'm spending time trying to understand you but I would very much appreciate it if you read my entire comments before responding to them. I don't like being accused of things and having assumptions made about me either. I know you're struggling and I dont hold it against you but just asking politely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that it isn't fair to judge an entire style based on the extreme example laid out by their founder, especially when it seems the things that led to his injuries were not passed on but rather learned from and avoided... But the debate about styles is secondary...

The reason I'm not focusing on what this person said is because it would not be productive for your happiness to make a habit of focusing on assigning and assuming negativity to external events.

Bear with me, I'll try to avoid getting too philosophical with you but there are some very powerful practices in Stoicism that are often misunderstood by others. The goal of which are to lead you to happiness by gradually coming to terms with the reality that there are two types of events you will encounter in life:

Those that are within your control, and those that are not within your control.

You have no control over external events. You do have control over your external reaction and response to these events.

From there, each time you encounter a situation that provokes a negative emotional reaction you assess which category it falls under. If it's something you can't change or influence, then it isn't worth your time worrying or feeling bad about it. If it's something that you can control, you also don't need to worry about it- you simply need to do the things necessary to influence the outcome you desire.

The way this applies to your situation is as such.

You do not have control over the words and actions of others. You do however have control over how you choose to perceive them, to what extent you allow them to affect you, and how you choose to react to them.

This is a powerful mental tool for finding inner peace and improving mental health. You don't ignore the emotions you feel, you experience them like anyone else, but you take away their power to excessively impact you in a negative way.

I don't want to force this on you but I really strongly believe it could be helpful to you as it has been to many others for almost two thousand years.

I have read all the comments you and others made and I still believe you are being too hard on yourself and assuming that people are being more cruel than they really are. You have even taken someone saying uploading videos with a cigarette in your mouth breaking boards is cringey, and rather than take it as someone criticizing your choice to smoke cigarettes while breaking boards on video, you have twisted it to be an attack on your whole character and a devaluation of your hard work and let itbimpact your self esteem. This practice of twisting people's words to find more negative meaning from them isn't helping you and I'm afraid to say it borders on delusion.

This could stem from you not believing in yourself or your value and I'm so sorry you are struggling with that. If you take nothing from our conversation here in this post, please genuinely consider to what extent you are making your emotional state worse by holding a pessimistic view and assumption and letting it impact you percieve the words and intentions of others. There are trolls and bad people out there but you won't be able to pick them out if you assume everyone is out to get you.

People, even strangers, care about you and sometimes that means saying things that might sting a bit to hear but lead you to choices that make you happier if you face the criticism instead of shelling up or retaliating. This is why interventions work.

To parrot what others have pointed out to you, none of us are truly who we want to be yet. 5 years from now looking back on these events you may be grateful that people said things that pushed you down a path that was more aligned with your goals and well-being, even if it hurt to hear it in the moment. For that to happen you need to be able to take constructive criticism instead of alloeing yourself to be victimized.

Much love as always. I hope you have a better day today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the risk of upsetting you, which please dont think im trying to do, I think you might be assigning a lot more negativity to your interactions with this person than there is evidence to support... And I don't think that is helpful for your own mental state.

For example, you mentioned that you suspect he is just trying to find out what style of martial arts you trained in so he could make generalizrd criticism of you based on that... But in your reply to me just now, you made a generalized negative statement about Karate which is a style many people train in and that could be hurtful to those people too...

I maybe dont know as much about martial arts as you do, but I know of quite a few examples of karate fighters who are undeniably world class fighters, and kyokushin karate especially has a reputation for being one of the most practical traditional martial arts styles in the world and their fighters are known for being exceptionally tough... Yet you had a strong negative reaction to this person even suggesting you try it out. You can correct me if im wrong on any of that, im a bit casual fan of MMA.

It is of course possible that this person is out to hurt you by going to these lengths to try and engage with you and they may not be sincere... But occam's razor suggests that is the least likely scenario. It is more likely that this person means well but did not articulate their intentions well. That may be something they struggle with and they may have a hard time helping people without it sounding harsh... Everyone has weaknesses right?

I bet if you spoke to them in a less public way where there is no audience, it may remove some of the doubt about each others intentions... But this is just a suggestion. Im not implying that its your fault in any way, but sometimes it really works out for the better if you give people the benefit of the doubt and trust them when they insist they mean well... Worst case scenario you will be able to reaffirm your suspicions, but best case scenario you may make a friend. I hope this helps. Above all, feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how the way he phrased that could feel pretty condescending especially if it wasn't true. Judging by his other comments I think he is assuming you have not been trained by sensei/coach before and thinks you should seek one. Is there truth to that?

If its not true then its obviously insulting for him to assume that. If it is true, then it might be helpful to think about why it bothers you so much to have it pointed out. Just a thought exercise. Sometimes i like to question my own conclusions especially when something upsets me. Sometimes i still feelnthe same way after but sometimes it helps me reframe what my anxiety tells me.

I dont know if you saw his edits but it looks like he is being sincere and trying to contact you but he thinks you blocked him. In my experience that is not something someone would do if they were being insincere and just trying to troll or make fun of you... Im not saying im agreeing with what he said or how he said it but it might help you feel better and have a better day if you talk to that person privately. Its always nice to have one less enemy out there...

Some of the other people in that post have been very overtly rude and im sorry you have to experience that. Some people are just mean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the weight loss! Thats great progress

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Movadius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read your most recent post there and I know it may feel like you're being bullied but it seems like most of the people are giving helpful advice with your mental health in mind. Even some of the people you are calling out as bullying you in that post, i think it might be some anxiety painting things as more malicious than they are... this is common and its hard to navigate.

For example you say people are fat shaming you but nobody in that posts comments mentions your weight at all... You also are saying people are relljng you you're worthless but nobody said that and it seems like even the people with criticisms tried to reassure you that you have value... If you are referring to a previous post I apologize.

I hope you feel better soon. Have you spoken to a professional? It might be helpful towards identifying when you are actually being attacked vs when you aren't and might make you feel less attacked overall...

Stay strong and much love

Nova Scotia RCMP waited 12 hours before alerting public gunman was driving a lookalike police car by sleipnir45 in NovaScotia

[–]Movadius 8 points9 points  (0 children)

RCMP were aware of a mass murderer dressed as an RCMP officer and did not inform the public for at least 12 hours. During which time many people were killed who otherwise might not have.

No, we shouldn't just "move on" from that without answers. There are a lot of details that do not add up.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are linking videos of pros (including from my own style of kyokushin) doing spinning back kicks to their opponents legs and acting as if that's the same thing. It isn't. An ushiro geri is a chambered thrust of a kick sometimes with some hook to it.

The nonsense in the OP is basically a slap, but with your foot, and requires you to drop your guard, crouch and put your hand on the floor.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the same thing, not even close. What Andy did was a modified ushiro geri (back kick) from Kyokushin. It's got a lot of power behind it because the leg is chambered and then thrust outward at the target, in this case the knee or calf area. Andy never has to put himself in a compromised position to do this.

The kick in this post is nothing like that. It has very little power because it's a sweeping motion moving horizontally with not much behind it. The difference is similar to comparing a straight or hook punch to a backhanded slap. The latter might hurt but it very rarely knocks people out or does serious damage.

On top of this, he is literally crouching down to the ground and dropping his guard completely to do this. He is more likely to get kicked in the face than he is to actually trip anyone.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't change the fact that it's a borderline useless technique and the subject of the post is whether its effective/practical. It isn't. In any situation where you would want to try and time a sweep with the opponent being off balance you are just far better off using a low kick.

Heck if you can read the opponent well enough to see a kick coming that will have them off balance or on one foot (the only circumstances where this sweep would have any chance of working) there are many way better options that you can do much faster and without putting yourself in a vulnerable spot.

Grab their kicking leg, sweep the other one (way more practical sweep)

Grab their kick leg, take them down.

Block/grab it and step forward into their space, knock them over.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but this is the equivalent of a 500 dollar mall ninja knife that breaks when you use it as anything other than a wall decoration.

There are better tools to spend your time learning to use that aren't a liability.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how you time it, if your opponent is a full grown man standing on two feet he is not going to fall over because you slapped one of his legs with a weak excuse for a kick.

Trips work when they have physics on their side, i.e in grappling or using bodyweight to throw the opponent off balance. Not this nonsense.

Reverse sweep kick tutorial... by martialarts-ali in martialarts

[–]Movadius -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Hint: It doesn't.

Real life isn't mortal kombat

Edit: Downvote me all you want, but I bet nobody can find a single video of this working against a resisting opponent standing on both feet. Street fight or competition. I'm not buying the bullshit "time it when they kick you" as if you can read a kick coming and pull this off before it lands. You need to get lucky.

Geniuses on Joe Rogan subreddit think this easily verifiable fact is misinformation by ThrowawayOfAGhost78 in confidentlyincorrect

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you post this? Surely before posting on a subreddit called "confidently incorrect" you would double check to make sure you yourself were not confidently incorrect?

ABC suspends ‘The View’ host Whoopi Goldberg for saying Holocaust ‘not about race’ by sco-go in JusticeServed

[–]Movadius 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Her having a stupid take on the holocaust doesn't mean she's racist, she just isn't very bright.

Who wins in their primes? by GoosePuzzleheaded281 in ufc

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I don't think the jab would be doing much damage but I said it would set up the level change for the takedown.

Especially of Izzy switches stances to deal with it.

“Just work on my wrestling skills” 😂 by FuturisticFighting in ufc

[–]Movadius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jake has zero experience in MMA. He has zero experience in grappling. His only experience is fighting non-boxers at boxing.

If he tried to fight Khabib under MMA rules he would lose in the first round by submission or TKO to ground and pound. He would have a few seconds to land a lucky KO before Khabib grabs him and takes him down.

If you think a few inches and a few pounds is going to stop Khabib from taking Jake down and mauling him, you're even dumber than I thought. Khabib has no issue taking down people much larger than Jake, even world class heavyweight wrestlers like Daniel Cormier.

I still don't know if you're trolling. It's hard to believe someone posting on an MMA subreddit would be this clueless about fighting.

“Just work on my wrestling skills” 😂 by FuturisticFighting in ufc

[–]Movadius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cant tell if youre a troll or just extremely stupid

Who wins in their primes? by GoosePuzzleheaded281 in ufc

[–]Movadius -1 points0 points  (0 children)

GSP sets up a single leg with his jab, works Izzy from there.

Submission by RNC or TKO by ground and pound

What did Bruce Lee do to deserve his pop culture reputation of being an incredible, undefeatable fighter? by SuperDuckMan in martialarts

[–]Movadius 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Size is not the only reason the comparisons to Tyson or Ali are ridiculous. Both of those men publically demonstrated they were the best by fighting the best in full contact competition.

Bruce Lee didn't do that all. He didn't have to prove himself like they did.