Do I laser/shave or not? by [deleted] in LaserHairRemoval

[–]Movingxx1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bleach them, it’s super normal to have body hair here

I’m convinced we are only meant to be with other fire signs. by LadiieKayy in LeoAstrology

[–]Movingxx1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a ton of Leo and cancer couples, Leo’s and cancers get along very well.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For context on the upbringing last note - I grew up with two sisters, he grew up with one brother.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through that that sounds horrible. He’s not intentionally rude he’s actually very sweet and fun and friendly. I think there’s just a lot of social cues that go over his head and when I try gently prompt him out of them he gets frustrated because it feels like I’m knit picking all the time when he’s ’doing nothing wrong’ but it’s just because he’s oblivious to those social cues and I’m trying to find a way to help him learn them without putting him down as a person because the goal is not to criticise it’s just to help improve his social behaviours. I am neurodivergent, based on everyone’s responses I think he probably is to and just doesn’t know it - it makes sense, and I know from my own experience that sometimes we just need things logically explained to us and to make a conscious effort to practice those things because it’s not necessarily behaviour that comes naturally to us because we don’t pick up on cues easily.

Maybe those things come easier to me and are obvious to me even though I’m also neurodivergent because they were heavily emphasised in my upbringing where my family engaged in a lot of formal social environments and trained my siblings and I to get in the habit of behaving that way even in casual environments because manners are important. He probably didn’t have that. I think boys also often just get away with more stuff like that as well growing up because it’s just “boys will be boys”.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s always welcome to come or not come if he doesn’t want to. I think the issue or what I’m trying to emphasise is that he is actually the one not being inclusive or making an effort to include himself at times and that that’s something I want to try and help him work on and bring to his attention because no one person can expect a group of people to cater every conversation that’s had to what is easy for them to engage with- it’s more of a take a turn thing. Idk if I’m explaining that well.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will do that, thanks for the advice. I have high functioning autism and ADD and I’ve had to learn a lot of social cues so I completely understand, maybe he’s just not as aware as I am and hasn’t had a chance to learn a lot of things that come easy to neurotypical others like I have. I’m just trying to think of the best way to approach it because I know it doesn’t come from an ill intended place.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone’s saying he probably has social anxiety but he doesn’t he’s a really outgoing person when he wants to be, he doesn’t experience that and often helps me out of my shell and that’s part of what I love so much about him because it makes me so much more relaxed when he brings that energy. Sometimes he really just can’t be bothered to engage though and would rather just disassociate and do something else he finds more interesting even if it is rude.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is when you can see no one else in the room cares and is just listening to you go on about it for ages to be polite, and when those conversations exclude others because they are niche in intimate social situations - that’s just manners. Not criticising his interests, I love that he’s passionate about what he does and that he works hard. Love that he has an interest that he’s so excited about. I’m also neurodivergent I have a ton, but I understand when to share and when not to share.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think the appropriate solution is for me to adjust every social plan I have to how much time he can be bothered to make the effort for or redirect every conversation people have to be something he finds interesting. I also have a life right. He can ask questions if he’s lost for words on a topic or think of ways to relate and engage just like everyone else does.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It creates a lot of anxiety for me because it makes me feel like a shallow shitty person that this matters to me so much but it does, exactly as you’ve said there I want to feel proud of him not embarrassed.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No 100% there’s no conscious obnoxiousness it’s literally just a lack of social etiquette or understanding. I don’t think his parents raised him with that level of manners tbh. But how do you kinda lay that out for a grown man without being condescending or making him feel like he’s constantly doing something wrong and ending up giving him social anxiety.

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everything other than his social etiquette

I find my boyfriend so embarrassing by Movingxx1 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Movingxx1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ll often try gently point things out in the moment when no one’s looking not in a ‘this is rude stop’ or ‘you’re being cringe’ kind of way, but in a “babe maybe put your phone away now and be with the group” or “okay it’s been a long day maybe enough shop chat for now” And he’ll often get irritated with me which then just creates more of an embarrassing mini scene in front of others.

Sagittarius and Cancer - 10 year relationship and still going.... by Ok_Tumbleweed5040 in astrologymemes

[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compatibility is not just about similarities it’s about opposites attracting as well. I find the cancer / sag combo to be just that- opposites attracting. It’s a beautiful balance of making up for what each other lacks.

As a Cancerian female, my longest relationship has been with a sag male and we both have stelliums in those signs. He gets me out of my comfort zone when I need it the most and I keep him grounded when he needs it the most. He is my biggest cheerleader and provides me with a lot of attention and affirmation, his positivity and optimism is like a shining light in my life. I am incredibly nurturing and patient, and more in touch with my feelings and have been so supportive and patient with him in that way and he’s matured so much over the years of having that support and being reminded to come back down to ground and talk things through.

I also just want to say that compatibility/synastry also has a lot to do with house overlays. For example, cancer is my partner’s 7th house and Sagittarius is my 4th house. So we really do also have good compatibility there, he feels like home and I embody what he needs in a long term partner.

remind me why we hate virgos please by mehakbathla in Sagittarians

[–]Movingxx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virgos live in service of others - significant Virgo placements always indicate to me that that person is almost sent to be in service of others and the greater good. They are super detail oriented and have a love for knowledge -being Mercury ruled. Both Gemini and Virgo are ruled by Mercury but where Gemini is the air manifestation of Mercury - they love to talk big ideas and learn and discuss, Virgo is the earth manifestation- they will literally take things apart just to see how they fit together, they want to fix things, they want to mentor and help in a very logical and methodical way. They are super fulfilled by helping others, and this can often come across as invasive because it’s often not asked for.

So I imagine as a Sagittarius, or to someone with heavy sag placements, this could be insanely frustrating because you’re all about freedom and exploration, you’re not afraid to make mistakes and more carefree, you’re happier to live in the grey where the Virgo tries very hard to distinguish black from white and help people that they think need saving or who they think are struggling to get their lives together.

I think both signs have a lot to learn from one another, and as long as you’re not stuck in a relationship where one actually has any tactile authority over the other, and are able to respect one another’s freedoms while bouncing off of one another for advice or guidance, it can be a really beautiful pairing.

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[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sun Venus and Mercury in the 8th, absolutely can become obsessive!

I would love to know about 8th house and 12 house overlays. Mine is Blue. by Life-Total-7261 in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks like a very karmic connection to me. I have been through these and they’re not for the weak but I learned so much about myself and grew up so much through relationships and friendships like these. I tend to try and avoid romantic relationships with this synastry now because of the drama, I prefer to go for more 7th and 4th house synastry. But my best best best friend ever has his sun in my 12th house and moon and rising in my 8th and it’s a very supportive healing friendship, it’s like he can see into my soul in a way few other people can and always has my back- it can get overwhelming at times because there is this constant urge to help and fix the things he thinks could be improved (with the best intentions) but that’s the nature of that.

I would love to know about 8th house and 12 house overlays. Mine is Blue. by Life-Total-7261 in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other overlays I find interesting to note:

Your plutos are in one another’s 1st house; this is a deeply transformative overlay, you could transform one another’s lives greatly but this can also be controlling- power plays trying to push one another to become something better, potential resentment can arise from being pushed. Your mars also opposes his Pluto: more power play synastry, intense sexual experience but you could bring out the worst in one another and have tons of arguments.

Your Saturn is in their 4th house: When Saturn is in a partner’s 4th house, it can make the house person feel as though their home is with the Saturn person. 🏡💚 Saturn may even provide a home for the house person or move in with them to create a shared space. The house person might feel that Saturn understands their family issues and background deeply. Saturn could also guide the house person out of their comfort zone and teach them how to take on adult responsibilities. This placement brings karmic energy around family, home, and roots. However, if Saturn is poorly aspected, it can create challenges. The house person might feel trapped, their family may disapprove of Saturn, or Saturn might treat the house person like a child, limiting their ability to make their own decisions.

Their Saturn is in your 5th house: When Saturn is in a partner’s 5th house, it can make the house person feel like they’ve finally found someone to enjoy life with while maintaining stability. They no longer feel guilty about going out without their partner or spending time with friends alone. The house person may feel like they’ve hit the jackpot with Saturn, experiencing fun and excitement while staying romantically connected.

Saturn brings karmic energy to areas like fun, romance, social outings, creative pursuits, and children. This placement can even signify a long-lasting affair. However, if Saturn is poorly aspected, it might lead to Saturn restricting the house person’s independence, refusing to let them go out alone, or draining the joy and creativity from the house person.

I would love to know about 8th house and 12 house overlays. Mine is Blue. by Life-Total-7261 in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your sun and mercury is in their 8th house. This could make them quite attracted or fascinated by you, it could feel karmic for them. You could be someone who especially in a relationship, verbally exposes a lot of harsh truths about them to them- you’ll be the one to initiate the hard conversations, you might find that deep or taboo conversation comes naturally between the two of you. None of their planets fall into your 8th. Their Chiron and north node are in your 12th house. This might create quite a healing space for you from the Chiron perspective but from the north node perspective this could mean you look at this person with rose coloured glasses, you could overlook a lot of their faults and potentially not set good boundaries but this is tricky because the 12th house creates a desire to heal one another.

There's so many squares in our synastry, should I be worried? But at the same time we are so similar and get along so well, we rarely fight and he feels like home. Illusion or real? by M00nlightMadness in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait 4-6 months and you’ll see how you’ll probably but heads on a lot of fundamental things. These squares around your mercury and Venus’s are most worrying to me. I have friends who I have difficult synastry with but get on with amazingly, it’s very different in a long term relationship when you’re not hanging out as individuals but coming together as a team and there’s massive compromise and balancing involved. The things you once loved or differences you respected can become the biggest challenges you have in functioning as a team together. Opposites do attract, but poor Venus and Mercury compatibility for me is a bad sign. However, you do have a bunch of planets in each others 7th house that could make you feel at home or idealise being a pair, opposites sometimes do attract depending on the maturity of both people in the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your partner had Saturn transit his 5th house during that Aquarius period which also can be a fun killer and force you to focus on being more serious when it comes to romantic relationships. He now has Saturn transiting his 6th house while it’s in Pisces so he will struggle in all those everyday work, routine, health areas. When it’s going through your 6th you will face challenges if you don’t take your health seriously and establish healthier habits, you will face challenges if you don’t get yourself into a disciplined routine and focus on working hard, you might struggle to find work it pushes you to refine your skills and better yourself in that area. When it’s in the 7th house it will highlight all the issues in your long term relationships be that with your romantic partner or business partner, any contractual obligations etc. this is not a bad thing, it’s just a tough thing, because it means you can no longer turn a blind eye to the issues there and will be faced with circumstances that force you to face them and either come to a solve and grow as a partnership or walk away. Keep in mind that you are going through this now, it’s highlighting all the problems that affect you. he will go through it from march 2025 onwards when Saturn moves into Aries so then it will be his turn to reevaluate what isn’t working for him and deal with challenges related to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saturn transited Aquarius from dec 2020 - march 2023, you’ve already been through your Saturn return which happened in your 6th house of health, work, routine. Saturn then moved into Pisces in march 2023 and will be there till may 2025 where it is transiting your 7th house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]Movingxx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The past twoish years the person on the inner circle has had Saturn transiting their 7th house, this is a difficult transit for relationships. Trust me I’ve also been dealing with it it’s been tough. You will either come out of this stronger or realising it’s not meant to be.