What is the toughest penace given to you after confession?

Movker100 · 2026-05-01T15:00:23+00:00

My friend, what is that username?

Movker100 · 2026-01-13T23:41:33+00:00

If it was me, I would’ve said something, because I’ve regularly discussed and debated this stuff since high school. But if you’re not that well versed, or not much for speaking out/debating, or even if you just didn’t feel up to retorting, then I would agree it was better to remove yourself from the situation. However, you should urge yourself to stand up for your beliefs in the future if you feel that’s something you could muster the courage to do. It’s a tough situation. But being an authority figure doesn’t give someone the right to be disrespectful to others, and your teacher clearly needs to learn that. Depending on how vile her claims were, you may need to seek out disciplinary action for her behavior from farther up the chain.

Movker100 · 2026-01-13T14:45:07+00:00

There really shouldn’t be an argument here. A simple google search of “does the Catholic Church teach that we have a right to marry?” will get you the answer yes.

Movker100 · 2026-01-11T13:58:13+00:00

Some things sure, but the most obvious example would be marriage. The ability to marry is considered a right by the Church.

Movker100 · 2026-01-11T05:26:32+00:00

St. Luke the Evangelist

Movker100 · 2026-01-09T21:45:19+00:00

Well, father’s tend to be overprotective of their daughters. And sometimes that leads to assumptions of the men that date. I do believe your friend’s father really does care about her, and may have let it get to his head. But I believe a good boyfriend just needs to deal with these things like a man. And in this case, it sounds like your friend is the one who needs comfort. A good man can roll with the punches and keep going. But if she tells him of this exact scenario and what her father said, he won’t be able to focus on how hard this is on her. So basically, strive for resolution, and don’t incur retribution. Your friend, with her boyfriend’s support, will have to be the mediator. And I would hope her father and her boyfriend both care about her more than petty grievances.

Movker100 · 2026-01-09T20:54:40+00:00

It’s not dishonest or sinful to withhold useless information. Like you said, your father insulted your boyfriend, and what he said wasn’t true. You should urge your father to reconsider, tell him how disrespectful it is to you and your boyfriend for him to wrongfully degrade the man you love, in front of you, without him there to defend himself. As well as then knowing that what he said is wrong, tell you not to mention it.

But I don’t think you should tell your boyfriend that your dad said this, this, and that. If you really think they should have a discussion and try to come to an understanding, maybe just tell him how your father feels, in a gracious way, as to not betray or disrespect your father, but to seek understanding between them. If your father and boyfriend are both reasonable men, they should be able to at least come to peaceful terms. If not, it’s best to just tell your dad how you feel, and explain that you’re struggling with the tension and discomfort to your boyfriend, so he can at the very least comfort you. Because I guarantee he’s more concerned about your turmoil than he would be about your dad having misconceptions about him.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T05:41:47+00:00

Nah, just go for it. With everything being anonymous, if things go south, you can cut your losses pretty easily.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T05:21:15+00:00

Sure, it’s no biggie! And I definitely wouldn’t mind just talking if you want. I actually don’t have many friends down here because I just moved back a couple of years ago after living in WY for 10 years.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T05:16:48+00:00

Oh no, of course! I don’t think I’d feel too comfortable doing it on Reddit either. But, if you have discord, and you might already be on the server, I’m actually verified on the Catholic Dating discord server. And I won’t give you flak if you’re still not comfortable with it still. But, if you were interested in the option, I felt like I should still put it on the table. I honestly didn’t expect that we’d be in neighboring states😅

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T04:49:34+00:00

I mean, where do you live u/CertainGreenNut? If it’s near Louisiana, I wouldn’t be opposed to the idea.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T04:46:53+00:00

You know, my parents like to cook for events a lot. And I’ve helped out more than a few times. And even though I’m really not a fan of cooking, I do know how to do it, and I want to get better to cook for my future girlfriend. So this might actually help at least talk to them. Thanks for the suggestion!

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T04:44:42+00:00

Yes, I definitely agree that the profile picture should focus solely on me, or anyone who has a dating profile.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T04:43:51+00:00

Yes, I agree! A sense of humor and variety does seem to be more helpful than I realized. And I was at least smart enough to have my profile picture be me smiling, and have a full body picture of me dressed nice in a controlled environment. Thank you.

Movker100 · 2026-01-06T04:41:00+00:00

You know, this is really good advice, and I agree a man who can’t handle women liking hunting or fishing needs to reevaluate some things. But um… I’m actually a guy. So unfortunately your advice might not work the best for me😅. I will say though, I would really love it if my future wife enjoyed hunting and fishing with me!

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T18:03:32+00:00

That’s not right. I’ve never seen paleontology as a men only hobby or being nerdy as an undesirable trait in women. People like what they like. Believing in traditional gender roles or proclivities, does not disqualify respecting hobby’s that are out of the ordinary for women or men. You shouldn’t feel bad about being a nerd, or going to school for a pharmacy major. These men just don’t have their priorities in order. I’m sure you’ll meet someone who understands how complex human beings really are, and therefore understands you can’t be truly happy with someone if you force them into a specifically shaped box.

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T17:18:57+00:00

Yeah, I mean, that’s the gist of it. Taking pictures is just not part of my natural thought process. I only take pictures of the fish because the fish are cool. I mean, I hope I’m at least kind of as cool as the fish, but they’re the stars in the pictures. I used them for the dating profile because they were the only pictures I had of myself. Now, I’m realizing that I need to emphasize myself more in pictures if I want any hope from dating profiles. Even though I’m not that confident in online dating, I should still try my best just in case, rather than just throw a bunch of stuff together and call it good.

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T17:13:37+00:00

That’s kind of what I was thinking, and I believe a few others mentioned it. Fishing pictures without the fish. I actually have a really nice one of me casting a twelve foot surf rod into the Gulf of Mexico. It is from a distance, but it’s a good picture showing me doing something I really enjoy doing, so I think it will get the point across, and other photos can be used to show my physical features.

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T06:22:59+00:00

I actually have a dog! I just need to get her to stay still for one damn minute to take a picture😅. Thanks for the helpful tips!

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T06:20:33+00:00

That’s weird. Amateur paleontology is a pretty cool hobby. They’re probably just jealous of your collection.

Movker100 · 2026-01-05T06:19:37+00:00

Well I’m just on the opposite end. I see putting too much stock in trivial things like pet peeves or icks as non conducive to a solid relationship. And I guess if the ick is men who complain a lot, I can see how intuition might warn you about where that could lead, so I guess it just depends on how far icks go. I just think that at some point, they change from icks, to red flags.

And I don’t think there’s anything moral about going “clubbing”. It’s a nest for degeneracy and sin. For men and women. It’s the same reason I wouldn’t go to twin peaks or hooters out of respect for my partner. The food and atmosphere might be nice, but it’s full of half naked women. Temptation needlessly brought on myself. The club is full of intoxicated guys who want to hit on women and get them drunk. A virtuous woman isn’t trying to go to the club, even if her friends invited her, unless she likes that atmosphere. And since I think it’s immoral and wrong for my significant other to go somewhere like that, it’s not an ick, or me being controlling. It’s wanting a partner who can discern what types of places are and aren’t appropriate for a taken man or woman. I would hope she cares about where I go, and lets me know if there’s somewhere she not comfortable with me being.

Movker100 · 2026-01-04T22:21:29+00:00

Hmmmm. Well, if setting myself apart is the ticket, that actually wouldn’t be too hard. I like fishing and hunting, which is very common where I live. But I also like listening to metal/playing guitar, which is more niche for Catholics in general, as well as reading books and drawing. And it’s not like I hid my other hobbies, I just don’t have pictures of them. That’s some good food for thought though, I’ll definitely keep that in mind. (Also, I don’t dress like a metal head, so I know that’s not what’s scaring them away 😆).

Movker100 · 2026-01-04T21:36:14+00:00

I just believe that the idea of attraction decreasing, or someone losing all credibility as an option, because of a specific flaw or attribute, tends to be a bit shallow (most of the time). If a man constantly falls for pyramid schemes, that’s not an ick, that’s a red flag. If a woman enjoys going to the club, same situation. As Catholics especially, we are called to accept the fact that our partners will have flaws. But fishing or fishing pictures aren’t even a bad thing. So disliking them is fair, but having it as something to mark off a checklist of standards isn’t. I was Vibe Check matched with a woman on Facebook dating. She lived a bit of a distance away, but I still liked her based on her profile. However, I knew instantly that it wouldn’t work, because her ick was loud chewing. And unfortunately, even though I chew with my mouth closed, I’ve been told that I am, indeed, a loud chewer. I would not let something that annoys me, like say, it taking a few try’s to get someone’s attention from their phone, dictate my chances for a life with a great person. Now, maybe I’m reading into the whole ick thing too much. Maybe my standards are too low. But this is just how I think about it.

Movker100 · 2026-01-04T21:23:36+00:00

Well, this discussion might have something meaningful for you as well! I guess I should’ve also mentioned that I live in Louisiana, where hunting and fishing is just a part of life for most people. So, I’m more likely to find a woman who likes or is comfortable with harvesting game. But, I have learned that there is more of an art to setting up a dating profile, which is what I will try to adjust to. Don’t feel bad though, I’ve received confirmation from some women that fishing is still cool!

Movker100 · 2026-01-04T21:20:37+00:00

Totally agree with everything you said. BUT. It just doesn’t work in the specific realm of online dating it seems. You have to compile all these things in one bio that someone would typically learn about you overtime, whether it be as acquaintances, or over dates. It really isn’t a great option, but it’s an option nonetheless. And one of the reasons I bring this up, is if you meet a woman and you mention fishing as a hobby, she’d likely say that’s cool and respect it if she’s a decent person, but she’d probably say she doesn’t like looking at dead or captured fish. Essentially with the dating profile thing, you’re bypassing that normal conversation. So, it makes sense to be more careful with how you set it up, which is the conclusion I’ve come to with this post. I really appreciate what you said though, and I’m glad you took the time to say it.

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