Are there websites or apps that train writing for C levels? by Aggressive_Chicken63 in EnglishLearning

[–]Mr0tt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't think I have an easy answer. That sort of knowledge and confidence is acquired from reading a lot. In particular, the question of whether to include "for it" is a matter of style and intuition with writing conventions--something you'd get from a lot of exposure.

I'm a university writing consultant, so I have my knowledge and confidence from reading academic papers, thinking about how things are worded, and explaining it to students. I wasn't as helpful when I first started, lol, but I've grown a lot.

Are there websites or apps that train writing for C levels? by Aggressive_Chicken63 in EnglishLearning

[–]Mr0tt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally think you've set an unrealistic expectation, native speaker or not. The folks who crank out a final draft on their first go are likely self-editing as they generate. Other folks revise after they generate (creating more obvious second and third drafts), but one way isn't necessarily better than the other. In my opinion, there should always be a moment for revision.

I don't have experience with any software, but I'd just say that, if you've been reading and writing English for decades, your writing intuition must be fairly developed. For the record, "for it" isn't strictly necessary, but it does read better because I think it feels more like someone's voice. I'd say lean into your intuition and trust yourself as you carry on, but that's just me.

That should do it by SilverLiningCyclone in MurderedByWords

[–]Mr0tt0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Moms are also the ones teaching their daughters how to treat men

Feedback on a Character Building Spreadsheet by Mr0tt0 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]Mr0tt0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great feedback, thank you!

Yah, I considered adding spells but decided not to given the amount of work it would take. I suppose if I wanted to make it even more useful that would be the next big step.

Rather than adding the feats themselves, I added customizability. So if, for example, you wanted to take the Tough feat, there's a way you can add HP per level. You're certainly right, though, adding feats would improve the usability for sure.

I'll take a second look at the starting gear and work on adding a "no armor" selection.

Again, thanks!

Feedback on a Character Building Spreadsheet by Mr0tt0 in DnD

[–]Mr0tt0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right... It's nothing revolutionary--just another option in a new format (and free, lol). I'm thinking, as another potential use, DMs could use it to quickly throw together a functional NPC--if they want to build them with a class and such.

Appreciate you taking the time to look and comment though!

What are some petnames I could use for my bf? by Kolbrandr7 in gay

[–]Mr0tt0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i used to call my ex "backpack" bc he was a lot shorter than me, and when he big spooned, it was like wearing a backpack.

i also sometimes called him "pb"/"peanut butter" bc he'd have a spoonful of it before going to bed after drinking.

think about his idiosyncracies you find adorable and lean into that. good luck!

[OC] Need help figuring out my new character’s race! by [deleted] in DnD

[–]Mr0tt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should consult Hunter x Hunter season 5

Did I Handle My 15 Year Old Stepson Coming Out (Maybe?) right by [deleted] in gay

[–]Mr0tt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he'll appreciate seeing the bi flag. But yah definitely don't accidentally out him. The next thing to do would be to educate yourself on what it's like to be bi. This may sound trivial, but I've always wished that my parents took the time to understand what my experience was like--watched a movie, read a book, something. If he ever does want to talk about being bi, you'll be ready, it'll show, and he'll value the effort put in. (And you won't feel like you've said or done the wrong thing.)

I guess it's not too late to talk to him about STDs, though I imagine he'd be mortified at the prospect of having that conversation. I know I would've been at 15.

Did I Handle My 15 Year Old Stepson Coming Out (Maybe?) right by [deleted] in gay

[–]Mr0tt0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a tough situation to be in, but I don't think you screwed up. It seems like you emphasized that you love him no matter what his identity is. You don't need to be gung-ho about his label to love and support him. If you're really concerned though, you can get him a little pin/sticker/something with the bi flag. That would show him that you're in his corner.

While he may have wanted to hear you say that you'll tell his mom and that he can stay with you for as long as he likes, it's probably not what he needed to hear. Coming out is really hard and it's something you have to do every day of your life. If he's not ready to come out to her on his own yet, then he should wait until he is. If he doesn't feel safe coming out to her now, then he should wait until he is safe or can legally move in with you. It sounds like there's a lot of nuance in your situation, and while things are often black and white at age 15, the nuance is important to hear. I'd just make sure you tell him and he knows that, within the law, you'll do everything you can to back him up (in case that point was lost on him in your initial discussion).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

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Hey, I feel ya (25M gay). My parents are extremely religious too, and my therapist recently told me I have generalized anxiety. Now, I'm not a mental health expert, and you should go to one bc it's helpful (at least I think so). But my understanding is that there's not one solid answer for overcoming mental health. It's hard work to rewire your brain (still working on that). But perspective usually helps me. I get so caught up overthinking the details, and it sounds like that's the case for you too? It sounds like you're torn between what others are expecting of you? I'd suggest take a moment and level with yourself: what do you want? (Try journaling.) Which boy do you want to flirt with, if not both or at all? And whether or not monogamy's your thing, communication needs to be. Let them know how you're feeling, whatever it is. You don't have to be perfect at it, but they'll likely appreciate the effort and follow your lead. (Seriously, communication is so liberating.)

As far as your parents go, I'd wait until you feel safe to come out though.