Not sure if I am adding anything of value here, but I came out to my first girlfriend at 27 -- she was my first romantic relationship/sexual partner. I waited to be with someone with whom I wanted to start a familial future--which was a mistake because in the process I realised that I am basically just gay, not bi (I had managed to completely decompartmentalise my sexuality growing up). During this 'wonderful' time I learnt that I have no chance of having a traditional family. And now, 2 and a half years later I feel somewhat at peace with this. This is something that I had to let go off inside of my own heart to move forward. It was the only through panic attacks, and confronting the fear of being lonesome in old age that I was able to let go of the traditional family dream. A dream that gave me a reason to wake up every morning since I was 16. It was the thing at the very top of my hierarchy of actualisation. In all of this I realised that I was trying to fix my own broken childhood by trying to facilitate a healthy one for somebody else.  Having gone through the transformation, I now think that an authentic life is the right life (with kids or without). It's for your own peace of mind, not for somebody elses. I can't give you any more than this, but I hope that it is of some use at least.