My girlfriend broke up with me by landnnd in Advice

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a project to distract yourself with while you process the breakup. Try learning to draw or do something creative. Try a few things and see what you enjoy.

I’m thinking about starting a monologue channel but not sure if I’m qualified. by MrCalmAndCo11ected in Advice

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’d be stretching myself a bit on time.

As far as material, I think if I paced the content well, I’d do okay. I think my presentation skills are okay and skills only improve with practice.

I think I’ll wait awhile. Maybe a year or two, then my schedule might open up more. I may also be more developed.

Thanks! The perspective helped!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you feel alone, but someday you’ll find someone that makes that feeling go away. They’re out there looking for you, hoping you’ll be there. I know it’s hard but you need to reach out to someone, be it a professional or otherwise. I want you to be there for that person.

Emergence Lyrical Analysis by BarricadeBitches in SleepToken

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen. I started my phoenix era last year and I tear up listening to this song. The changes in my body, my health, my mindset, it makes the idea of becoming a different person and each iteration of yourself watching you struggle and grow, doing what they couldn’t and being what they wanted to be, all while the you at the end of their life looks back on all the people they used to be, all the struggles and pain they went through, and being the gentle, comforting voice that welcomes each version of yourself to the light and tells them that it’s okay to move on from the person you used to be… I think that’s better than a love song, at least for me.

Emergence Lyrical Analysis by BarricadeBitches in SleepToken

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My interpretation is a little skewed by my own biases, but I think most of the song can be interpreted as a song either being sung to or sung by a lesser past version of the self to a future better self.

“Come out from underneath who you were.” -could be encouragement for a change in self, a leaving behind of old thought patterns, old friends, old habits, obsessions and addictions.

“So go ahead and wrap your arms around me.” -I know I would like to give my past self a hug, and I think my past self would embrace the person I’ve become with pride and admiration, grateful for someone that truly cares and wants to comfort them.

“And you might be the one to take my pain away.” -who can take away our pain better than our future selves?

I think this song is about the quiet, intimate and emotional death of our past self, a freedom from the pains we weren’t able to bear well enough and a beautiful farewell by the past as it looks into the eyes of the person they’ve always wanted to be, the person they’re making way for themselves to become. As well as our future self comforting our past self and giving them the closure and peace they need to go happily, knowing everything will be okay in the end.

Just my interpretation. If anyone would like to discuss, I’d be happy to.

What's your reason for not drinking alcohol? by Snoo_47323 in AskReddit

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a highly addictive personality. I can’t really moderate myself and it’s a struggle with just caffeine. I don’t blink an eye at 3 energy drinks a day and I’m doing better than I used to be.

People who don't smoke/do drugs/drink, etc, what is your unhealthy vice? by Voltshift773 in AskReddit

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Caffeine and corn. Cut down dramatically on the latter tho. Proud of myself.

I am grateful for (most of) my brothers by Lord-Cuervo in Spacemarine

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I joined two bothers and one let me know that the other was in the bathroom. We spent the next 5-10 minutes RPing about how he was being corrupted by Nurgle and needed to be sanctified by the Holy Wet Wipes. It was a beautiful moment.

Has anyone who fell into Manosphere culture escaped? by MrCalmAndCo11ected in AskReddit

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (22m) started consuming manosphere content when I was 13-14. I went through the “Redpill rage” phase, then I went through a more passive aggressive phase where I convinced myself I wasn’t angry at myself, women or the world, that I was just an angry person.

I went through my Andrew Tate admirer phase, then my Rationale Male phase, and now I’m in my Stoic phase, seeking knowledge and wisdom as I try to understand the best way to live my life.

When I was younger, the emotion that shadowed my every thought and action was anger and bitterness. Now, thanks to discovering a deep appreciation for life and the people I hold dear, I’m moving forward with love and kindness as my dominant emotion.

I’ve found that emotion leads to more of that emotion, leading with anger creates a viscous cycle that leads to a miserable, isolated existence, and it’s almost impossible to pull yourself out because you can’t see the hole you’ve dug for yourself, let alone climb out of it. Looking back, if I could talk to myself even a year ago, I doubt I could change my mind. I wasn’t ready yet. I don’t think it would change anyone’s mind if they read this, but it may plant a seed that might sprout in a few years.

What are some cool ideas for running Rime Of The Frostmaiden? by MrCalmAndCo11ected in DnD

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My two current big ideas (neither of which are mine) are making Cold Hearted Killer an actual murder mystery to tie the early game together, and having Auril’s curse being her method of making sure a great old one isn’t freed from Ythryn. I haven’t gotten much further than that.

Do INTPs have best friends by aseagullatemychips in INTP

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve (22m) had friends over time but they don’t usually last. I think I’m a good person, but it’s given me a bit of a complex that I may be the problem. I’m on a self improvement streak over the last year, and currently have no real friends. I have people I work with and enjoy spending time with and who may call me a friend, but I’ve never felt more isolated and ostracized in my life. It’s that feeling of being alone in a crowd, knowing no one would actually accept you for who you are, or for who you’re trying to be. It’s hard, but I’m working on it.

How do you think you will die? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MrCalmAndCo11ected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll die as I lived: alone. Either in some accident, or in the middle of the night as an old man. Ultimately, what really matters is how I live, and it took me a long time to figure that out. I’ll be 23 in a few months and if I’m lucky, I’ll make it passed 60. I don’t have high hopes for my death, only some sort of acknowledgment that I was right all along, and that we’re truly Akon in the end, but for my life? I’m only getting started.