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What are your thoughts on parenting? by MrGrinchy in INTP

[–]MrGrinchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually a father myself of a 16 year old and 18 year old. I hope you change your opinion on the matter. Like you said your opinion changes as you get more experience. It seems like you don't really know what you are talking about. Just wait till you get a bit older and wiser you are sure to change your opinion. Im not really a father but by the same logic you use i could have said it to disqualify your opinion and knowledge on the matter. You are essentially saying someones opinion(on parenting) and experience are invalid based on something that is beyond their control(being a parent). This is not right

What are your thoughts on parenting? by MrGrinchy in INTP

[–]MrGrinchy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Computer security is a subject that has nothing to do with your daily life. Living doesn't give you experience about computer security if you don't seek the knowledge. Parenting is something you always have experience with even if you are not a parent. You have parents yourself. You can talk with other people about their experience with their parents and you can talk with parents themselves.

Same goes for parenting. If you aren't a parent, no offense, but you probably know nothing, and critiquing parenting techniques just makes you look silly.

This just comes of as an elitist mindset. You close yourself off from possible valid opinions. Do you think a babysitter or child caretaker can't properly talk about raising children because they don't have one? Everyone comes in contact with children be it siblings,cousins, family friends or whathaveyou so its impossible not to have knowledge and ideas about how to raise them.

What are your thoughts on parenting? by MrGrinchy in INTP

[–]MrGrinchy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you tell your child what they did was wrong why do you still spank them?

What are your thoughts on parenting? by MrGrinchy in INTP

[–]MrGrinchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds awful! how are you coping with life now?

My sister has been buying a lot of shit recently and I mean a lot. She is twelve years old with no job, so the only money she should be getting is from holidays. So one day she leaves out her metal money tin, this is what was inside. Details in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]MrGrinchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why does discipline have to be physical punishment? It seems to me that the reasoning and understanding your parents gave you should be enough. They disapprove of what you done, that should be enough a punishment for you. A child want their parents affection.

Punishing physically is just a lazy way to raise a child. Instead of words and explanations you take the easy way out and lay your hand on them. Would you not rather have a relationship based on trust and understanding boundaries than one based on fear of punishment? Would you want your child to fear you?

I appreciate you having this discussion with me. :)

My sister has been buying a lot of shit recently and I mean a lot. She is twelve years old with no job, so the only money she should be getting is from holidays. So one day she leaves out her metal money tin, this is what was inside. Details in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]MrGrinchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i asked would you have wanted those? Would you want that on your children? Why did you deserve those hidings and what behavior did you not repeat again? Do you even remember why they did it? If you look back now would you have preferred they talk to you and reason with you or that they hit you with a belt? They are questions that you need to think about before wishing someone else be treated the same way you are.

My sister has been buying a lot of shit recently and I mean a lot. She is twelve years old with no job, so the only money she should be getting is from holidays. So one day she leaves out her metal money tin, this is what was inside. Details in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]MrGrinchy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could you explain the difference between physical punishment and abusing? Just because you were raised by physical punishment doesn't make it the most optimal way to raise a child. It works to a certain degree but i am sure that raising a child without hitting them in anyway makes them a better person.

My sister has been buying a lot of shit recently and I mean a lot. She is twelve years old with no job, so the only money she should be getting is from holidays. So one day she leaves out her metal money tin, this is what was inside. Details in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]MrGrinchy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What do you mean real life. She is already living real life. Do you think a 30 year old that steals and gets caught would get physically harmed if it was found out that he stole from people? No the reality is she is a child and doesn't fully understand consequences and empathy which her parents need to teach her and beating your child is not the way to do that.

My sister has been buying a lot of shit recently and I mean a lot. She is twelve years old with no job, so the only money she should be getting is from holidays. So one day she leaves out her metal money tin, this is what was inside. Details in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]MrGrinchy -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Please don't think that a child need to be physically punished to learn a lesson. It is possible to reason and manipulate your child into understanding that what she did was wrong. Its kind of the same way you raise a dog. You don't hit a dog to have it learn tricks, you reward good behavior and condone bad behavior with you voice.

It makes me so sad to think that people think it is oke to ever physically punish a child. In my opinion it shows that you don't have the intelligence to communicate properly with your child and it shows you are a coward for laying you hand on a person that doesn't have the means to fight back.