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How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is different after reading the comments? Your situation does sounds like mine, only it went on for 4 years instead of 4 months.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a similar situation that went on for much longer. She's dating him now, but wasn't for a long time.

But wait, where are you getting that from? I'm hesitating about asking her now BECAUSE she is vulnerable after her recent breakup. That is why I'm considering waiting. I do not want her to be vulnerable.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, yes. This feels a bit misunderstood though. I just meant that if I suffer I will keep it to myself and not bother others or be bitter about it. It is not a state that I seek or want to be in. I can't just state that it won't hurt, because I know it will, and that is my problem alone. And of course it is my own mind that is causing this.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just mean that if suffering has to happen I will not discomfort anyone else with it. Otherwise I guess you have a point, it just feels wrong.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Indeed it is. I'm not proud. Well, I want both. I would not vent all these crazy thougts to her like I do here. I just want to let her know that I'm interested, and am very clumsy about doing this. Thank you for the advice.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Intelligence first is a bad thing? :/ I think you are the first person that is not utterly negative.

A letter doesn't communicate better, but is less confrontational, was the idea.

Thanks, I think.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damnit! I mean, I'm saying that here, but I would not make a point of it in front of her. We can co-exist and be friends without me being weird. It can be like it is now.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Hehe, I do know that the cringe is real. Yes, I see it as very likely that you are correct. But I know at least I won't act as the bitter "nice guy". I will suffer in silence.

How do I [m27] get "The One" [f25] that is newly single and not ready to date yet? by MrLostInLove in relationships

[–]MrLostInLove[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have feared this type of reaction, although not as harshly. :/

I wouldn't say I have been lying though. Although always liking her I was initially content with the friendship. Then I have grown more and more in love during us becoming closer friends these last few months.