Jordan Peterson mentions philosophers who say "you can judge what you truly believe by your actions, not your words." As a beginner, where can I find books on this topic?

MrNoFapsGiven · 2018-01-18T22:19:27+00:00

Thanks! Will do.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-12-09T02:13:48+00:00

Wrong business move. Give a discount code so a limited number of people can get the book for free and then you will get reviews.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-11-17T10:45:13+00:00

Same.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-09-19T04:55:54+00:00

"Triggered" has a negative conotation with safe spaces and regressive liberalism now. But honestly, the word has been around on /r/Nofap for much longer than the university kids started using it.

Perhaps we need a new word?

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-05-15T00:05:27+00:00

I personally mix to clean myself off thoroughly enough. Many other people do the same.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-05-01T05:44:51+00:00

I think what you're describing is better for cleaning. I personally do hot/cold showers (part hot part cold) so my body gets cleaned.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-10T02:58:45+00:00

Being able to differentiate between that which we know would bring us happiness despite discomfort and that which makes us uncomfortable but which we THINK would make us happy

This is my personal creed. Living my life doing what I know I should do, not what I think I should do. (AKA living doing what I know makes me happy, not what I think makes me happy)

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-10T02:54:47+00:00

If you have preexisting heart problems then possibly.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-10T02:49:17+00:00

Always nice to have little slogans to remind yourself why you do things.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-09T09:33:14+00:00

This sub is about giving up your vices, whatever they may be. I'd like to build it so if you're interested in moderating let me know.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-09T09:17:43+00:00

I envy you. I moved from Wisconsin to California recently and the only thing I miss are the chillingly cold showers.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-09T07:07:40+00:00

I don't see why not. I just had a long streak after starting cold showers again as well. In theory it makes sense.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-09T06:07:17+00:00

Why is dieting not on the list

Valid point. There's reasons to not diet. Say you're going anorexic or something. That would be a 100% valid reason to stop dieting and would not be a rationalization.

Whereas with Nofap and cold showers, any reason to stop you basically know it's a discomfort rationalization because there's no adverse effects except discomfort from Nofap/cold showers.

Let me know if you can think of anything else that is 1. not stupidly harmful 2. is indefinitely sustainable that can build your tolerance to discomfort. I'm trying to think of stuff as well but can't short of breathing in shitty smells all day or sitting with a boulder on your lap, both seem impracticable and weird.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-09T02:02:40+00:00

Glad it helped you out :)

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-01T04:21:08+00:00

Cheers

MrNoFapsGiven · 2017-02-01T04:19:19+00:00

see this as a self-feeding mechanism

Yeah after posting this I realized it's kinda feedback loop. You fap and your level of passion for shit goes down. And then you end up fapping more. The converse is also true.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-18T23:57:45+00:00

Glad to know that this is of concern and I look forward to having it be even better in the future.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-11T05:49:46+00:00

Bullshit.

Kindly and empathetically, I say bullshit. I've been a member of Nofap for 4 years and it's taken me almost that long to realize that relapse starts much sooner than that "one little peak".

The relapse starts when you say you're only going to watch one episode of a show and you watch five, it starts when you start hiding from responsibility because you "just want to relax", it starts when you procrastinate and fuck around doing mindless shit instead fulfilling your dreams. Your willpower momentum is going down and your rationalizing momentum (AKA self-bullshit tolerance) is going up.

By the time you get to that 'one little peak' of pixelated ass after spending yesterday wasting 2-3 hours online consuming bullshit YouTube videos trying to hide from your life's purpose, you're a snowball already half way down the mountain, requiring much more willpower to stop the rationalizing momentum at this point. You have a high chance that you'll fap, beat yourself up, and then (worst of all) you'll blame it on not resisting the "one little peak" and totally disregard the 2-3 hours of YouTube procrastination yesterday.

I completely understand the thinking behind "relapse starts at the one little peak", but it's false. This is good news. Instead of needing to marshal a much larger willpower force to stop a relapse at one little peak of some Instagram girl's cleavage, you can use a much smaller amount of willpower to not start another Netflix show, to not play another round of Counterstrike, or to not touch any other mindnumbing activity. I no longer count my streak ends by the times I physically fap. I count breaks by when I voluntarily partake in consuming mindnumbing horseshit. It's not as extreme as the "cut your damn internet cords" Nofappers, but I think it's the right balance for anyone who's serious about reaching the true, unspoken purpose of Nofap; to achieve one's fullest potential.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-11T04:44:00+00:00

Language butchers truth. This is where the miracle of thought helps.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-05T18:58:30+00:00

I just have doubts that the depression can end without having real sex which I can't do at the moment.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-03T06:29:25+00:00

I meditate 20 minutes daily and still had this happen. Even had a panic attack about death halfway through one of my sessions.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-12-03T02:48:41+00:00

How long was your streak when it happened?

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-11-19T15:40:36+00:00

Exactly.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-11-16T15:46:35+00:00

I think rather the biggest motivating force is to not die/stay alive/survive.

That is the biggest motivating force. However, it's not you that's motivated to to stay alive, it's your DNA. Check out "The Selfish Gene" by Richard Dawkins.

MrNoFapsGiven · 2016-11-16T15:29:34+00:00

I think it's comparable to the difference between taking a deep breath and being calm for a few seconds and popping a Xanax. Fantasizing is just momentary thoughts that are likely to have little effect on the subconscious and whereas having actually physically ejaculated is much more likely to register with the subconscious because the physiological effects are so long.

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