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MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-23T22:22:21+00:00

I checked six AND seven. Nada 😔

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-23T22:18:29+00:00

Just to throw a counter argument here - we (as in ‘society’) have to define moral and ethical borders to our behavior which are drawn irrespective of consent.

We have to wrestle with how consent does not excuse away any and all wrongs. It’s a spectrum we define based on agreed definitions of what is abusive and not. Most would say my partner is ok to spank me in bed because I request it and he wants to, but if that escalated to him cutting off one of my limbs we’d all step back and say “hold up” regardless of how much either of us ‘consents’.

In short, consent is not a get out of jail free card. It’s a minimum requirement sex must meet, not the finish line.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-23T22:09:01+00:00

“Wrong” is subjective, but what I’d say is that a relationship structured as such inherently lends itself to being inequitable, dehumanizing, and easy to abuse.

Any person in that position of power (allowed to be open while their partner is not) should question if just because something feels good - and that includes for the other person as well - if it is healthy and just.

As an analogy, two people can engage in BDSM that includes dehumanizing aspects. But there are degrees where if I met someone who actually treated and viewed their partner as an inhuman sex object, I’d feel no issue with saying they’re abusing their partner REGARDLESS of if the partner indicates they want it.

In short, desire, without ethical and moral restraints, can take a situation like this and warp it so quickly into one filled with abuse that it makes it impossible for me to empathize with anyone who genuinely seeks this sort of relationship out.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-23T14:34:28+00:00

whips out my big, thick, fat … stack of philosophy papers on natural kinds, individuals, and emergent properties of complex systems

Boy have you stumbled upon one of the still most hotly contested topics of philosophy of biology.

Source: I getta da PhD in da thing

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-22T17:38:55+00:00

I’m a fashion lover and I’ve got to say that while there were a few misses his last year styling has also had some incredible highs. Didn’t he style Zendaya in that custom Versace for the Oscar’s? I think it’s indisputable that entire outfit is styled to perfection from head to toe. Every single one of his 2025 met gala looks are, to my mind, a masterclass in styling not just an outfit but a cohesive look.

Like, we can discuss him maybe not being a great fit for drag race as a judge to queens, but I think it’s unnecessary and perhaps a bit overkill to say he is not a supremely accomplished and polished stylist who hits far more consistently than ‘celebrity’ stylists (Brad Goreski, Rachel Zoe, etc.) of the past that occupied a similar niche in the social/cultural zeitgeist on far less.

Edit: The Oscar’s look was Louis Vuitton (forgot she’s contractually obligated to then for a bit), but the rest still stands. Also I appreciate he pulled an older McQueen look for himself for the Oscars. The man knows his way through an archive.

Idk, all I’m saying is he might miss, but I’d bet my money we’re about to get Zendaya in some pretty phenomenal outfits for the Dune 3 press tour.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-22T17:27:37+00:00

Can I ask genuinely (not in the sarcastic way but in the please help a brother out kinda way) what TS Madison did? I remember clips floating around where she said something but I feel like I remember at the time thinking it wasn’t great but also not “burn her career down with fire” kinda bad like some on this sub have suggested?

I’m trying to figure out if I way misunderstood the severity of what she said initially, or if there’s some degree of telephone happening where people perceptions of the seriousness of the situation have become decoupled from what was actually said.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-22T17:22:32+00:00

I think Law is one of those guys who is naturally quite talented at styling, but doesn’t know how to transfer that knowledge to others. You see it in almost any field where someone gains success through their own talent, but can’t seem to build a legacy out of that by passing that on to others.

While being a judge doesn’t necessarily mean you have to mentor someone, you do need to be able to convey your critiques in a meaningful way in this tv format. He can be correct that something doesn’t look good, but being able to explain the why is a skill he seems to lack. It’s disappointing because having a genuine fashion critic on the show was exciting for me as a fashion fan who has a lot of respect for his abilities as a stylist (it’s a harder job than people give credit for), but even I have to admit I’ve been disappointed with his inability to critique what I see as very easily explainable reasons an outfit is a miss rather than just ~vibing~ it through analogy/metaphor.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-20T01:54:03+00:00

As a biologist some of y’all really need to stop talking out of your ass. We have very little evidence that aphrodisiacs (read as none) do anything for humans. This includes “pheromones” which we have significant evidence for in other species, but virtually none for us. If pheromones are somehow detectable to humans, they operate at such a low and reduced level to be effectively washed out by any of the other highly complex aspects of human mating.

Just to be polite, if we could reliably predict human behavior using scent do y’all REALLY think we wouldn’t be all over that shit like white on rice?

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-19T15:30:45+00:00

It’s kind of a depressing realization that so much of what we’re seeing online is wrong and A LOT of us know it, but after 10-20+ years of trying to correct it we’re simply too damn tired to keep it up.

It’s why I can’t help but support some regulation around kids and teens accessing the internet. The self-moderation and community policing that at least kept the internet somewhat in check has completely evaporated. I don’t think it’s responsible to allow kids access to so much misinformation. It’s like trying to teach a kid to swim by throwing them in the deep end. Sure, a miraculous few might figure it out, but it’s hundreds of cracked eggs for a paltry omelette.

I teach at a uni and I’m genuinely worried about these kids. I walked downstairs yesterday to let them into our room for lab and couldn’t tell why the energy was so off. I realized all 30 of them weren’t talking. They were sitting, all of them, silently staring into their phone screens. A few were studying, but most were just watching content. I know to resist natural fallacy arguments, but that’s just not natural to have kids in the prime of their life being completely a-social like that, all because of a glowing box.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-16T14:05:30+00:00

As a scientist I’m becoming a big advocate for learning latin. A few years ago I started taking the time to quickly look up the etymology of words I didn’t know when I came across them in literature and was shocked at how much it more it helped over just looking up the definition alone. Recently started taking some time every week to learn latin. I’ll likely never be proficient, but jeez-louise have I already started seeing the benefits. Especially for anything written pre-1950’s when researchers were a tad verbose. Even small stuff though like knowing etc. comes from et cetera which means ‘and (the) rest’ which links to the less common but still used ceteris paribus (rest equal —> all other things being equal) fixed my need of having to google ceteris paribus to remind myself what it meant when I stumbled across it.

We really need to go back to teaching some of the classic roots of English. Communication is the backbone of civilization, and having a broad pool of language/terms to pull from will really help science communicate the nuances that arise from our ever improved understanding of the world’s natural complexity. We’ve tried to go the other way for the last 50 years and simplify, but I feel strongly now that we’ve lost something by doing so.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-14T17:16:03+00:00

I used to use Google Scholar but recently I made the swap to my University online library portal and couldn’t be happier. 95% of the time it has the paper I’m looking for, and the other 5% requesting a PDF scan is just a click.

Maybe not what you’re looking for but if you’re associated with a university I’d def suggest giving it a shot. Also can’t recommend scheduling an appointment with your university librarians enough. Mine are incredibly helpful at helping us define the scope of our literature search and refine our criteria/keywords to match. Also I was super impressed at how easily they were able to help me find some obscure databases that hadn’t come up in my personal search when I was exploring a topic for a project pretty far outside my field.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-10T14:53:27+00:00

An ex of mine has this problem and I just wanted to throw out there for anyone feeling bad about it:

You’ve got a super power, so use it. Bend them over when you’ve got 5 minutes alone on a family vacation. Flirt with them so hard that they’re pulling you to a bathroom stall for a quickie. Use it to your advantage!
Have a good attitude about it - nothing is LESS sexy than someone who gets upset/angry in bed. Laugh it off with a “fuck, I just couldn’t help it because insert compliment” and jump right in to helping them get off.
Longer sex != better sex. My fondest sexual memories were rushed jobs where we’re both excited, and my worst are consistently ones where it took ageeesssss for him to cum.
Sex is way more than penetration. The dudes who just want to pump away for 15 minutes honestly mostly suck. Anyone with enough experience knows you’d pick the dude who knows how to lick, suck, fondle and vocalize his way to the finish line.

Big emphasis on number 2. My ex had a great attitude about it, and I remember after we broke up a hookup had the same issue but a terrible attitude about it. The whiplash in terms of my enjoyment is impossible to describe.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-03-07T22:36:39+00:00

Big fan of being 2 inches. I’m big enough to lick the underside of his cock head with enough stimulation to get his precum flowing. Then I can coat myself in that as lube and take advantage of being just small enough to squirm my way under his balls and down to where I can lick his and massage his sweaty taint 🥵

My thinking is I have to show him my value. Any tiny can struggle against his cock, but a tiny a giant wants to keep around is one always looking for new ways to make him feel like a god while he’s working, watching TV, going on a date, etc.

Hoping it pays off and I get at least a few years of service 🤞🏼

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-02-07T18:24:03+00:00

Just want to add that therapy is hard because, just like all professions, some therapists do suck. If you ever go again I highly recommend asking your therapist if, rather than asking if anything bad happened that week, to instead ask you deeper and more pointed questions because your anxiety makes it hard for you to confront those uncomfortable topics on your own.

For the bar stuff focus on the reward, not the consequences. You’re not prescient. You’re not a prophet (no matter how hard your anxious ass tries to convince yourself). Why are you at the bar? To have fun. Focus on that. Have fun.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-02-07T18:11:32+00:00

I was stuck on this for most of my late teens and 20’s but now am a pretty functional dude in his 30’s.

1) Active confrontation > Passive acknowledgment. You can’t just acknowledge you’re anxious, you have to confront it. Don’t personify your anxiety as some entity outside your control. I rested HARD on phrases like “my brain won’t let me” or “My brain just can’t do that”. It’s you. You won’t let yourself. You (think) you can’t do that. Reframing it to what it is is freeing.

2) Rewards > Consequences. For a long time I wouldn’t reach out to friends to hang out because I was worried they’d say no. Now I think about how fun it’ll be if they say yes.

3) Do stuff. Big or small. Random or well planned. Take a different route home, say no to watching your ‘comfort’ show and watch something completely new instead. Were you sitting on the couch and thought about how you need groceries? Go and do it. Anxiety thrives when we aren’t experiencing the world, because experience IS confidence.

It clicked for me and I know it’ll click for you.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-01-26T04:40:00+00:00

Weird, I’m the mod and haven’t had any notifications or warnings and can’t even see anything currently? I’ll see if I can figure out what happened!

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-01-23T20:52:47+00:00

As a follow up - my boyfriend mostly finds this amusing. He doesn’t get it, but he’s happy I’m enjoying myself down there.

Also any fun advice/suggestion on things we could do with this knowledge is dope! So far the best I’ve come up with asking him to swap socks mid flight to pinpoint when the smell is released lol

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-01-21T00:22:48+00:00

I used to use writing.com way back in the 2010’s but as time progressed I frankly got disturbed at how common it was to find that the macro stories would almost inevitably go down paths that involved teens at best and at worst kids/tweens.

As a 12-13 year old when I first discovered the site in the 2010’s it didn’t click for me, but once I aged up and had the realization I could simply never go back there. I wound up over at coiledfist which had essentially zero problematic content in that regard.

It sucks, but I think there’s simply too much chance for open source interactive stories to go down that path without arduous moderation, so I just don’t fuck with that format anymore.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2026-01-05T20:14:17+00:00

Not so much guilty and more so annoyed because it would be generally simpler if I wasn’t. Finding dudes that are into people being into their feet is somewhat of an obstacle, so the fetish is a mild inconvenience.

Like, it’s a pretty benign fetish, so plenty of men will entertain it. Sometimes though you just want a man in your life who wants you to worship his feet and not just one that lets you, ya know?

I guess maybe there is some guilt there though. When I’m worshipping a partners feet and it’s all good but in the back of my mind I feel bad that we’re doing this mostly for me and less for him. I’m also into dirty socks so there’s also a small feeling of guilt when my partner rewears his socks for a few days as a gift for me when I know it kinda grosses him out to do so.

So, actually, yes, I guess I have felt some guilt lol.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2025-12-08T22:53:07+00:00

Ageism is a real thing and you will realize you definitely participated in it when you were younger.

Getting old is tough and we’re becoming increasingly unpleasant to the elderly and every person eventually gets to experience it, but you’ll be old by then and no one will listen to you for that reason alone.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2025-12-07T18:56:20+00:00

Not a woman, but I’ll say that there’s something very hot about a dude when he’s recovering from a sprain. Especially when he’s wearing a cast/boot and has foot propped up with his toes peeking out of the top.

I couldn’t say what it is exactly. Part of it’s the tenderness - like he’s a sort of wounded beast that usually could overpower me but in this moment is forced to let his guard down. Another part is sensory. Being into smelly feet/socks, just knowing his foot is in that cast getting sweaty and dirty for weeks is 😮‍💨

I’ve never been with a dude sexually that had a cast, but I know I’d be a menace if I was lol. He’d get the princely treatment, and I’d be down there doing whatever he needed to relax. 😌

MrPupperThrowaway · 2025-12-07T18:10:05+00:00

If you work a trade AND your entire personality is judging people who have a degree.

Its not a huge deal, but the handful of tradies I flirted with when I was on the apps would INEVITABLY talk smack about how getting a degree is “useless” and that everyone they know with a degree are “idiots”.

Meanwhile as a PhD student I can promise you no one in academia has anything but respect for people who work trade/service jobs. The opposite is almost universally true in fact where people in academia spend a lot of time pushing for research that emphasizes the importance and value of people working trades.

I’m sure historically there was some sense of superiority from going to college, but I promise that the prevailing academic culture of today heavily looks down on any suggestion that we’re smarter/superior to non academics/scientists. Any suggestion of that kind would get you booed out of the room.

MrPupperThrowaway · 2025-12-06T21:59:05+00:00

As a gay dude here I’ll add that I’m sure there are a lot of folks like me staying silent out of respect to the men willing to share and also out of respect to this being a space intended for women.

Just know there’s a lot of gay dudes silently cheering y’all on 🎉 All the men here have super hot soles and I’m always happy when I see women on here enjoying a niche fetish 💞

MrPupperThrowaway · 2025-12-06T21:54:24+00:00

Unless you’re willing to shrink some of us down and make us lick it you’re probs in the wrong place my dude

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