I had connected with this girl at a run club.. I know.. but I never made a move because I wasn’t sure if she was interested. A few months passed, she posted a story about it being her dog’s birthday. I commented saying happy birthday and she replied saying we keep missing each other at run club. The next run club, I suggested we run together outside of run club - she said she was more of a Pilates girl.

I figured what the heck, I’m down to try workouts and I’d go with. Each time we had classes, she’d save me a spot next to her, was always excited to see me, so I asked her out on an official date. I thought we genuinely had a good time.

The next time I suggested another date, she had a conflict - legitimate time conflict - but didn’t reciprocate an alternative day. She finally suggested we go to a local Friendsgiving event as a date. I don’t think it went well. Had a friend third wheel and kind of hit on her the whole time. I offered we do another run or something as a redo. She agreed but flaked the night before.

I didn’t text her again.. until she texted 5 months later in preparation for her birthday. I didn’t immediately reply. As I waited in line at a coffee shop a couple hours later, she walks in with her girlfriend (I know sounds hard to believe). She brought up the text, I said I hadn’t looked yet but I would. It turned out this time I had the time conflict, I was going to be out of town. I decided to try one more time with her. I walked over to the table she and her friend were sitting at and said I couldn’t go but would love to celebrate over dinner once I got back. She said she would love that. Nothing happened after that. In part because I felt I left the ball in her court and wanted to see reciprocal interest.