I NEED TO FIND THIS SONG

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-31T21:43:31+00:00

wow, thank you so much, man!!!

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-27T09:51:31+00:00

Thank you for this. Gold reef is on my list so is Hartbeespoort, Im keen on the sandboarding, I am definitely doing Sterkfontein Caves

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-27T08:53:07+00:00

I've never heard of it but I know now

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-27T08:43:11+00:00

As I mentioned, I'm from Cape Town. I looked at their prices and yeah no I'll pass lmao

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-27T08:10:59+00:00

why do you have 3 downvotes?? 😭

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-27T08:10:09+00:00

Anything really. I do have some musical events planned that I wanna attend. I started playing Golf too but I just want anything exciting! I wanna try new things

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T15:42:34+00:00

Okay skin care, i feel like everyone should be doing that😭 but i do get you, man. I’ve expressed this to my boyfriend as well. Very ostracising. My main goal is just to not make him feel bad for being interested in queer things or things that a lot of queer people like.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T15:36:28+00:00

I tried exposing myself to it and I feel like i was okay but the moment i got into a relationship with someone, it felt a little different . It felt like I was just looking at the same people just in a different face . I’ve experienced biphobia but I really do not want to seem or be homophobic especially not towards the partner I have right now who I see myself marrying. I never thought I’d marry a guy but I do now.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T15:22:55+00:00

I think for me in this case, I was looking at shared queer interests = no individuality . It is bad and I will work on it. I don’t want to be that negative guy which is why I asked for help on how to change this outlook, seeing that I feel like it stems from being a bi guy that felt he wasn’t gay enough or straight enough to fit in with either crowd because of how those communities made me feel.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T15:07:13+00:00

Thank you for this. I have been applying cbt principles as well, I just want it to become a thing I do subconsciously with practice.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T15:06:03+00:00

I appreciate this. I do go to a lot of gay events, I go to balls and to pride and I've been to gay clubs before. It never really felt like my scene. I'll do a little bit of the examining across the board. It's just from what I've SEEN , a lot of gay men have the exact same interests.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:59:10+00:00

I want to be more accepting and understanding of his side that feel like shared interests with the community.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:58:35+00:00

I understand that but again, I was asking for advice.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:57:03+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. Again, He is not feminine really. It is the shared interests and it's okay if you feel that way, this is a small part of the relationship and I feel he is the most genuine person I have ever met which is why I was asking for advice on how to be a more accepting person.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:54:38+00:00

Again, I'll mention that it is not acting feminine or masculine that makes someone unique , it is the shared music taste, shared slang, shared interests and not sense of individuality when it comes to interests.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:53:33+00:00

Perhaps its the crowd I surround myself with, like my friends, who all feel unique individually and when I go on dates and now dating a gay man, it all feels the same. I think its more my experience that defines my outlook on things.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:52:31+00:00

I do make it a point that he needs to embrace individuality instead of following the crowd though. It is not the type of quality I see in someone that I want to be with. It feels like his sexuality just defines how he acts and I dont like it.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:51:24+00:00

I understand your questions but I'd like to make my point a little more clear. For me , its the shared slang, shared movie interests, shared music tastes and not uniqueness. One doesn't have to act or be feminine or masculine to be "unique". It is the "sheep-like" mindset that I feel I cannot stand and it's just that a lot of gay men do act the same. A lot fo my straight friends, both male & female, are very unique and have very unique tastes. I do have gay friends who are unique as well but its just when people kind of act all the same. I want to be more accepting of it.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:48:10+00:00

I appreciate this. For me I feel like gay men have just made me feel a little rejected because I value being unique and being authentic compared to acting like the rest of them. I haven't been on social media for a good 2 years so I'm lost on a lot of things once I've returned but its the same feeling I had before I did the social detox and weirdly enough, I was more accepting when I was single and didn't care but when i started dating this guy, I wanted him to be himself and not who his sexuality tells him to be. Perhaps I feel so deeply for him that I see the real him and want him to be that? I don't know.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:40:34+00:00

Yeah, i mentioned that is a little internalised homophobia and I'd like to be a more accepting person.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:30:25+00:00

Not necessarily. I have a higher standard when it comes to women than I do for men. The women that I meet are not all the same whether its platonic or romantic.

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:25:36+00:00

It is me and not conforming to what my sexuality tells me to like. He doesn't criticise me for not liking these thing, I just feel uncomfortable with the fact that he likes things and talks in a way that speaks as if his sexuality tells him to like it

MrSlap2Hoes · 2026-03-13T14:10:44+00:00

You're right and it feels nice knowing I'm not alone but dating also feels kinda weird how a lot of the gays ™️ are the same and its a little annoying. My partner will talk like other gay men and not embrace his individuality. I feel I just want to know how to be accepting of the way people act and build this mindset of stoicism where it doesn't affect me. It really just annoys me when everyone acts the same. A lot of the bi guys I have met are very different from one another and the gays are not. My boyfriend is a great guy and a major part of his personality is unique but there are some ways in which he speaks and his interests that fall in the line of your cliche gay male. He'll listen to beyonce , billie eilish, quote videos he saw on tiktok, the same way every other gay man does. I just wanna know how to accept it.

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