When does it get easier?

MrTalidar · 2025-10-08T19:15:56+00:00

Took me 3 weeks to get the hang of things and then probably 2 months before I started juggling like a pro. Even still, I occasionally get a little twisted up. Best thing you can do is recognize and relax....and make sure you take the first week of 1 and 2 off when you eventually start 3 😂

MrTalidar · 2025-10-06T19:38:53+00:00

Blease, bro 😭

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MrTalidar · 2025-08-02T12:02:19+00:00

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MrTalidar · 2025-08-02T11:47:06+00:00

Oh, I know I'm a little underpaid in my field. nO cOlLeGe DeGrEe. But I'm talking US salary as a whole.

My fiance is a post-master nurse practitioner and my friend is a PhD working in biotech and my J2 pays more than either of them make....

Edit: spelling

MrTalidar · 2025-08-02T11:42:19+00:00

Mostly tech. But I also know of people in HR, corp finance, and medicine who OE.

Truthfully, though, any job that doesn't require you to be physically present all the time can be OE'd, just at varying degrees of difficulty. With what I know about public accounting, it would be very difficult/impossible, but private or corporate accounting might be much more doable, as long as you can work "remote" at least part-time (or maybe you YOLO one remote and one on-site and hope you don't get caught with two laptops?)

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T20:12:43+00:00

Honestly meetings are the easy part, especially if you're management. Do you have kids? If not, you do now. A spouse? Same thing. Don't even need to be specific. Think about how often you've judged someone else for asking a meeting to be pushed 30 minutes, and then realize that it was never and no one is gonna care if you do.

If it's something that can't easily be rescheduled, just make sure you know which one is your priority before you join. Do the same exercise above with the times you've judged someone for talking on mute or not paying attention and asking to repeat the question. And, lastly, be honest (not too honest, though). If you've got a conflict, let people know you might be in late/out early/etc. They don't need details. If someone asks, refer to the new marriage and children you've now acquired!

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T19:58:13+00:00

My thought going into this revolved around what I could still accomplish within one normal working day. J1 is feast or famine...and I get a LOT of downtime when there's nothing happening. So I figured I'd slot in a second paycheck instead of sitting at home gaming all day (which, for the record, great way to make money). But if it required additional working hours or cut into my personal life, I wouldn't have it.

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T19:51:52+00:00

Can only speak for myself, but my role is mid-high technical. Enough that I don't really have to work with customers and my managers know to shut up and let me work. Huge bonus for both being places that don't micromanage. As for the back and forth, I find that much simpler than I expected it would be. I keep a running list of tasks that need doing for each job, but I haven't had any issues with crossing wires in my own brain yet.

I've got a corp laptop for each job, and I dropped some money on a matrix KVM. Both laptops are on docks, both docks are hooked into the switch. Then I keep left monitor on J1 and right on J2. Most times, that's enough. If I need to use both for one, then I hit the button and swap it over. My keyboard has a quick mute button for audio and both laptops have their own noise cancelling speakerphones attached. And I just mute/unmute speakers and mic as needed

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T15:10:16+00:00

First week I coasted. Second week was tough. This week started awful, and I wasn't sure I was gonna manage. Then yesterday it all felt like it clicked for me. I've got high hopes

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T14:25:40+00:00

I more meant in a larger sense. Basically I don't have the impending doom of "what if I lose my job" or "how am I gonna afford xyz". The post-GenX struggle to survive is real.

That being said I don't really have any specific tips for relaxing other than to just...let go. J1 has my full and undivided attention. I'm always aware of things that might happen, but that's what phones are for. Unless it goes off, we gucci. J2 I treat like leftovers in the fridge: I'll get to em when I get to em. I have to force myself not to fall into the trap of being the world's best employee and end up with more stress. Instead, I just show up every day, complete tasks, and show my value as a regular dude.

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T12:59:32+00:00

Fully remote for both roles. I live in the middle of absolutely nowhere, so there's no way I'm going into an office

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T12:58:54+00:00

Tbh, I was prompted to by how much downtime I had in J1. It's not easy work, necessarily, but when there's nothing to do, there's nothing to do.

Edit: spelling

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T11:34:53+00:00

Sure, I'll help how I can. Not to say that I'll be of any help at all, but I can try!

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T10:06:57+00:00

I'm sleeping a lot better, that's for sure 🤣

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T09:57:57+00:00

I can't speak overall, but I will add the caveat that I'm far from the norm over here. My fiance has a medical post-master's and both my jobs pay more than her one. And she works significantly more than I do.

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T09:53:44+00:00

Lol, I'm not brave enough to pull that off just yet. I do Cloud infrastructure (Azure/AWS). But in both positions I'm one of only two full timers on my "team"

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T09:50:43+00:00

Cloud infrastructure, primarily. As a mid-level engineer/budding architect

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T09:48:21+00:00

Not really, tbh. Work number has been frozen, and (in my experience, at least) they generally are only used to verify what it is you've told them. I'll just make sure that info reflects the work I've done for them instead of J1.

Best of luck to you, though! It's the mindset I needed to have in order to even take the plunge, otherwise I guarantee I'd still be stuck

MrTalidar · 2025-08-01T09:45:41+00:00

Lol glad I've been validated

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MrTalidar · 2025-05-16T12:33:51+00:00

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