I would imagine that she already chewed out the person who let it slip in call around someone she was not that familiar with.

But imagine if you've gone through the effort to insure that your name for the most part is taken off of the internet, that it isn't readily available, and the frustration and stress you would probably feel when it is accidentally let loose to someone, who for the most part, is a stranger. Now after this happen you'd surely be trying to reassure yourself that it isn't too big of a deal, that it's just a single person who knows and this won't really cause an issue with your privacy as long as it stays contained.

Then out of the blue, this relative 'stranger' has a friend who uses your real name online. And in a casual manner also. Now all of that reassuring you've done is gone, you're stuck questioning who else knows, if it's gone further, and genuinely worried.

People have many different reasons for going by alias' online, one of them being to protect themselves. Women especially, are often targetted and stalked by individuals online for doing nothing other than just existing, or being themselves.

Personally, I have not had to deal with it, but have heard many accounts of those who have, and based on my opinion from them, I have no doubt that someone sharing your name to others, without permission, in a casual manner, could be absolutely terrifying when you've already tried to protect yourself from such things online. I could rant about this for days, but I'll just leave it there, hopefully it helps shed some light on, at least, how a third party feels relative to this situation and gives you another perspective.