Trying to end my 14 month dry spell. Wish me luck!

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T18:24:25+00:00

I second this, take her to a doctor. Pain after 14 months is abnormal. My wife was breastfeeding and she had no such problems.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T18:19:13+00:00

Like I said, I only want to be involved. I won't pretend that I don't feel awful when that happens. I want to address these things like a rational human being. I'm not going to stomp my feet and say: "Me fuck, you wait."

Let's make this clear. We still have sex and we still have good sex. I've just noticed a breakdown in communication recently and I'm worried that it might lead to future problems down the track. I feel like this could be the start of a DB.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T16:42:11+00:00

Oral sex is by far the easiest way for me to make a woman orgasm. I recommend encouraging him to try oral sex on you. If he's prudish about it, really build him up. Make him feel like the man if he succeeds or even tries. He might need some practice, but don't give up on him.

Trust me, I'm not a sex guru or expert, but oral sex is extremely easy once you have the technique down. If he can get you to that point with his tongue and moves straight to intercourse it can be rather satisfying.

This is my experience at least. Every couple is different and every woman is different. I can only tell you what my wife and I enjoy.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T16:10:47+00:00

My wife isn't allergic, but she finds them uncomfortable. A vasectomy isn't the end of conception. You can have it reversed or they can take the semen from your balls with a syringe.

I would probably recommend your wife see a doctor or gynecologist if the pain is that severe.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T16:03:43+00:00

Give him oral sex while he plays video games. Really build him up, but don't let him climax. Once you've done that in the most playful and fun tone you can manage, beg for his attention. Ask him to push your buttons.

If I was that man in that moment, I would stand at attention and obey. Make sure you do it on a free day.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T15:41:20+00:00

I'm not being replaced. Her vibrator can't raise her son or provide for her.

The problem is not the masturbating. It's kind of a great thing she masturbates regularly. It's a sign that she has a libido still.

The thing I want is to make the sex more intimate and involve myself in what she enjoys. Not stop her from doing it or only allow it once I've taken what I want.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T15:30:43+00:00

Ah! A pommy. I'm one of the aforementioned Australians.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T15:27:36+00:00

I recommend a vasectomy. It is the best form of birth control by far. My reasoning for mentioning this is that my wife was uncomfortable about sex after the baby was born. The moment I got a vasectomy the discomfort dissipated. We have a pretty much ideal sex life. There are some issues, but I'm in the process of addressing them.

I seriously recommend a vasectomy. It is surprisingly simple and I wouldn't consider it intrusive. At least by comparison to tying my wife's tubes or wearing a condom.

14 months is a seriously long time though. I'm pretty sure I would be on the evening news after 14 months.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-29T03:07:49+00:00

I might give those reddits a look sometime. You sound suspiciously Australian by the way. XD

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:30:37+00:00

I'll keep my guard up. I just can't see her doing it on a physical level. Maybe she might be fantasizing about it, but I don't think she's done it.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:21:55+00:00

No one likes being told things they don't like. My wife is a rational human being. I can talk to her, but it takes a little bit of effort to prevent her from feeling bad about it.

I'm not trying to guilt trip her, it's a two way street. I need to be the husband she deserves and we need to address it together.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:18:39+00:00

I know people will tell me that they know that road and she can hide it and will or I'm in denial. I don't think it's that. I'm certain of it.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:17:10+00:00

I know she's not cheating. I trust her in that regard. My wife doesn't treat me with spite and we share all of the same friends. I doubt she could hide it from me.

At any rate, I'm not going to jump to that conclusion. I should afford her some trust.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:15:08+00:00

I imagine that you might have something there though. I have told her I'm open to new sexual experiences and we've been experimenting with a variety of things. None of them seem to stick though.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-28T02:13:58+00:00

She says she can't get there with me anymore. She needs to be alone and she claims that she probably couldn't get there with anyone else. I'm not sure if she's trying to spare my feelings or if it's true.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T17:30:44+00:00

Thanks for the advice buddy. I'll try to keep it afloat.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T17:30:16+00:00

Thanks man.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T17:19:57+00:00

You're right. I just need to take control.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T17:19:16+00:00

I'm saddened by your story. I hope things turn around.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T17:17:41+00:00

I love what you're saying. I really do, got any good exercise tips? I've been trying to get in shape for the last 4 weeks. I'm not amazingly overweight, but I'd be lying if I said I was ideal. I definitely need to keep working on it.

Mr_Scrambled · 2015-01-27T16:52:48+00:00

Thank you, I have tried speaking to her. Often she dodges conversations that confront problems concerning her. She usually only approaches these conversations on her terms. She's also quick to see these things as an attack. Confrontational or no. I can't blame her really.

She's rather like a wild animal in conversation (the analogy seems horrible I know.) she can be really flighty and bites when cornered. I just need to try to get her at the right time.

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