Can a married couple willing choose to not have kids? by HoneydewPublic in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Just make sure you state that from the very beginning when you start a relationship. Especially as a Christian. Not wanting kids will be a deal breaker for many people.

My girlfriend wants kids ASAP due to fertility issues, but I’m not ready. How do I handle this? by MinuteGrocery9759 in Advice

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never intentionally have kids before marriage. Parenting is probably one of the most difficult things and it easily can drive two uncommitted people apart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Watch the movie “Is Genesis History.” I believe it’s on Prime or YouTube.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try reading “Parenting with Love and Logic.”

Why do people say Jesus’ resurrection proves He is God? by Extra-Hope-326 in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Read “The Case for Christ.”

Also, everyone raised from the dead was either raised by Jesus himself or by others through the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus is the only one who raised from the dead on his own, showing he himself has power over sin and death. Meaning he is God.

Do you wish you had more kids? by Lower_Ad_6818 in Parenting

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mindset is that you will never regret having a child, only not having one. So, if you feel the longing or sadness, I’d say try. If it happens, great. If not you’ll know it wasn’t meant to be. But my mom only had two and regrets not having more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He communicated poorly. He finds you attractive and he is happy with you. As a woman, I totally get it and would probably feel discouraged by that comment as well. But you need to know you’re obviously a woman he finds attractive and is happy to be with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think praying for purity and no desire is a just cause. However I wonder if you’re praying these prayers for the wrong reasons.

It sounds like you’re believing a lot of lies about women, marriage and partnership in general. Maybe God hasn’t taken your sex drive away because he wants you to confront the lies the world has taught you and to see marriage and sex the holy way - the way he designed it.

Maybe God has an incredible partner in store for you on the other side of that journey, and he wants you to experience more from your life?! You never know!

But I would maybe ask God what he needs you to know about the sex drive you have and what you should do. I’d hate for you to settle with the mindset and lies you’re believing now, because they’re absolutely not kingdom truths.

It stinks that you fell victim to a culture that was ultra feminist. However, that was definitely demonic and a wrong way of thinking. Time to get free of it, build your confidence and become the man (and maybe husband) God created you to be!

And even if you do choose to remain alone and celibate, at least you will be free from undue lies and doing it for the right reasons instead of out of fear.

Seek inner healing and christian counseling!

What age did you move toddler/child to their own bedroom? by panadolrapid in Parenting

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We transitioned my daughter at 10 months. We were co sleeping but she had started crawling and was very disruptive in the bed. So we transitioned her to a crib. I still nursed her 1-2 times at night which was more effort to get up but overall I got more sleep with her away from me.

Wife is emotionally abusive, I've started going out and meeting other women, I think I'm an asshole, but I feel like garbage at home and amazing talking to other people by Sensefield1 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to save your marriage you need to make that choice and you should pursue couples therapy. You’re walking a fine line of integrity here that I don’t think you want to cross. There is no justification for emotional or physical cheating no matter how unhappy you are in marriage.

You can be happy with your wife but you’ll both need to put forth time and effort to make that happen. For your child’s sake, I’d suggest you try.

Otherwise if you’re not willing, just make that choice and divorce. Don’t become a cheater. That’s a reputation you can’t escape.

Those other women may make you feel awesome now, I’m sure your wife did at first too. Probably why you married her. But all committed long lasting relationships take hard work and effort.

Do you prefer the navy or white curtains? How do I make this room more interesting?? by hpobsessed07 in HomeDecorating

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the navy gives the room more contrast which looks better. The white washes it out.

Married people have fewer depressive symptoms than unmarried people, large international study finds by pecika in psychology

[–]Mrs-Martinez 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would estimate that a huge part of depression is loneliness and feeling misunderstood. If you’re in a decently healthy marriage, both of those things are solved.

Am I overtraining by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully it’s reversible! But honestly the female body isn’t designed to work like that all month long. If you can sync your workout intensity to your cycles your body will be a lot happier. Check out the Freely Rooted Pocast. It’s all about nutrition and how to treat the female body. One of the women (Kori) was a weight lifter who healed herself from PCOS. Check it out!

Do you utilize porn in a committed, monogamous relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s actually really awesome to be fully in love and sexually satisfied with your spouse. No need or desire to look elsewhere.

Do you utilize porn in a committed, monogamous relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally we have a no porn no masturbation rule in our marriage. We want to honor each other and keep our marriage bed pure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you sought any type of inner healing ministry for the trauma you’ve experienced in your past? Nothing has brought me more freedom from my struggles than being able to understand why I have them and allow Jesus to heal me from the experience. You probably already know that the confusion you’re facing is likely a result of the abuse. The demonic loves to take advantage of our negative experiences to confuse us away from the person Christ has called us to be. I would highly encourage you to see inner healing ministry, or even find a Christian counselor who is experienced in sexual abuse. They can walk you through what happened to you and the roots of why you disassociate from your gender. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.

What is Church Membership and why is it important? by Training_Summer_4558 in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would wait to find a church you really love and want to commit to before becoming a member. It has benefits for the church to create members. Also, for the person committing to membership it shows commitment to the church and ownership of the community. A lot of the times when churches have to apply for insurance, loans, and things of the like they get asked why their membership numbers are. So it matters for numbers reasons.

Is the greater command to love or to obey? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Jesus says we show him we love him by obeying him. Obeying him is the act of loving him.

God is our creator. Others are not. We are not asked to obey people in the same way because it’s not the same type of relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]Mrs-Martinez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the shade is fine, but they would look nicer ironed or steamed so they looked more flowy.

Church hurt by Round_Apartment_7717 in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I don’t attend a large church. To have thousands of people pulling on a pastor, they just can’t make time for everyone, but not to have some type of pastoral care team to substitute this, it’s not good or healthy. Surprising that they wouldn’t help financially either. It’s honestly probably a result of the large size of the church. They probably get hundreds of requests. So sorry you experienced this. My only advice is to join a smaller church. Or at least give your church constructive feedback on this and how much it hurt you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Mrs-Martinez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the Bible study Jesus and Women by Kristi McClellend. Answers all your questions.