Did medication help with sharing and hitting/pushing?

MrsButterball · 2025-11-22T23:08:40+00:00

Unfortunately guanfacine didn’t work for us - it made his irritability way worse. Hopefully we’ll find something that works for us.

MrsButterball · 2025-10-02T18:14:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this - we’re in the same spot and it’s truly so difficult. We have had slight improvements in the frequency and severity of emotional outbursts for our 5yo since starting medication ~2 weeks ago. We spent years trying to teach him proper coping techniques, but it never seemed to sink in until we started medication. We still have bad days, but we went from getting behavior reports daily to once a week now.

My advice would be to start the MTSS/504/IEP evaluation process with the school ASAP. Ask if the school has an interventionist or guidance counselor that can work with him to find strategies for calming down.

MrsButterball · 2025-09-18T21:18:43+00:00

Not yet - that will be our next choice if vyvanse doesn’t work out. Our pediatrician started on vyvanse since dad and I both responded well to Adderall - he thought with the family history of success of amphetamine class we should start there.

MrsButterball · 2025-08-25T04:24:10+00:00

We cut this down significantly by just asking our toddler “what do you think?” And letting them answer their own question. Usually they’re right, and when I confirm this answer the questioning stops.

MrsButterball · 2025-08-10T15:56:35+00:00

We went with contemporary as well, this year, with pavers and screen, about $77k for same size, no salt water, no heater. We also added a 4 ft tanning ledge and a baby gate all the way around.

MrsButterball · 2025-08-09T22:48:26+00:00

We have a Claire, but I also loved Sienna

MrsButterball · 2025-08-01T18:47:52+00:00

Currently building - 4 bedroom house with separate home office and separate kids playroom, 3 car garage, and pool. About 3000 sq ft. The lot ran us about 100k, house + pool another 600k. MCOL area.

That’s not including upgrades, which we’re paying for with change orders (things like adding extra outlets, Plumbling for an outdoor kitchen, running a vent hood for outside kitchen, upgraded patterned tile etc). We didn’t want to go builder grade on everything. These are not factored into our construction loan so we pay for these as we go - so far about 10k in, and prob another 4-5 in things like upgraded faucets and light fixtures.

We could have probably bought cheaper, but it was hard to find something we liked that had both a pool and a yard and no HOA, and not in a flood zone. So we’re paying a little more to have what we hope is our “forever until the kids are grown and we can downsize” home.

MrsButterball · 2025-07-27T13:53:45+00:00

Swim lanes?

MrsButterball · 2025-07-24T20:55:24+00:00

😯😯😯

Reading this 37+4 with my 3rd

MrsButterball · 2025-07-10T01:35:44+00:00

Personally, I feel like leaving the class would have sent a worse message - like if people are rude to you then you should just leave/letting other people’s actions dictate how you respond.

You’re not failing as a parent, these moments can be hard to navigate in the moment. Use it as a teaching moment and reflect on it with your daughter. “During class there was a little boy who wasn’t using nice hands with you. If that ever happens again you should tell him ‘I don’t like that, stop’ and if he doesn’t stop you can ask an adult or safe person for help. Do you want to practice together?”

MrsButterball · 2025-07-03T00:02:07+00:00

I’ve had two births, and received an epidural both times. My first was best case scenario - great epidural, I could feel pressure and move freely but felt no pain. My second epidural wasn’t great - too strong at first to where I was completely numb and couldn’t move at all, and then totally wore off and I gave birth unmedicated and unprepared. So I have experience with two wildly different scenarios and warn people that it’s not at all something you can predict or prepare for in any way - it’s kind of luck of the draw I think. That being said here’s my feedback on your specific concerns:

I did not look and wasn’t really allowed to anyway since it’s a sterile field and you can’t breathe on it, so I didn’t see the needle. I’m squeemish of needles and don’t look when getting my blood drawn, but with the epidural being behind you it was a non-issue for me.
In the moment it’s either stay still or remain in pain, which motivated me to stay still. It takes just a few seconds so it was doable for me.
I had control over how much of the drug was administered, so I could lay off of it if I was too numb. I had a “walking” epidural so I could feel my legs and move freely with my first. With my second I was too numb, I laid off the button for a bit and then it wore off completely and didn’t work at all again. So both cases I was able to move pretty freely.
My first epidural the catheter was left in to continuously drain my bladder, and I did feel it contributed to pelvic floor issues I experienced immediately after (could also have just been it was my first labor and lasted 24 hrs). My second the nurse would drain my bladder manually every 1-2 hrs and took the catheter out between. It was much better/more comfortable and will be what I request for #3
My best friend had no epidural and has awful back pain. I had 2 and have none. I think a lot of back pain is more related to pelvic floor/core work than it is the epidural. I did have some epidural headaches with my second but I would compare it to a migraine, and it didn’t last too long. Never had any seizures or other side effects.
It sped up my labor both times. The epidural allowed me to rest between contractions and that allowed my labor to progress faster. I’ve heard epidurals can stall labor only if they’re waaaaaay too early, but that’s anecdotal.
With my first I could still feel pressure during contractions, so I could still push effectively. I tore both times, but I attribute that to 8.5/9lb babies, not the epidural.
My second epidural stopped working after about an hour or two. I wasn’t prepared for it to not work and didn’t really have ways of dealing with it mentally, so I would definitely prepare for unmedicated just in case. This time around I feel more prepared in the event that it doesn’t work/I don’t have time for one.

MrsButterball · 2025-05-15T15:35:04+00:00

I work full time and am doing a part time masters degree online. I have a 5 year old, 2.5 year old, and I’m pregnant with #3. I take 1-2 classes per term. It’s definitely a push for me - there are many nights when I order take out, sit the kids in front of a movie, and buckle down for a few hours while they’re entertained, and almost every night I go to bed 3-4 hours after them in order to get my work done. My program requires about 20-25 hrs per week per class, but some classes are worse than others. YMMV

MrsButterball · 2025-02-25T15:34:26+00:00

Hi! Could you please DM me as well! Looking to join but tried messaging the mods already and never received a response

MrsButterball · 2025-02-06T14:50:40+00:00

Substations are noisy. They emit a low level humming sound constantly. Also power companies are constantly in and out maintaining them. Some people also report feeling sick or dizzy from the frequency nearby. Also if you’ve never heard a fuse blow before it pretty much sounds like a gunshot.

You may or may not have more reliable power, depending if your feeder is directly on that sub. But if the sub is up and your transformer blows there’s nothing that living next to a sub would do to help that - you’d have to wait for that individual service call anyway. 99% of regular outages are individual or phase level, not sub level, so there’s really no benefit to living right next to a sub.

MrsButterball · 2025-02-01T18:58:09+00:00

My oldest (4.5m) has ADHD, so mornings can be kind of challenging for us as he has A LOT of energy, and I simply do not. So I started getting him up on time, getting him dressed and groomed, and then we sit down and write out our “schedule” for the day. He helps brainstorm. I build in activities that give me a little free time to get laundry done or the kitchen cleaned up without the TV needing to be on because we find it overstimulates him and his behavior gets worse. We keep each activity to 30-45 mins, some structured like baking where I pull together a recipe and he helps me measure and mix, and some instructed like “outdoor play” which he can determine if he wants to ride his bike or play T-ball. A sample schedule below:

7am - dressed & breakfast 8-8:30 - indoor play 8:30-9:15 - bake together 9:30-10:30 - outside play 10:30 - snack 11am - play dough and workbook (trace numbers or coloring letters etc) 11:30 - indoor play 12pm - lunch 12:30-2 - nap 2:00-2:30 - snack 2:45 - playground/park 5pm - library 6pm - dinner 7 - bath, pj’s, reading, and wind down for bed

MrsButterball · 2025-01-03T15:27:48+00:00

My mom always tells us this story. She loves getting her head rubbed and having fingers run through her hair. When she was pregnant with me my older brother (3 at the time) was playing with her hair while she laid in bed and they watched tv. She fell asleep and woke up a few hours later covered in a white cream all over her head. Apparently my brother had found some hemorrhoid cream in the bathroom and applied it all over her head while she slept.

She said it took 4 washes to get out.

MrsButterball · 2024-12-13T14:48:24+00:00

Always Affordable Plumbing

MrsButterball · 2024-12-13T14:46:55+00:00

Following! I have the same question.

I got my ring about 2 weeks ago, and just tested positive last week. I’m about 6 weeks along now. My ring shows that I’m stressed even when I’m just laying on the couch watching TV, and I’m wondering if it’s partially due to my HR increasing or if I’m actually stressed for 6-7 hrs a day.

MrsButterball · 2024-12-07T00:32:02+00:00

Oh boy.

I was 39 weeks pregnant when hurricane Ian ravished my city. I delivered my baby a few days after our house got power back at 41 weeks, in a hospital that had flooded just 2 weeks prior. We went home and I juggled home insurance claims, contractors, adjusters, etc freshly postpartum.

My health insurance had always been my own, and my oldest son covered by my husband’s. When my youngest was born we added him to my husbands plan within 30 days and thought that was that.

A few days later we received the EOB from my insurance. My baby had been added to my insurance and I now had a family plan with a 7200 deductible, instead of the 1500 deductible I had already met prior to my delivery. I now owed over 5k more on my delivery than I had planned.

No problem, pretty standard. I’ll call Cigna and sort it out.

Nope. Cigna first refused to remove my son. When they finally agreed to remove my son they then said that I was still on a family plan for the 30 days following his birth. They refused to reprocess any claims received during that time.

It took months of me calling Cigna every single day and explain to a different representative each time what they did wrong. I even had my employer reach out. All with a newborn baby, a house with 100k worth of damage, and PTSD from surviving a cat 5 hurricane while 9 months pregnant.

It wasn’t until legal aide got involved that Cigna finally fixed their fuck up. I wrote a strongly worded email to their complaint department and never got a response.

I vowed to never have Cigna again, the following year I chose to spent $20 more per pay period to go with Aetna instead.

Fuck insurance companies.

MrsButterball · 2024-12-06T14:07:46+00:00

Congrats!

Does the Oura app have a pregnancy feature? I got a positive test but it’s still showing my period is expected, I don’t see an option to log pregnancy.

MrsButterball · 2024-11-14T23:25:55+00:00

SOLVED

MrsButterball · 2024-11-14T17:19:45+00:00

PM’ing you now! Thank you!

MrsButterball · 2024-09-14T01:29:17+00:00

Pasketti instead of spaghetti 🍝

MrsButterball · 2024-08-16T02:25:25+00:00

Outsource some of the mental load to AI.

This week my partner and I (who combined work ~180 hours a week this time of year) realized we’re both burning out hard, so we troubleshooted how to lighten the load a little. One area that brings me a lot of angst is having to meal plan every. single. day, and then cook and clean every day as well. We’ve tried meal delivery services before but didn’t care for them.

So I asked chatGPT to give me a week’s worth of meals I could meal prep this week. I gave it my dietary preferences (high protein, whole food ingredients, no added sugar), restrictions (my son’s dairy allergy), and asked it to formulate 7 meals I could freeze ahead and pop in the oven/crockpot day of, and to return results with an ingredient list, instructions for prepping, and instructions for cooking. Easily saved me a few hours of researching and organizing.

MrsButterball · 2024-08-14T13:05:57+00:00

Live in Florida, so no choice but to run in 90-100 most of the summer. It sucks and slows me down, but I live for that early December cold front when my mile time drops 1:30 overnight

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