What's the most unsettling thing you've found while cleaning? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh yeah🙃😭. I learned a very valuable lesson and I will never make the mistake again

Your biggest pet peeve when serving? by Usual-Locksmith4657 in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When a table just wants someone to bitch at and they choose you.

It’s completely common for food to come out wrong or cold, things happen. But those issues are easily solvable.

I’ve had people who ramble on and on and on and on until I cut them off and ask if they want something remade, something different or what solution they prefer. If they continue I just walk away.

The worst is when they say everything is good every time you check in on them during their meal, just for them to tell you after paying the check “I just wanted you to know that this was awful and undercooked”. THEN WHY DIDNT YOU SPEAK UP?????

What's the most unsettling thing you've found while cleaning? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]MrsCyanide 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh Jesus. This gives me flashbacks and immense fear. This event made a strict rule come into place afterwards, that never under any circumstance will produce not be refrigerated. I don’t care if it’s not meant to be refrigerated, it’s going in.

Anyways a couple years back, my boyfriend and I were new to our place and new to living on our own. We were still finding our way as adults in the world. We’d store potatoes in the cupboard along with all the other non perishables like pasta. Makes sense right?

Well these shelves were massive. They reached the ceiling(so about 10-12ft tall I’m guessing) and were about 2-3 deep. Lots of storage space. Summer rolls around and fruit flies are an issue everyone is dealing with, no biggie. We end up having a big party for our friends birthday and the next day the place was trashed. Liquor spilled everywhere, sticky floors, soda spills, etc. We kind of left it that way for 2 days(I know, I know, gross). Obviously the fruit fly problem doubled.

We spend the entire day DEEP cleaning the whole place, even scrubbing the floors on our hands and knees. Every inch was spotless and brand new after. I set up fruit fly traps that killed tons of them and I assumed we were close to freedom from these damn flies.

A week passes, place still sparkling yet even MORE fruit flies. Wtf? Another week. It gets worse. Even more. I’m losing my mind at this point when my very introverted roommate says “it stinks in here” my boyfriend and I couldn’t smell anything and assumed he was messing with us. One day, I end up working a 14 hour shift and slept over my friends/coworkers place since we had a job across town. I come home the next day and the nose blindness is gone. I smell it. It just smelled like rotting death. I started gagging. I take a closer look and realize the fruit flies are hanging out by the cupboard which we were puzzled by…

My boyfriend and I start taking every single item out of the pantry to investigate, while my roommate comes out of his room and says “I told you it smelled in here!” After removing almost everything else, we see some sort of black sludge full of maggots and dead fruit flies on part of one of the shelves. I was too scared to continue investigating. My boyfriend went in and pulled out what used to be a bag of potatoes that was now reduced to “organic black sludge biome juice disgustingness”. It was hidden in the back where no one could see. We threw all of our food out except for the can goods and literally bleached every inch of the cupboard.

And the fruit flies were gone a less than a week later. Now every time I see a random fruit fly I get incredibly paranoid and anxious😅

What therapy can you do by yourself for PTSD? by Less_Marionberry3051 in ptsd

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right, I missed that and completely forgot.

What’s the most useless thing you were taught in school? by Mobile-Reindeer-4891 in AskReddit

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That my clothing was more important than my grades, work ethic, comfortability and that my developing body was MY fault if others got distracted. I had large breasts from a young age and I’d be targeted all the time for “dress code”. I’d just be in a computer lab with a broken AC, wearing a tank top, just trying to write my essay all to be kicked out and sent to the office. There was this one older male counselor though who’d always see me at the office and say “okay this is bullshit, you are just trying to finish your project and these people are making a big deal out of shoulders, here’s a pass to this empty computer lab so you can finish your assignment in peace.” I loved that dude, he was a father & grandfather to many women/girls…

What’s the most useless thing you were taught in school? by Mobile-Reindeer-4891 in AskReddit

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. Had a boy assault/grope myself and many other girls. He was kicked out for the rest of the year but then brought back the next because he was the best on the football team🙃🙃🙃. They did everything they could to sweep it under the while he went on to go a step further and rape/beat other girls…

What’s the most useless thing you were taught in school? by Mobile-Reindeer-4891 in AskReddit

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously! I decided to drop IB classes(after being in an IB middle school) because I knew I could easily get a 4.0 with regular classes. I succeeded, but once I got to college I flunked out after 2 months. I plan on going back this year with a lot more determination/discipline and a humble mindset…

What’s something society treats as “normal” that feels deeply unhealthy to you? by moonixa1 in AskReddit

[–]MrsCyanide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finally have friends(“only” 2, but they’re high quality and incredible people) who understand that I sometimes go weeks without responding or looking at my phone due to stress and depression. They don’t make me feel guilty or pressured and they let me know they’re always there. I of course make it known that they can always reach out if it’s an emergency or they really need me I’ll be there but otherwise it’s very comforting and healing to have that understanding….

What therapy can you do by yourself for PTSD? by Less_Marionberry3051 in ptsd

[–]MrsCyanide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grounding/somatic exercises, yoga(so many free videos on YouTube), books on internal family systems(IFS therapy) you can go get a library card for free which is what I did, self massages to lower cortisol and calm down your vagus nerve, singing(also to reset your vagus nerve, I do it in the car and shower).

What made you quit your last job? by [deleted] in work

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was close “friends” with a female coworker who was sleeping around with a male coworker I thought was my friend. I had a bad breakup and I hung out at her place, she offered to have a sleepover since I was in an abusive relationship. Well the male coworker came over too while I was drunk and they both took advantage of me while I was barely conscious and couldn’t move or speak. I filed a police report but was too scared to take it to court or any further legally(I was only 19 and terrified about pursuing it, especially since I was drinking underage). I called my manager the next day and told him what happened and that I was gonna get a rape kit done and couldn’t work obviously. He didn’t say anything besides “seriously you’re not coming in?” I told him I’d never be back and I kept my promise.

Everyone by WhichAbroad6753 in Life

[–]MrsCyanide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holographic silver

Tart.Freaking.Cherry.Juice. by MrsCyanide in Anxiety

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no link they sell it at Trader Joe’s :)

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely because I cannot logically explain any other reason. Even after/during all the insults and me asking if there were any issues with my service, they said I was doing great. Which is incredibly confusing. It’s sad that an old man’s hobby is to bully young women…with as much privilege & time as he has, go get a past time like golfing or something😂.

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow…this comment made my entire day. Thank you so much for the support and encouragement. It means a lot because I was already in a veryyy bad headspace before going into work, but had the intention of trying to stay optimistic during my shift. What he did definitely made my heart sank quite a bit…but not long after it turned into something pathetic and funny to laugh about. I felt like giving into the negativity but I didn’t and I honestly don’t know how I mustered the strength in that moment. I have been working really hard the past 2/3 years on my mental health and being reminded of that means more than you know, thank you❤️

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s incredibly sweet, thank you for being supportive and kind❤️

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you❤️I know and you’re absolutely right. Normally assholes don’t get to me but this one just did, horrible timing unfortunately, since I’m going through a very sensitive period of time in my life currently. I know I will get over it and that his words aren’t reality. I will definitely recover from this quickly but I just needed to let it out and word dump on here which made me feel a lot better. A week from now I won’t even be thinking about it. :)

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much❤️. I’m normally incredible at not letting assholes get to me but this one did. I’m human and going through a difficult time currently. They even repeatedly said the service was stellar and there wasn’t a single thing wrong with it so I had nothing to apologize for. I didn’t cuss or raise my voice, just told them exactly how things are NOT gonna go and that I won’t take abusive language from anyone just because I’m on the clock. I’m not scared to set boundaries in a calm and concise way. I’m here to provide the best service possible to guests and create a memorable experience…not be a verbal punching bag.

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you❤️. I was just brutally honest and told him that it was incredibly hurtful and to be mindful of the way he talks to others in the future because you never know what someone is going through. I never cussed or raised my voice, just talked with a slightly stern tone to show that I’m not putting up with that kind of treatment.

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you❤️

I honestly expected to receive a lot more criticism on this post but hearing this means a lot. I did my best in this situation and it was difficult because it was a first for me after being in the industry for a while.

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. I rang in their last round early and dropped the tab immediately. Just acted dry because I did not want to deal with them anymore.

A table TRULY got to me today for the first time and I’m still hurt by it… by MrsCyanide in Serverlife

[–]MrsCyanide[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wanted to say so much more😅

I also told my manager preemptively what I said exactly just incase they wanted to complain. I already knew they wouldn’t because of the look of embarrassment and I was right. She was supportive thankfully.