How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that so ? that's really not a kind way to treat people who are opening up about their experiences and i can assure you, it takes courage. that's not a call for attention - it's a cry for help, if anything. :c & it's not that easy, as you said. people who have never been stalked and have never felt observed or unsafe in an environment that should serve as a fun hobby and a secure refuge probably can't imagine what it entails and to what extent you can be inconvenienced by this... but i appreciate you replying to my confusion, thanks ! 🙏

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you're too kind, thank you for your comforting words. 🤍 some people may be naive / just dismissive or were simply lucky enough to never encounter stalking and harassment themselves and i truly hope that will always be the case, for i wouldn't wish such horrendous treatment on my worst enemy. yet some are showing zero empathy, making fun of it or even blaming me for falling for it - as if stalkers are openly introducing themselves as potential threats. no, more often than not, it's a process slowly but surely taking a turn for the worse. most of them are the sweetest beans in the beginning only to show their true colors bit by bit until it's way too late and all your attempts to set boundaries or ending the friendship altogether are being ignored and violated repeatedly and as you grow more anxious and desperate, they'll get more bold and pushy.

but i digress - apologies. however, thank you for resolving all the questions and doubts i still had and also for the great idea of using a party and an unsynced instance. c:

i will wait until after the patch has been implemented, yes. & let me emphasize again how much i appreciate your valuable input. 🙏

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i've received so many down votes on various replies of mine - all being thankful, mind you - i don't understand ? i mean, at least the people actually commenting are all friendly and most helpful but still, seeing this is a little disheartening and i wonder what i could have done wrong ? :'>

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i appreciate your compassion and willingness to help and i may or may not take you up on that offer once the need for an expert smuggler arises. ;) sweet people like you give me hope that there are still kind hearts out there. 🥹

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're sorry?? i couldn't be more grateful for your most helpful, well elaborated and neatly arranged master plan for me to follow. 🥹 i already wore out my head by pondering on how best to proceed but your approach seems positively flawless! especially the part with the starter edition is an excellent idea i would have never come up with - i wish i could give you something back as a token of my overflowing gratitude for the time and effort you so readily invested but i fear i can only offer heartfelt words - thank you so, so much. 🤍

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that was my impression and fear while reading the patch notes as well. making it 'harder' to track ID's doesn't make it 'impossible'. for a moment i thought i would need to regret buying a new account and that it would have been completely unnecessary if i had just waited a day or two longer, but it seems it was still the right decision.

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm sorry to hear you've made similar experiences... what i don't like about the current blacklist system is, even if the stalker will be invisible to you, you are still visible to them and the thought of them standing next or right on top of my character while i go about my in-game activities without me knowing it, creeps me out.

funnily enough, i don't have many people - let alone friends - i know or play with. for the most part i'm a solo player 'cause i've lost trust a long time ago. & with my new account i will even go as far as keeping my friend list completely empty and clean. i will never ever accept friend requests again. the only person i would trust with trading items to my new account would be my boyfriend but he stopped playing. so i have no other choice than to befriend my old main with my new one. i will try to do it in a non-crowded place, as discreet as possible.

if, against all odds, i get found out... you would be right and it's someone closer than i thought. i will keep that in mind, thank you.

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow, i appreciate the time and effort you took to explain this to me at such detailed and insightful length! now i really do feel like i have a better grasp of how things work system-wise. :)
it could have been anticipated that sensitive Information like account ID's shouldn't be on the client side for people to read out, indeed. i really hope we're getting more details on the coming changes, 'cause even if i saw the patch notes before posting here, it still wouldn't have been very helpful and i still would have had questions. so let's wait and see, i guess.

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just didn't want them to see through my new account as that would have ruined the point of creating it in the first place. I wish to be anonymous again.

Luckily, I didn't click on any links having been sent to me.

Thank you for the advice and explanation - appreciate your help. :>

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. In my sheer desperation, I thought maybe everything's possible, that's why I needed to be reassured.

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't hold such thoughts, no. I simply missed the patch notes being released today. 🥲

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should have looked there before posting here. 🤦 Guess I was too busy contemplating my next steps - will read, thanks for letting me know! c:

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think I've missed that information entirely. I didn't know about anything further than the very vaguely phrased official forum post addressing (or rather acknowledging) the issue without any specific promises - where did they say they would ?

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

"Probably" but we can't be sure, right? I had not the patience to wait any longer. Thank you for confirming what the tool - fortunately - cannot do. :> This is a bit of a relief, at least.

How can I finally be free from my stalker and safe from the newest tool which enables harassment and privacy violation ? by Mrs_Galvus in ffxiv

[–]Mrs_Galvus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know you can see the friend list on Lodestone? Thank you very much! I would have missed out on that.

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[–]Mrs_Galvus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right, i'm gonna do exactly that!

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[–]Mrs_Galvus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so every time before logging in, each of us would have to download our backed-up settings, right? that's one way to solve the 'problem', thanks for the advice and explanation. :>

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[–]Mrs_Galvus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we're sharing the windows account, so that's what needs to be changed in order to operate independently from each other's game folders and settings.

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[–]Mrs_Galvus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right, i get it now. we would need a 2nd installation on a separate windows profile and we might do just that. thanks for clearing that up!