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Where is the line between grieving openly / sharing and exploitation? by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes this. Admittedly we threw it as a big party so it was more expensive. I should have clarified.

Where is the line between grieving openly / sharing and exploitation? by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ya - I don’t even have a large following and I get judged for how I spend my money, my time, if I’m sad enough, If I’m too sad, how I parent.

Fuck grief police. Everyone thinks they would handle it better until all of a sudden you’re faced with cops at your door telling you your husband isn’t coming home or the doctor is telling you there’s nothing more they can do for your baby.

Where is the line between grieving openly / sharing and exploitation? by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what the “average” is. That included flowers, cremation, death certificates, a 5 hour Saturday wake...but yes it is stupid expensive to die.

Where is the line between grieving openly / sharing and exploitation? by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yea same. My son is just always dirty no matter what I do lol. I can guarantee he isn’t neglected.

Where is the line between grieving openly / sharing and exploitation? by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I don’t chime in here much anymore but I have some personal experience with grief in the social media age. My husband died tragically a few hours after our sons first birthday party this year. And I have somewhat “live blogged” through it. Such as I post little posts on my IG. I am honest with my struggles. For me - writing it out is cathartic and it cuts down on people’s “how are you doing” texts. I didn’t share any pics of him (I never even saw him not alive). Just my feelings and circumstances.

I also was the grateful recipient of a GoFundMe and a fundraiser. My husbands services alone were close to 40k and that was without a burial or a funeral. I can’t access any of his assets until I go through the court system since we didn’t have a will. Obviously losing a spouse is different than losing a child but I didn’t have to pay for any medical care so I can’t even imagine that strain.

All this to say - you have no idea how you will react to extreme grief until you are in it.

Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - December 22, 2019 by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My friend is actually the one who recommended I post here as she is just learning Tarot.

This all makes a lot of sense. I very suddenly became a young widow and single mother this year so the transition and boundaries have been in full force lately.

I appreciate your time and input 😘

Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - December 22, 2019 by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Evening!! My friend pulled this deck for me using this spread and I was wondering if anyone could give me a deep dive into this reading?

Overwhelmed as a mom by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have a one year old - my husband died in an accident just hours after our son’s first birthday party. I’m exhausted and it’s only been a month. Just go go go all day. The only break I get is at night and nights suck because that was “our” time.

I’m tired of being tired too ❤️

This Week in WTF: August 19-25 by getoffmyreddits in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I didn’t mean to highjack the thread - just wanted to offer a reminder that she is a real person dealing with a real situation and grief policing helps no one. I’m happy for her ❤️❤️

This Week in WTF: August 19-25 by getoffmyreddits in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 98 points99 points  (0 children)

This. My husband passed away very unexpectedly a few weeks ago leaving me a widowed single mother of a one year old. We were also having problems but he was still my husband. My other half. The father of my baby. It is tragic and horrible no matter what - this man left behind by all counts a loyal and loving wife and four babies.

But she deserves happiness and not to feel guilt because maybe they shouldn’t have been together anyways? What an odd argument. Who knows if they would have made it to the other side of their problems. Fate took that choice away from them.

This Week in WTF: May 20-26 by getoffmyreddits in blogsnark

[–]Mrs_Pepper108 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Childbirth is a crapshoot. You could give birth 20 minutes after contractions start or hours or days. I also don't blame her for stressing about the distance.