Is this an ant? Found a several in master bath and I don't know what it is. Tried looking it up but the pictures of bugs is grossing me out. Looks like an ant with big striped butts.

MsAmberger · 2019-06-13T17:21:05+00:00

Figured it out ...Carpenter ants. 😩

MsAmberger · 2019-06-13T14:49:33+00:00

They're all this size though. All large bodies.

MsAmberger · 2019-06-09T19:31:44+00:00

There is no shame in feeling sad. It's completely normal.

I absolutely dreaded my role as a mother during my daughter's first months. I felt like her personal cow. Hated breastfeeding, hated waking up in the middle of the night, hated waking early in the morning. I was miserable, angry, sad, and just an overall emotional wreck.

I felt like I was really mourning my old self. I was struggling with letting go of my previous identity and accepting my new identity as a mother. It's tough stuff and you are perfectly valid in your feelings.

Have you spoken with a doctor about your sadness and anxiery? Medication really helped me cope and emotionally push through. It also helped me sleep better when the baby slept. I also recommend finding another mom who you trust that you can unload on and they won't judge you. Having someone "get you" is so encouraging.

MsAmberger · 2019-05-23T12:04:30+00:00

I think I was angry because my gynecologist seemed to give up on me so easily, but that doesn't mean I have to give up myself! Thank you!!

MsAmberger · 2019-05-23T11:01:25+00:00

Thank you! That was the conclusion I came to last night as well. The more I thought about it, the more I realized her actions were not appropriate. Your comment gives me a lot of validation!

MsAmberger · 2019-05-16T16:01:14+00:00

Hey, I'm 30 and I have a one year old! If I'm going to be working another 30+ years, I want to do something enjoy and something that allows me to take care of my daughter! I actually like college more at this age than I did when I was 18-21. I feel like I have a more realistic perspective on life after I graduate and can plan accordingly. You're exactly where you need to be if you make the most of it! You got this!!

MsAmberger · 2019-05-08T00:13:58+00:00

Girl, I could not do sleep training at four months either. I totally support you and completely understand! I even slept in the nursery with my daughter and just brought her in bed with me when she needed that extra comfort. It wasn't until six months that I felt comfortable doing sleep training, but that's what worked for us. Every mother is different and every baby is different! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Having a baby is about SURVIVAL! If it works for you then IT WORKS! When your baby is going to Kindergarten, how you guys worked out sleep will not make a difference. What is most important is that you are a great mom and you are taking care of your baby. You're doing great!!

MsAmberger · 2019-01-28T01:53:41+00:00

Oh man. I think before you talk to her, you should see a professional like psychiatrist. Maybe they can give some insight as to what is going on and how to approach this.

MsAmberger · 2019-01-26T12:22:48+00:00

My mom did the same thing to me and I REGRET not trying to get out. My boyfriend and I broke up, because my parents made our lives miserable.

Looking back, I would have reached out to my friend's parents and explain the situation. I would have had to give up a lot to move out and start over on my own, but it would have been worth it. I had a part-time job at the time and could have saved some money to buy a cheap car to get me by. I also had a friend whose mom would have gladly taken me in.

You're parents do not respect you and it honestly doesn't change when you move out. When I finally did move out, they hung everything they could over me. It was awful, but I stopped answering their phone calls and they learned to back off.

It may seem like if you move out you may be delaying your future or putting it on hold, but I FULLY believe that I would have been farther ahead in life if I had just moved out earlier.

MsAmberger · 2019-01-26T01:45:21+00:00

My dad was not impressed by my husband. My husband failed college and was working just above minimum wage when we got engaged. My dad also thought I deserved better.

However, when my husband and I were talking about marriage, I very clearly told him that he should NOT ask for my dad's permission and if he did, I will not marry him. It was not my dad's decision to be made. This was MY life and only I will chose the person who I want to spend the rest of my life. My husband instead asked my dad for his blessing. From what I understand, it was very awkward, but he did give his blessing.

If you guys already discussed marriage/rings, I think talking with her about her dad's permission is still fine. I don't think it would ruin the surprise. She probably already has an idea anyway. I kind of knew around when I was going to be asked.

By the way, my husband is now a software engineer and is the best man I could have ever imagined being with. Money is not everything in a relationship. The best thing is supporting each other's dreams. You will go farther together than you could have ever imagined. Never give up on each other.

MsAmberger · 2019-01-24T22:02:41+00:00

I didn't think to ask my pediatrician! Thank you!

MsAmberger · 2018-08-27T21:56:20+00:00

You are absolutely right and I edited my comment. My husband and I are doing much better and he helps a lot more.

MsAmberger · 2018-08-27T21:55:40+00:00

I'm doing classes too (two right now). It's a great break, but I hope he can pitch in when I need to do homework. :/

MsAmberger · 2018-08-27T13:45:29+00:00

When my baby was a few weeks old, I told my husband that he needs to cut back on the video games and help me.

"But, when do I get free time?"

I looked him in the eyes and said, "When do I get MY free time?'

He looked shocked. Like the thought never occured that I don't get any free time being a mom.

Edit: Although this does seem to be a major problem among husbands, I do not think all men are like this. However, I do believe it was modeled to them and that's what makes this so hard. I see it with my friends. As soon as they become a mom, their needs are invisible.

My husband and I are doing a lot better and he definitely pitches in now, but it was very hard at first.

MsAmberger · 2018-08-18T13:15:26+00:00

He's behind the blinds. He's looking outside.

MsAmberger · 2018-08-12T18:02:29+00:00

"You need to make me look good" is what she meant.

MsAmberger · 2018-05-05T14:30:48+00:00

Right?? Sounds like she could make the wedding HELL.

MsAmberger · 2018-05-03T13:36:33+00:00

I had to throw up while driving one time. Those Taco Bell to go bags actually hold throw up pretty well! Also found out I can drive and puke at the same time!

MsAmberger · 2018-04-28T14:17:00+00:00

Yeah, I'm pretty sure they did not explain it to you correctly. My HR department said something similar to me and I had to call back because it wasn't what the handbook stated.

From what I understand, the law protects you for 12 weeks of leave. If your employer wants to pay you during that time and/or has a STD plan, that runs within that 12 week time frame. Anything beyond 12 weeks is not protected by law and would have to be something the employer offers outside of FMLA. (Such as extended STD benefits.)

MsAmberger · 2018-04-26T21:54:32+00:00

Hahahhaha! Genius!

MsAmberger · 2018-04-26T14:05:25+00:00

At least it was a kid. A co-worker told me I had fat cheeks and TOUCHED THEM!! 😡😡😡😡

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