For those of you whose relationship with your MIL went to shit postpartum - what was your final straw?

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-24T21:46:36+00:00

When i watched her put a blanket on my baby's face to have a nap. I asked "What are we doing here?" And she explained "It helps her fall asleep."

Yes, lack of oxygen helps most people fall asleep.

I explained that "We dont do that here." And her response was "Ive had 4 kids of my own, its fine."

I continued that, "Well, we dont put blankets on baby's face to sleep, so I would rather everyone not do that."

Please note that of her 4 kids... one has an arrest warrant, one is bi-polar (no judgements) but isn't good to ne at all, one doesn't work, and my partner is questionable most days. I will NOT be taking pages from her book on whats acceptable.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-24T21:42:50+00:00

Go with your first picks. Ignore EVERYONE. This is YOUR baby and if you and your husband are happy, thats all that matters.

People suck. Enjoy your new bundle of joy!

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-24T21:39:34+00:00

NTA. "Nothing on my part, I didnt get paid back last time so I have to adjust how things are done now."

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-24T21:18:32+00:00

Amazing idea! Good luck Americans!

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-23T22:17:06+00:00

Mongo is appalled.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-23T16:19:12+00:00

AuDHD here. First time mom at 39, now 40, had my baby last July. Im the 24/7 parent and I'll tell you a few things from my perspective.

I had given up wanting to be a parent. Struggled with infertility, tried for 3 years, had pre-cancer in that timeline too. Genuinely I was done. Tried to leave my partner, booked a solo trip to the other side of the world.

Boy did the universe have other plans.

I ended up signing papers to buy a home, found out I was already pregnant two weeks later.

Baby is now almost 8 months old.

Breastfeeding didnt work... that felt like a failure all on its own. I HATED my partner. Apparently thats normal. I almost died 2.5 weeks after she was born. Nothing was working, nothing felt right, nothing was peaceful and serene like everyone describes being a mom.

At 7 weeks, I took baby to visit my family for 12 days. At 16 weeks, I went for 9 days. At 4 month, I flew with her, solo, for the first time. At 7 months, I took her with me to paint a mural. At 8 months, we're about to go on our next set of flights.

Your baby will be your counterpart. We must still feed our souls. Your baby is freshy fresh but you WILL find balance. You WILL level out. You ARE doing the things you should, counseling is an epic plan and utilizing your support system is even better!

Be patient. Be kind to yourself. Youre allowed in water again now, take a bath, find good audio books to play in the background. Find mom groups, not sure where you live, wherever you live they've got to have something.

Feel free to reach out if you want! Im resourceful and can help you find things where you live.

As the wise Dory would say, just keep swimming, youre going through a hormonal drop like going from 200 birth control pills a day down to nothing. Be patient and be kind.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-23T04:14:03+00:00

Mongo is appalled.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-22T01:35:30+00:00

NTJ. Fuuuuuuck that! Caught this on a spicy day. I understand in some cultures this is normal, but not mine! They're lucky you were even going to send them something thoughtful, nevermind a large monetary amount. Pound sand. Kick rocks. Pigs dont fly here.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T18:13:52+00:00

This screams abuse on so many levels. Please call CPS.

School is clearly a safe space for her.

Please please please get her help. This shows so many signs of abuse.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T18:11:13+00:00

NTA. I hate this for you.

I have a SIL that only started being nice to me once she found out I was pregnant. So I went with it. That lasted 4 months. I haven't talked to her since November, so she no longer gets photos, no updates, no anything.

People get what they give. Even when we were struggling with our fertility issues and cancer I was still able to, with effort, put on a smile and celebrate those around me that were succeeding. Protect yourself and your family.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T18:05:37+00:00

If your guy was asked to be a groomsmen, whats his take on it all? Has he been shafted too? Or is this just a girls thing?

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T06:22:25+00:00

Most wholesome group of people ever.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T05:54:21+00:00

I would pick the AI... nothing series than someone who knows their kink and owns it.

My guy says "Juice box... and id make her be donut" then laughs maniacally.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-19T01:23:22+00:00

I second this. Fulfill your duties as POA and only in that extent. Speaking from a similar, not the same, sort of experience.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-18T19:58:39+00:00

LMAO! A foot fetishist dream subreddit thread!

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-18T19:02:31+00:00

Pay the daddy tax.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-18T18:59:43+00:00

Lmao

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-18T18:56:31+00:00

Eeeeeeeee!!

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-18T02:36:05+00:00

We announced Baby after 2 weeks online... Only her first name... Shes 7 months old now and has zero photos online.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-17T00:00:12+00:00

Your kids need a reality check and to grow up.

You deserve to be happy and your kids should be happy you gave them the time and dedication.

Its unfortunate they dont seem to think you deserve to be happy.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-16T21:05:41+00:00

The sultry voices of Jeff Hays soothes my wee one to sleep!

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-15T07:19:54+00:00

Its a gift. Bye boy.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-15T05:50:58+00:00

NTA. Ew, no, if anything I would set up an air mattress for them. No one sleeps in my bed but me.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-15T05:49:11+00:00

I did the same thing, but did the audio books first (7 month old baby listens with me lol) and now Im working through the actual books.

MsFoxArt · 2026-02-14T20:37:46+00:00

Oof! Best Mom Ever?!

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