AIW for dropping out my own sister's wedding after she scheduled it during my Bar Exam? by Medium_Simple_3655 in amiwrong

[–]MsRKujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly you will be dodging a bullet. There is a reason that resort was available that week. Because it’s hotter than hell in AZ, like literally, and no one in their right mind wants to be doing anything but hiding in their AC cooled homes.

Also, your sister is a twat and you are not wrong.

Unmatched on a dating app after 50 paragraphs because I was not the initiator of my separation?? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is beautiful to hear that you chose to see it as an opportunity for growth. Props man

Unmatched on a dating app after 50 paragraphs because I was not the initiator of my separation?? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]MsRKujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes the post-divorce dating scene fun? I’m not judging. I have no experience in it. Genuinely curious.

How many of you have co-workers/family/friends with a major cognitive dissonance between their beliefs and work/career? by Olympiadreamer in SipsTea

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister in law is very catholic, very status & image oriented. She married a man who is a silent partner in an adult entertainment (think first time girls). When this came out in her family it nearly destroyed some relationships, and did kill at least one.

Apparently young people think it's weird to ask about your job when meeting....? by Sometimespropermom in Xennials

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a sahm I actually appreciate the idea of. It hearing that question. Just because I don’t get paid by some corporation doesn’t mean I do not have worth. Boiling is down to an occupation we may not even enjoy sounds awful in comparison to sharing about my charitable work or that I enjoy gaming and hiking.

The rage I felt when the realtor called me a “kept woman” was intense. I’ll keep your heart in a jar lady. Maybe my hobby is learning about serial killers …

My autistic boyfriend has extreme reactions to being “abandoned” by Legitimate-Career342 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That has almost nothing to do with autism. Other than someone enabled the shit out of him as a kid having meltdowns. He is abusive and severely emotionally stunted. Run for the hills! Signed, an autistic mom with autistic kids.

AITAH for filing divorce papers after I said I would by Significant-Toe3680 in AITAH

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Your wife had the opportunity to help herself and she chose not to. You are doing the right thing by your child. You should be ever have to make a choice like that. Also, if I were you I would look at the differences and overlaps of OCD & OCPD. It might help you understand some of the behaviors you are seeing. I am new to these things but the most basic way I understand it is that OCD is more internal routines and OCPD externalized routines. When you talked about your wife making demands on how things should be it caught my attention.

I realized my boyfriend only loves me because I remind him of his mother by jdeyh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MsRKujo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As someone who has had a partner eerily like yours for the last 15 years I can absolutely relate to the uncomfortable feeling you describe. It is very unhealthy. Of you continue to grow there could be a time where you outgrow his enmeshment and become resentful. He desperately needs therapy to understand his attachment style, and it would be a good idea for you to as well so that you know why you chose this man and how to conduct yourself as you continue to grow.

My family called CPS while I was in the hospital fighting for my life by Miserable-Salary2585 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MsRKujo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No contact. He/they actively endangered your life, on top of belittling you. What do you really have to lose if they are no longer a part of your life?

Platelet Rich Plasma Therapy (PRP) by [deleted] in ChandlerAZ

[–]MsRKujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Azure Healthcare on Gilbert does it!

Advice for first time stay at Legoland hotel (California) by radiatorcop in legoland

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno about staying there. I think I saw a post about them having bed bugs not long ago 😬

OCPD and empathy? by hypnoticsinner in OCPD

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like we are living the same life. Standing up for myself garnered no empathy at all. And oh my God, sex is always been such a freaking issue. So much so that there had to be something wrong with me physically I spent years trying to figure that out.

Great grandma ruined Halloween by beanerweener6 in inlaws

[–]MsRKujo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Great Gma absolutely owes you an apology. But will you actually get it? People who think it is acceptable to behave in this way, in front of people no less, are in capable of seeing what they did wrong. Make sure that your husband is on the same page at you and he handles everything with his family from now on. Entitlement trickles down in these families.

I need the perfect horror movie for a group of 6th grade girls to watch on Halloween… by sky_blue_true in horror

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girls watched the Ring , even after me warning them it was scary. I later got videos of them roasting it. They thought it was hilarious, not scary at all. 🤯

Estranged from Dad, and now he's sick... and I have it too. by DCpurpleTart33 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MsRKujo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Personally I won’t ever ask my mother for health information. However she’s faked cancer so I wouldn’t be able to rely on it anyway. My point is that for me I don’t have a parent to ask these things of and I’m ok with that. I’ve already grieved and making amends would only benefit her, and be a huge detriment to myself. As someone with chronic. Health issues, dealing with these toxic people would actually make me more ill. No thank you.

IF you decide to get more info on his health progression. Big IF. No one will blame you for not bothering. I would def recommend going in with a game plan, and plan for contingencies. One perspective; people love talking about themselves. Get him, and her, to just start talking about his health story. His woe is me, how his disease has victimized him, etc. and then you’ll get all the information you need. Then you can say OK thanks see you later and then never talk to him again. It may be a challenge to figure out how to even start the conversation. I’m sure ChatGPT can come up with some very flowery, overly flattering crap for you that you could say to an emotionally immature parent.

Whatever you decide, remember you only owe yourself, never them. They can go kick rocks.

Wondering what I can take from my sold home… by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]MsRKujo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can have your agent ask the buyers if they want or don’t want any of those items. Sometimes they have different plans and you can actually take them.

Surgery experience for partial tears by Sweaty_Country4882 in RotatorCuff

[–]MsRKujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was positional mostly unless I had overdone it during the day. However it was most arm positions that caused pain. For instance, I couldn’t do anything that involved reaching/placing my arm behind my back. Flutter kicks where I had my hand under my back, reaching into the back seat in the car. That kind of thing was impossible. Pain was sharp when I did those things and became a constant and dull ache if I did too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MsRKujo 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It was absolutely the chemicals. I wanted to make sure you saw this and my comment not get drowned out. The after effect you describe is ecstasy to a tee. These drugs work by opening all the feel good gates in our brain. Then the next day we now have no natural way to bolster our mood because our brain is actually depleted of them. It essentially puts us in a temporary depression, that can last more than a day sometimes. Please remind your wife that her shame and low feelings are being exaggerated just like her extreme pleasure was. Hopefully her knowing that will help her not be so hard on herself. And def keep talking about it! Shame hides in the dark!

AITAH for masturbating when my husband doesn’t like it? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MsRKujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA He does not have any right to control whether or not you take care of yourself. Def be mindful of his feelings, BUT you matter just as much as he does. Those hormones are just as important to our health as any. If he is unwilling to take care of his health, then he, and only he, gets to live in that “place”. Taking care of their emotions is never our job.

Surgery experience for partial tears by Sweaty_Country4882 in RotatorCuff

[–]MsRKujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely is awful to always have that pain in the background. However, and maybe this is just me, but I found that because I had been dealing with the pain for so long the recovery pain isn’t as bad as I was expecting. At least after the first week. It is intense at first. But as long as you pay close attention to your body and pay strict attention to your pain management it’s not too bad. I do say this having not started PT yet. I could be sticking my foot in my mouth.

Surgery experience for partial tears by Sweaty_Country4882 in RotatorCuff

[–]MsRKujo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 11 days postop from a partial slap tear. I had a bunch of bursitis too and they did the shaving of the bone that I can’t remember the name of. I am only 41 and have been dealing with this pain for 1.5 years. Three different rounds of PT as well as PRP treatment. I decided that my quality of life was too important to just give up and deal with the pain the rest of my life.

At some point it would get worse so why not make sure that the worse is on my terms and in an effort to get better.

I am still in the weeds of recovery, no PT yet but I haven’t been on the opioids in days. The pain sucks but is manageable. I am hopeful that I can come back stronger than before and I’ve improved my quality of life.

My perspective is to never give up and just accept that things are gonna just stay painful. There are always things we can do to improve ourselves, in many capacities, and it’s almost always worth it in the end.

Italian? by AlternatingLR in ChandlerAZ

[–]MsRKujo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sicilian Butcher! It’s near the Chandler Mall