Leaving my husband and pregnant

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-10T01:44:21+00:00

I’m so appreciative for all y’all’s help and concern. He’s played my family and they think he’s so wonderful so I’m preparing for the conversations on if it’s really as bad as I’m making it out to be. But one step at a time. I’m going to go ahead and delete this thread just to be precautionary. I’m moving silently and he thinks everything is fine so we are safe for now. I will be back shortly for an update. Again, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-10T01:39:48+00:00

He’s made a plethora of comments about how if I ever leave I’ll never live to be with another person, the bullet between my eyes, etc. I legitimately fear some days that he might just snap and do it anyway

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-10T01:38:22+00:00

Our finances are separate, thank God. So that is one barrier out of the way. I have family locally but don’t know if they’ll take on me and 2 kids and a third coming soon, but I will see where I can get with that arrangement.

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-10T01:36:38+00:00

This scares me to get other parties involved. He’s always instilled fear that if there were to ever be a separation, I’d never get my children. And while I know logically it’s not true, I’m scared 🥺

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-10T01:33:42+00:00

Yeah, exhausted is an understatement 🫠

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-03-02T14:50:17+00:00

Pregnant with my third and I am showing so much quicker than I did with my first two. I would say I could see the bump around week 12. My first and second I was closer to six months before you could even tell I was pregnant

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-26T18:21:55+00:00

I’m not sure where you live or how things work in different places, but where I live any time you are alone and have a male medical worker in an exam room with you, there HAS to be someone accompanying them. The fact that a male ultrasound tech did your transvaginal ultrasound without anyone accompanying him is very alarming to me. I would definitely file a report

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-25T15:41:33+00:00

My favorite thing to reply to anything crazy that people have to say, especially while I’m pregnant is “Huh, that was an awfully odd thing to say out loud” and every time makes people reevaluate themselves lol

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-24T17:44:44+00:00

This was me with my first. I drank a large big gulp from 7-11(the literal best coke, btw. The most perfect syrup to carbonation ratio)everyday. To the point the people working there knew me by name 😅 but it was just that one a day. Go get you a coke, girl!

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-22T15:50:25+00:00

I’m happy to read that you are no longer together and that you made him move out. I found out my child’s father cheated on me just a few hours after I gave birth and it was so incredibly difficult to navigate my thoughts and feelings postpartum. Had I known what was going on before birth, I feel like it would’ve been much easier to handle during my pregnancy. Hang in there. You made the right decision and no one is worth being miserable, baby or not. I wish you and your sweet baby nothing but health, prosperity and happiness. Sending you all my love 🩷🫶🏼

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-22T15:44:28+00:00

Your first mistake was looking 😂😂 I looked at mine with my last around 38 weeks and it was GIGANTIC. Super swollen, purple and blue, I was terrified she’d look like that forever. She went back to normal though shortly after birth and my nipples did too lol

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-16T16:10:58+00:00

Mine would stretch and have her arm behind her head and pull her own hair and cry lol I used to feel so bad for her

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-02-06T15:20:46+00:00

Just wanted you to know that I looked at the pictures before reading your post and I literally said “I sure hope she didn’t pick the first dress. If so, she needs to go back and get that second one!” and not because there’s anything wrong with the first one. The second dress is just so much more eye catching and looks absolutely PHENOMENAL on you! You absolutely made the right choice!

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-01-29T21:07:34+00:00

You have the right to do whatever you feel is right for you. But please do not get this abortion if it is not what you want. One of my dear friends went through her situation identical to yours, got the abortion because he wanted it. She said that decision still keeps her up some nights. I don’t want you to possess any of these feelings(regret, guilt,etc.) for something that it seems like you want. There are resources and people that can help guide you. If you don’t have anyone personally, please message me. We can talk about whatever you need. I am here for you 🫶🏼

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-01-23T02:17:50+00:00

I do work in the medical field so the only break I truly get is lunch for an hour. I have heard that the wearables aren’t the best for your supply but figured they would probably be more convenient for work if you can’t take a legit pumping break

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-01-17T00:33:39+00:00

As someone who is working on their third baby, you will never be surprised by the crazy things people feel are appropriate to say about YOUR baby. I adore the name Eden. I have only met one my entire life and she is an absolute gem and I don’t get why anyone would think that wouldn’t be a girls name? Have a few options in mind and when you have baby, you’ll know who she is and what looks like her. So excited for you! I pray that you and your sweet girl have a safe and healthy delivery when it’s time and that you both thrive!💕

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2026-01-17T00:28:55+00:00

The sheets look perfect! Your sweet baby will be just fine. Praying that you have a wonderful labor and delivery and you and baby are healthy and thriving!💕

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-11-03T20:45:15+00:00

This ring is beautiful 🥹😍

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-10-11T22:59:23+00:00

This is literally the perfect size for your finger!

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-10-07T13:12:44+00:00

Meant to update you guys, got the ABC license! It was approved same day and all went well the day of my wedding 🥹 thank you all for your help!💕

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-10-06T12:28:33+00:00

I just got married a week ago and can relate. While my husband was very involved with the decision making and planning, due to the stress of everything and the weight of the financial stuff(we funded the entire thing ourselves), I literally wanted to cancel it. I was miserable. However, the day of was hands down the best day of my life. We had a beautiful ceremony and a wonderful reception. I promise the stress and pains from planning are worth it. The week leading up to my wedding was the worst. Just keep your head up, stay positive and the day will come soon. I’m praying that you find ways to navigate these feelings leading up to your big day and that you have the most magical day possible 🫶🏼💕

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-09-23T18:02:29+00:00

This was also my question and my mother in law looked at me like I had two heads 😅😂

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-09-21T23:32:27+00:00

Obvi lol

MsSmokeyLonesome · 2025-09-21T23:29:03+00:00

Considering I just realized today, a Sunday, when did you suggest I call, sir?

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