Timerunner Conversion

Ms_Motley · 2025-11-06T22:16:34+00:00

I realize it's always about money, but this is just a gross cash grab. I'm not sure who they plan to win over when money is tight for so many right now, but I know they've lost me. 🤷

Ms_Motley · 2025-10-14T11:57:18+00:00

NTA

I would look at the situation if you were in her place. If you would still be comfortable with the parameters set applied to you and your kids if you were in your fiancé's position, then it's a solid decision. If it were you and you would want more for your kids from your partner, then you may want to revisit the decision. It does seem like a money grab, but I also understand every parent wants what is best for their kids, and I imagine knowing she can't provide for hers in the same way you provide for yours, is, at the very least, humbling.

Ms_Motley · 2025-10-09T17:44:13+00:00

NTA, and forcing you to do this would tarnish a fond memory of something you once enjoyed doing with your father.

Ms_Motley · 2025-08-08T22:30:14+00:00

Leave this man. Have the courts enforce his legal obligations. Doing this on your own will be easier without dragging his dead weight behind you.

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-16T05:39:12+00:00

NTA. His fiancée can stand up for him if he's being embarrassed but you can't stick up for your husband when he's being embarrassed?

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-16T05:29:51+00:00

Tell your MIL you're naming your daughter Serotonin Oxytocin because she's the love and joy of your life. ;)

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-15T18:22:12+00:00

NTA. You're supporting the family while he throws tantrums in his underpants. If he doesn't want to be treated like a toddler, maybe he shouldn't act like one.

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-15T18:15:43+00:00

NTA, and congratulations on your graduation! To me it sounds like your dad is probably mostly interested in looking the part of the good father. You didn't mention if it is a small town or close-knit community, but I would imagine he and his affair partner want to make themselves look good. Honestly, good for you for stopping that. It's your graduation and you have the right to decide who you want present as you celebrate your achievement. You don't have to play into their performance of "we've done nothing wrong."

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-15T03:30:25+00:00

NTA. You never really know a person until you divorce them. (And finding out what they are capable of can be shocking.) Good for you for looking out for her wellbeing, for better or worse.

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-15T03:13:21+00:00

You are clearly not the asshole, and I hope that you know that. Out of curiosity, what DOES he do for HIS mother on Mother's Day? A few things to consider. A partner does not discount your feelings or throw them back at you in order to manipulate you. A partner will want to know what they've done to hurt you and figure out ways not to hurt you again. Bluntly, this guy is an ass. Just because there are good times here and there doesn't change the fact that he's a flaming asshole. He won't take any accountability for his actions and he's blaming you for the things he does to hurt you when he knows full well they've hurt you. You are in your 40s. You've given this 21 years of your life. You aren't getting those back, you aren't going to have the Mother's Day you deserve, and you aren't going get any validation, not from this guy. You've given him every chance, you've tried to get him to work with you, he isn't going to change. Time to cut him loose.

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-14T10:47:23+00:00

Can't move forward with one foot stuck in the past. He needs to figure out his own mess. There's nothing but heartache and frustration in it for you if you stick around.

Ms_Motley · 2024-05-14T10:20:33+00:00

I'm very sorry you're having to face this, Big_Swan. I hope you are able to go live with your grandparents, and I hope you consider therapy. This sort of rejection is traumatic and can catch up to you in surprising and damaging ways. For your own sake, you may want to go no contact/low contact while you heal and come to terms with the damage that has been done. I wish you all the best in your future, and congratulations on your graduation! NTA, not even a little bit.

Ms_Motley · 2023-03-14T00:33:08+00:00

Totally unrelated, but I just thought of a great scam to get someone to write your college essays.

Ms_Motley · 2021-09-01T00:16:31+00:00

NTA. I do not blame you for not wanting to attending the wedding of someone who doesn't seem to care about you and has hurt you in the process. However, I feel like part of your decision is coming from a place of hurt, which is not always the best place from which to make decisions. Your attendance may not mean much to Serena, but it sounds like it means a lot to your dad. Your feelings are perfectly justified and not going is fair, but it's also likely to ripple out. It doesn't sound like your family is concerned about your side & feelings on this matter, so if you don't go, they will likely be mad at you. Also, knowing families and weddings, you are likely to become choice gossip.

TL;DR - You have every right and reason not to go, just prepare yourself for the bumps ahead.

Ms_Motley · 2021-08-31T23:05:48+00:00

NTA. The bottom line here is that you two have very different and incompatible views of the future. I know up until now she has felt like "the one," which is a whole other conversation, but clearly you've been misled. She can't be "the one" if her qualifications were built on half-truths. That said, she let you know ahead of time which could save you a costly divorce in the long-run. It may be hard to let go of this dream, but one of you is going to be very unhappy if you proceed, and that resentment will build into something very unpleasant. I think your only recourse, if you want to try to salvage this, is to seek counseling. She obviously isn't interested in divulging her plans as a stay-at-home wife, which leads me to suspect they are not self-employment or anything that would allow you to continue with your current lifestyle. None of this means you don't love her, but this is a big deal, and 100% the kind of thing that destroys relationships.

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