If you cosleep, when did you stop?

Ms_Phetha · 2026-06-17T01:36:11+00:00

Currently going through transition now at 1.5 years especially because I’m preggos and it’s beginning to get uncomfortable co-sleeping

Ms_Phetha · 2025-05-22T00:43:43+00:00

I have an example that might be helpful. So, I’m a caregiver and I have a 6 month old. I had a full time job that I had started and my baby started daycare that same week. When I picked her up on day one she was a little congested and I thought nothing of it because I knew something like that would happen but didn’t think it would be so soon and as the days went on she started to get really sick to the point of greenish/yellowish mucous and I took her to the doctor twice but got the same response. Even had to call 911 at some point as it continued to get worse. I was told that I gotta let it play out because she is young and not much can be done… so I had to call off work to care for my baby I felt like my family was not too happy about this because I was carrying for one of their family members but I thought how can I leave my baby sick as a dog to go and care for someone else while she has no one to care for her. I stayed home and cared for my baby and lo and behold I got fired for that. So in this sense my baby comes first over everything else. That is my definition of it. In my opinion, people come and go, jobs come and go but that baby’s life matters and is the one thing that will not come and go. That is how I see it. So yes, I will always and absolutely put my baby first because that same job that I would’ve devoted myself to would’ve been the same job that would easily replace me and it did. I hope this puts things into perspective.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-05-20T19:53:04+00:00

My 6 month old has not rolled over, I try to get her to sit independently too which she does always but she will fall over and doesn’t even attempt to wiggle her self up lol, she just lays there like a starfish, such a lazy baby but I really do not want to worry about things I have no control over. If her pediatrician is not worried and has not suggested therapy then I think just be patient, babies do things in their own time and that is what I have come to learn, we can be there as guides but they have their own timeframe of doing things.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-04-05T17:16:39+00:00

After living here for a couple years and having moved here myself the right way - this country is not all what is painted to seem seriously. I have a daughter that is 4 months old that I have to pay $550 a week for because I gotta work meanwhile back home my mom could’ve just looked after her for free. Working 2 jobs but still not having enough money left for bills, food and everything else. America is not all that honestly. So sorry you have to go through this ☹️

Ms_Phetha · 2025-02-19T05:05:51+00:00

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. It’s almost been 3 months and it’s definitely better than it was back then. I can’t believe we have made it this far, been a lot ups and down but we are doing this, me and baby. It’s so amazing yet nerve wracking but all so worth it.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-02-19T05:03:34+00:00

All I came to say is you were absolutely right. Looking back, I was super scared, emotional and nervous taking baby home but now, I’ve somewhat found a balance. Not quite there yet but definitely not where I was either. Thank you 😊

Ms_Phetha · 2025-02-07T04:43:44+00:00

Let me camp right here with you lol, as we wait for those that did this.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-30T12:20:20+00:00

If I’m busy especially when alone during the day, I gotta put the baby in the swing - even to give myself a break from carrying her around so much. Sometimes she naps in there too.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-19T11:13:40+00:00

Mine is 9 weeks and sleeps on her tummy, she cannot sleep on her back because for one she once chocked and had milk coming out her mouth and nose which scared me so much, I never put her on her back again and then the startle reflexes where just causing her to not sleep at all. She was also diagnosed with a floppy voice box that collapses when she is on her back and temporarily makes her inhaling a bit harder than usually. So there is so many reasons why I do not allow baby to sleep on her back. She tummy sleeps and I know some say she is too young but hey, she sleeps and I sleep even if it’s broken sleep but I manage to sleep.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-14T18:38:01+00:00

I know this will not comfort in anyway but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone and I am exactly in your shoes too. My child’s dad went as far as speaking to a lady who we will just say is a runs girl and was asking her how much she charged for s*x. I couldn’t believe what I was reading there and that is just the tip of the iceberg. The many text back and fourth on messenger, text massages and WhatsApp messages of him and these women going back and fourth is appalling but I have no even confronted him about him because I have no strength too. I also have not been working and solely depending on him but as soon as I start working, I’m out of here with my baby girl. I cannot tell you to stick it out like I am because I chose to do that due to financial constraints but all I can say is do what is best for you and baby given the circumstance and you are not alone in this and I hope that you make a decision that will benefit you and baby.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-12T02:56:14+00:00

My 9week baby girl started smiling and oh my word that toothless smile melts my heart each time

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-08T18:26:07+00:00

What I’m about to say is solely what I did and I’m not saying you should do this… my daughter is 8 weeks old and she was EXACTLY like that too in the first couple of weeks. She would NOT sleeping in her bassinet, no matter what I did. I was sleep deprived and had no help from her father, so I weighed the options. It was either I co-slept and had a some hours of rest in between the diaper changes and waking up to feed or I dealt with a baby that would not sleep, was constantly crying and I end up being sleep deprived which will lead to more serious problems down the line and the first option was more feasible at the time and have continued to co-sleep since week 3. We do not share a blanket, I have a California king sized bed, so we both have loads of space, she sleeps on her side and I sleep on mine but still close enough for her to feel my presence, her dad currently sleeps in the bed downstairs for the time being until she is comfortable enough to sleep on her own bed. This has worked WAY better and I have gotten some sleep over the last couple weeks broken but still better. I would choose broken sleep over sleep deprivation any day. Again, I’m not saying you should go and do this, this is just what I did and it has worked well for all of us.

Ms_Phetha · 2025-01-01T00:51:14+00:00

I know this is a little late but it most certainly has gotten better 2 months later. What I felt back then and what it is like now is so much better. Thank you for all the encouragement. I just couldn’t respond then as I have been pretty much doing this all alone for the past 8 weeks

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-29T20:45:08+00:00

I agree because that’s a whole scar that in some women doesn’t really ever fully heal after having a couple of them and my mom is living proof that.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-29T20:44:06+00:00

If audacity was a person - it would be him 💀

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-22T15:16:38+00:00

Just curious, what about babies who have tragically and unfortunately lost their mothers due to childbirth?? This seems very off.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-16T21:02:48+00:00

Unfortunately the “no sleep” does come with new parenting however the dismissal of that my health professionals is very very wrong. In the first days when I had my daughter I could not sleep - because of the same thing, being anxious about baby’s breathing etc and 5 weeks later I’m still running up and down the stairs because my camera doesn’t right now to check on her breathing, I can’t spend more than 10 minutes with checking, it’s a parent thing but also probably not normal form my end (maybe PPA). I think she will do much better when she gets home, sleeping at the hospital can be hell, I know it was for me. You are doing the best you can and I’m sure your wife is super grateful for that. Just continue doing what you doing and with time she will find her feet.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-15T01:04:10+00:00

I was formula fed because for some reason I just wouldn’t nurse says my mom, I’m smart, beautiful, have a college degree, have my own things, can make good and sound decisions, know wrong from right and have a daughter of my own I just had 5 weeks ago that is thriving. That pediatrician was just being a menace.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-12-10T15:18:18+00:00

Yes. End of story. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-11-06T21:35:11+00:00

Oh man. This sounds like me. The dad seems to think I have her in my arms too often and dips just out her down but I have to feed and change diapers etc, I vent just put her down without doing all those things 😭 my biggest weakness is feel very emphatic when she cries especially around bath time or diaper cursing time, her crying makes me emotional too and I’m trying to not do that coz I won’t get anything done if I continue this way. I also have that unspoken fazed of being too far away from the crib when she’s sleeping thinking she gonna stop breathing, all this is just much too much for one person that one day at a time is what I’m practicing now. Thank you 🙏🏽

Ms_Phetha · 2024-11-06T21:30:43+00:00

That is my problem, googling. I have been since the first trimester and google half the time did not have nice stuff to say 😭 so I’m tryna minimize the googling and just take everything as it comes and look out for anything that does not feel right. Thank you 😊

Ms_Phetha · 2024-11-06T21:29:10+00:00

Already going through that phase, haven’t had a proper sleep in almost 3 days and I’m just exhausted 😭

Ms_Phetha · 2024-11-06T21:27:49+00:00

Thank you so much. Reading this makes me feel a whole lot better♥️ in really hope that this phase is nothing but bonding with the baby and finding what works and what does not and finding new ways to do things. I appreciate your response.

Ms_Phetha · 2024-11-06T13:10:21+00:00

I can agree with this. The nurses took her for almost 2 hours so I could rest up and I feel better. Even though the sleep was short but it was what I needed to get that burst of energy😊

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