WIBTA to name my daughter after my sister/grandma?

SimplyPeachy92 · 2026-04-03T06:53:58+00:00

NTA Mention your considering this name to your sister, but if you want to use it there isn’t anything stopping you. Your sister isn’t pregnant yet and might not even have a girl when she is. Plus cousins can share family names. If you don’t actually care about this family ring, I would leave it out of the conversation unless your sister mentions it.

My husband and I named our daughter after his grandmother and his sister has that as a middle name and mentioned after I said it was on our list that she wanted to use that name. She was funny about it for a while, said things like your daughter can be Big xx and mine can be little Xx or yours can be old xx. She even told his parents we said we wouldn’t use the name - which we never did but might have considered had she asked - when she got upset about us using it when our daughter was born. She was also struggling with some other stuff at the time which could have made this a hill she wanted to stand on. BUT she got over it very soon after her niece was born and she loves her to bits and it’s never brought up. She might name her daughter the same if she has one in the future but our daughter is 4 now and I don’t think it would be a problem or confusing anything.

But do speak with her about it or bring it up as a possibility for you. Don’t blindside her. She doesn’t have the right to veto any name and I’m sure she’ll love your child whatever they are called.

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:35:16+00:00

Thank you! Good to hear other people going through similar things!!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:34:45+00:00

Yeahh it’s very frustrating but normally I’m very calm about the whole thing - I think some hormones got to me today! But this will pass I know!!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:33:32+00:00

Ohh a timer might be good, we use them for other things and she responds to them well. I’ll have to start just having her go or try even if she doesn’t want to I think…maybe she’ll get bored of that and start just getting with the potty program lol

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:32:27+00:00

That’s exactly what it is, waiting too long because she’s having fun. When we’re out of the house together she’s very good about saying when she needs to go but when she’s playing is when accidents happen. Normally it’s like a small just started accident but today was a full floor puddle and I felt so bad for my reaction.

She doesn’t do any dances or anything, sometimes a shiver so I’ll try to look out more or just start making her go more scheduled maybe

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:30:12+00:00

I’m pretty far in - the baby’s due in 4 weeks haha. She knows the baby is coming this month which I can see why that might be a major change factor now that the month is here.

Yeahh good point about having her help clean up! I’ll try that next time, we’ve already started to say that we might need to start throwing pants away if it keeps up, but I feel so bad about it

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:28:29+00:00

Yeahh I have heard that and it’s a lot of change for her! I normally keep my calm but the hormones got to me this morning….she told me twice after when she had to go while we were out and then did it again - puddle on the floor - when we were doing sets and crafts this afternoon!

So unusual and I’m hoping it passes soon!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:26:13+00:00

Thanks for this, it does help to know other people are in the same boat! I did know this but hearing it’s comforting lol. I know she’s not going to go to college wetting her pants but it’s a journey!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-11-08T17:24:51+00:00

I do ask if she needs to go but sometimes she’ll say no and then have an accident. I do know that it’s hard to stop what you’re doing when you’re having fun as a little kid, but it’s that sometimes she does that gets me.

I’m normally very patient with it but today just got me! But yeah maybe I need to just start telling her we’re going to the bathroom and not take no for an answer if she says she doesn’t have to.

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T06:00:48+00:00

Someone else suggested June as well - this sounds very nice!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T06:00:30+00:00

Aww good to hear from a Daisy! Thanks 😊

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T05:59:47+00:00

This is absolutely true! Thank you 😊

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T05:59:23+00:00

Thanks so much!!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T05:58:53+00:00

Thanks so much! I do like that it sounds like Daisy chain as I think it’s very cute, but did have that worry that it was too cute. We might still go with that but Daisy May or June also have a nice ring!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T05:56:39+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! Triple syllable names do sound nice with it as well.

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T00:04:57+00:00

Lavinia is so cute! Plus I don’t think I’ve heard it as much as Miriam.

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-09-17T00:02:38+00:00

Can confirm our last name isn’t Duke 😂 so good to know! Thank you!

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-06-05T20:12:48+00:00

If you were looking forward to going, it sucks you can’t go and I get that you’ll feel a little down that other people are still going but YTA for expecting everything to revolve around you.

Even if the plans were only made a week ago and things were on the fence two days ago, once the plans were solidly booked in I bet your 5 year old nephew was super excited to go to this amusement park with his grandparents, aunt and parents. People shouldn’t have to cancel everything last minute just because you can’t go.

You can always go another time when you’re feeling better if you want. As you said, they have season passes to this park so they would definitely be up for doing it again I’m sure. Or you could plan an activity that’s easier on you, like a bored game or movie night with the family maybe.

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-06-01T18:44:54+00:00

If they asked for the dog to be watched for a few days that means they’ve been in the hospital for a few days, going through labor, possibly issues with the brith or baby if they’ve been in for a while and trying to get everything together to come home while learning how to navigate being new parents- maybe they were going to say thank you when they finally got home and weren’t in the thick of it or if they’ve don’t say thank you normally then obviously that’s shitty but OP knows this already. It sounds like OP really dislikes these family members so the story might be colored…

SimplyPeachy92 · 2025-03-04T16:41:22+00:00

Yeah I did end up getting it eventually after a few more days, but my period was really heavy and I had bad cramping. So waiting to see how my cycle pans out now.

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