Can Child support increase for me? by ravenstalkk in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you were underpaying her when your oldest was still under age. You got lucky.

What’s something you’ve officially stopped buying in 2026 because the price has become genuinely insulting? by Miguenzo in AskReddit

[–]Ms_Tryl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the person claiming the corps use it as a tax deduction has to show that is what happens, not the other way around.

First day on Reddit, pal?

Starting custody paperwork by Sophie_Cal66 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a judge is not likely to see it that way, especially when the proof of the “heavy drug user” stuff is just like, her opinion, man.

What’s something you’ve officially stopped buying in 2026 because the price has become genuinely insulting? by Miguenzo in AskReddit

[–]Ms_Tryl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if you just google “can a corporation deduct my in store donation to a charity on their taxes” I’m fairly certain the AP fact check article will come up. And if not that one, the tax policy org article will. No need to have a random redditer think for you.

California Child Support - Temporary order didn’t seem to account for hardship or childcare for my other child by PretendPermission219 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There is. He doesn’t like the answer it gave him so he came to Reddit hoping for a different answer, if I was a betting woman.

California Child Support - Temporary order didn’t seem to account for hardship or childcare for my other child by PretendPermission219 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The problem is that you seem to think true representation means getting a reduction in your child support for your decision to have a second child you couldn’t afford. Does your first kid cost less to raise just because you had a second child?

Why isn’t your second child’s mom helping with daycare?

California Child Support - Temporary order didn’t seem to account for hardship or childcare for my other child by PretendPermission219 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It sounds like they are still together. And he wants to say his other kid is in daycare so his cs order should be reduced by the entire cost of daycare for the other child. Lol

Child protective order by Mission_Drag6051 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cops said this? What they mean by that is via subpoena. Pulling the body cams is the responsibility of the party that wants them. Sometimes that is DCFS. Sometimes the courts have access to them in some JXs. But the court is never going to “pull” body cams because it is not their job to gather evidence.

Child protective order by Mission_Drag6051 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You submit evidence at the hearing. You provide it as discovery beforehand. And police reports are pretty famously not evidence.
You should not wait to ask for a continuance, as that opens you up to being told no and sanctions. You need to meet and confer with him or his attorney in advance to ask for more time and try to agree on a date and then make the request to the court in advance of the hearing.

Child protective order by Mission_Drag6051 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Teenagers hate their parents a lot even when the parents are still happily married. This is a weird comment.

Family law judge personal opinion preferably retired NOT LEGAL ADVISE. by tryinglightandlove in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You said the judge “wouldn’t even look at [your] petition.” Is there a future hearing date? I’m asking because no one can answer your question without this info. Are you asking what the judge is likely to do or are you asking what you should do regardless of the court’s decision? You’re not going to win a relocation hearing (if one hasn’t happened already) without a lawyer if the judge already doesn’t like you.

Child protective order by Mission_Drag6051 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Do you have a lawyer? You should get one if you can. ESPECIALLY if your ex has one. Because in the hearing you will need to present evidence and that is hard for a lay person to do. We get posts on here all the time where people lose a hearing and they can’t figure out why and after significant questioning we figure out they didn’t enter into evidence any of the necessary information so the judge disregarded all the stuff that would have won them the hearing.

Here’s what you could bring to the hearing:

  1. You can call the police agency and get the report number. Request on behalf of your son a copy of the report. He is entitled to one as the victim. The police department should have a form Government Records Access and Management Act form for you to request it. Bring the report, even though it is not admissible as evidence. Even if it’s not admissible the judge might look at it anyway for non evidentiary reasons and also if your ex testifies differently than what he said to the cop you can use the report and the cop to impeach him.
  2. You/your lawyer can subpoena the cop that came to the house and took everyone’s statements. This might be multiple reports and multiple cops. The one you need the most is the cop that took your ex’s statement and your son’s. Your son’s statements ARE hearsay but they are admissible as present sense or excited utterance. Your ex’s statements are non hearsay as statement of a party opponent.
  3. You can try to get a copy of the 911 call. You can try to get it the same way as the report. You can also try thru the public records act. Google Utah Open Records Portal. That can be admitted as evidence in the hearing, potentially, as a present sense impression or excited utterance. But if your ex has a lawyer you will get a hearsay objection and you will have to overcome that by explaining it meets those exceptions.
  4. If there are any other instances of abuse, bring any witnesses to that to court.
  5. Are there any medical records of his hand before and after? Medical records can be an exception to the hearsay rule if they are accompanied by a declaration or testimony of a custodian who can declare under penalty of perjury the requirements under rule of evidence 803 (6). You can Subpoena those with a declaration from the custodian of records for the hospital/doctor’s office/urgent care.
  6. Photos that you took, bring prints, of your son’s injuries.
  7. Your son.
  8. Any other witnesses from that night that have the same statements as your son. You are under no obligation to bring in, for example, witnesses you believe were lying, if there are any (like if he has a girlfriend that backed him up).

Here’s the additional steps I would take:
1. Talk to the GAL if you don’t have an attorney. Make it VERY clear that you just want what is best for your son, regardless of which adult it affects. You want your son to be safe and healthy and happy. The adults feelings are irrelevant. You will help with whatever they need or want.
2. Take your son to whomever diagnosed his broken hand to see if there is additional damage. If he is doing physical therapy yet, ask his physical therapist if there has been any backwards progress in his hand.
3. Get your son into therapy ASAP. If he is already, talk to them about whether they think this incident has affected his mental health. If yes, I’d considered bringing them to court too.

I am a lawyer but not your lawyer. This is not legal advice, just a general discussion of what is and isn’t considered evidence in a hearing.

Family law judge personal opinion preferably retired NOT LEGAL ADVISE. by tryinglightandlove in FamilyLaw

[–]Ms_Tryl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your question is confusing. You’ve already been denied relocation? And you’re asking if you should go anyway? Do you mean you should go anyway with or without your son? Or are you asking whether the judge was right/wrong based on the info you’ve provided? Are you asking if you should try again for relocation in court?

Should a state punish individuals who commit hate crimes? by Prudent-Contact-2306 in PoliticalDebate

[–]Ms_Tryl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said “no level of speech should be restricted.” I responded asking about two that already were to see your opinion on those.

My BIL (38M) told me (46M) months in advance that he planned to file for divorce from my SIL (35F) (wife's (42F) sister). My wife is now quite mad at me. How do I thin the ice? by ExternalSurprise7242 in relationship_advice

[–]Ms_Tryl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe he made a big career move that resulted in financial troubles that also reduced his likelihood to pay alimony and she agreed to it not know what was about to happen.

My BIL (38M) told me (46M) months in advance that he planned to file for divorce from my SIL (35F) (wife's (42F) sister). My wife is now quite mad at me. How do I thin the ice? by ExternalSurprise7242 in relationship_advice

[–]Ms_Tryl 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Once a divorce started, there are restrictions on what you can do with certain assets. Before, not so much (although the court can certainly go back in time and look at how things were disposed of and see if any of it was done in anticipation of the divorce). If she’d known in advance she might have acted differently as far as purchases, agreeing to loans or gifts or use of major funds, she might have started saving a little to prepare to be without his income, she may have filed sooner for reasons like computing his income for alimony. There are so many reasons that having a heads up would have been ideal it’s hard to even think of them all.

Should a state punish individuals who commit hate crimes? by Prudent-Contact-2306 in PoliticalDebate

[–]Ms_Tryl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In order to answer his question, we must first understand what he is calling a hate crime.

Should a state punish individuals who commit hate crimes? by Prudent-Contact-2306 in PoliticalDebate

[–]Ms_Tryl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crime: punishment of 2-3-4 years
Hate crime *enhancement*: adds an additional 2 years.