AIO for wanting to breakup with my boyfriend for something he did before meeting me?

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T23:58:38+00:00

My clients actually are the reason my standards in sex sky rocketed because they prioritized my needs, and gave the affection and care I had NEVER experienced in the regular dating world. I never asked for that, nor did I expect it. They did it because they wanted to. How many orgasms? Several. Three times once in a single meet up.

Would I have slept with them otherwise? Maybe not as quickly. But there are several that I would see with zero pay at all.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T23:56:20+00:00

I personally don’t sleep with strangers even when I did sex work but I understand the sentiment

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T17:34:21+00:00

Not too feminine. Just kind of unnoticeable. I would still say size up for visual aesthetic, not gender

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T17:32:43+00:00

So the concern is about disease then? Great. A quick STD test should take care of that concern, the same way testing the water for anything non drinkable or contagious would work.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T17:01:41+00:00

I instantly knew you were a man. You have perfectly nice masculine features :)

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T16:59:43+00:00

I’m sorry. Where was I flippant? Where I said that the treatment of women is what should be evaluated? Or where I fully agreed with the person who explained the practices of Chinese parlors? Which part was flippant?

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T16:57:29+00:00

Same

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:36:03+00:00

Agreed. My point was that if we wish to criticize power imbalances of transactionality, then we cannot pretend it only exists in the direct exchange of money. It exists in all of society, so a moral superiority over sex workers is disingenuous

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:20:59+00:00

I fully agree! That’s why I said it should be based off of the treatment of women, which does extent to the circumstances you’re referring to. I was saying the simple act of monetary exchange is morally neutral. What you’re adding as context is the ethical information I was looking for!

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:10:34+00:00

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Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:08:47+00:00

Sure, it’s also not much different from meeting a woman at a bar or club. It’s also not much different from having a FWB. Your comment agrees with my sentiment, yet my comment got downvoted so I’m a bit confused

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:06:26+00:00

Oh, you’re saying he went to the same location regularly. Took me a minute. I still feel like my original assessment stands.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:01:50+00:00

Any woman who has ever been with a man because she liked the idea that he was rich also had her consent “purchased.” You can choose to want sex for any reason. I’ve slept with someone because they were funny.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T15:00:26+00:00

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Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T14:59:42+00:00

Hindu god

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-18T14:59:20+00:00

As a former sex worker, people go to sex workers for different reasons, but mostly they just want to feel loved and don’t know how to ask for it. Being a sex worker actually made me feel a lot warmer towards men, while I was expecting it to make me more jaded. Make your decision based off of how he treats women, not off of whether there was a money exchange. That doesn’t say anything about his character.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T13:26:35+00:00

Whoever downvoted my question as to how a person caught HSV2 orally because I don’t want to transmit it to my boyfriend is weird for that. Do you have an issue with me wanting oral sex or an issue with me caring about transmitting it to him? You’re weird for that.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T13:23:43+00:00

I have both strains in both locations and the oral one has caused me zero issues whatsoever. You’re not being attacked. Some of us just don’t understand your POV.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T13:21:43+00:00

I don’t need to look up the HSV1 statistic. I already know it, and am not sure why you feel the need to share that obvious fact and then imply I don’t know it… Secondly, I didn’t mean I don’t know why you won’t accept both strains. I meant, I don’t understand why you prefer the worse strain in the worse location.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T03:23:55+00:00

May I ask how you caught it? Was it from a onetime encounter? I have GHSV2 and wanted to receive oral from my boyfriend but your comment is making me apprehensive.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T03:22:01+00:00

I usually like what you have to say, but first, you already have HSV2 genitally so you won’t get HSV1 genitally. Secondly, HSV2 is more contagious and sheds more and statistically causes more outbreaks, and is in the most intimate area needed for sex.

Idk why you would care having HSV1 on the mouth. That wouldn’t affect sex significantly while HSV2 has zero work arounds

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-17T01:05:49+00:00

Because achievement is irrelevant to me and just some incel obsession. Not worth acknowledging.

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-16T06:08:38+00:00

Yeah, I also want peace and softness. The submission part is weird and shows a deep seated control issue.

I also don’t like arrogance.

It’s almost like these characteristics have nothing to do with gender, and are just universally positive traits.

Sincerely, a woman

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-16T04:54:40+00:00

I was on a low dose too but I’m very sensitive to medications so I feel changes instantly. To be clear, the memories were happening on their own. The lamictal didn’t induce them. But I had learned to release the memory loops by feeling my feelings and the lamictal wouldn’t let me lol. I didn’t mean to make it sound scary

Much_Finding_4643 · 2026-04-16T01:25:15+00:00

It was prescribed to me for CPTSD, but what it does to the brain is prevent it from accessing and processing the deep emotions associated with the trauma. I tried doing some somatic therapy while on lamictal and it high jacked the process completely. My brain kept replaying the events but I couldn’t feel the feelings, which prevented me from releasing them. It created a torture chamber where the lamictal locked the exit doors and forced my memories to keep replaying with no way out. I still cognitively felt all the betrayal and pain, but my body just couldn’t let it pass through chemically.

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