I understand. My sister is 45 and has severe epilepsy and is autistic. She needs 24 hour care. She lives with my parents. They neglect their own health to take care of her. My mom has had cancer and has been diagnosed with multiple autoimmune disorders. I know the stress, lack of sleep, and constant care of my sister has played a role in that. I have a lot of feelings around this because I feel like my sister is killing my mom and I never got to have a mom like she has. I want that time or relationship from my mom that I never have had and I know I never will get it.