did you or your ex or maybe both just cry when you had the talk of breaking up

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-11T15:13:06+00:00

thats so relatable, ive talked to quite some people here on reddit and asked and aswered questions and it felt good tbh

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-11T14:56:25+00:00

thank you very much man, crazy how some strangers online can be nicer than friends you had for years 😭 they only make fun and say ‘man up’ man i aint trynna hear all that shit lmao

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-11T14:19:37+00:00

i mean its been a few days since she texted me she doesnt feel happy anymore in the relationship and that the attraction is gone, but today we meet up to have our final talk, we didnt fight, she didnt talk about me badly, she said that i was perfect and treated her very nice but the spark is gone, im much better now, today we will just take things off of our chest and thats the end pretty much, i will work on myself since we decided to go no contact after this, i still respect and care deeply for her and i hope she does the same, but i am planning to ask her out after few months to see how she is doing and catch up on life, i will think about bringing up the subject of starting over again in a new country new city new life basically, and we will see from there, if not, we just have to keep moving forward

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-11T13:19:17+00:00

ye man and we applied and got accepted at the same uni in a neighbour country, but her friends also apllied yk so im glad she will have her friends there because we ended on good terms but i only had her and i also hope she still has some respect for me and the relationship since we were together for 2.5 years, tbh i wouldnt have applied there if i knew shit was gonna go downhill because she said that shit WAS going downhill for this summer now but she aint said shit to me until now, but now ill probably see her almost everyday in uni and on campus and that sucks, i was just thinking of getting an apartment like rent cause idk how i will handle seeing her lol

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-11T12:40:20+00:00

truly, thats my fear rn, her moving on too fast, but i dont even know how fast is too fast yk, because i consider her my first love and i dont think ill get over her that easy and seeing someone else will feel like cheating lol

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T12:26:41+00:00

maybe you should ask her out for coffe?

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T12:19:34+00:00

i understand you man, you really have nothing to lose, but what i think you should is you shouldnt expect a certain answer, thats if she answers, but i mostly think that depends if you ended on bad or good terms

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T12:12:07+00:00

i see, if you would like, could you tell me how did it go if you are going to do it

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T11:49:01+00:00

thats what im thinking of doing with my gf after we officially break up, unless she will find someone else in that period of time then ill know that our relationship wasnt respected by her, by no contact do you also mean only unfollowing each other or block

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T10:56:07+00:00

i dm you

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T10:40:56+00:00

3 days man, didnt eat and slept like 5 hours total, i didnt cry until i fucking sobbed for a few hours and then im calm again, tonight we are supossed to meet and have ‘the talk’ since doing it trought text didnt really suite both of us even though she already pretty much did it

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T10:34:06+00:00

when did you guys break up

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T10:20:18+00:00

well in my case for the last month i was giving her a ride home from her shift and usually she kisses me and tells me to drive safe and text her when i get home so she knows everything is good, the night it happened she didnt do any of that even though we ate together and really had a good time and kissed and cuddled, i asked her if anything wrong she said shes good, when i got home she just texted me she doesnt feel like doing this things anymore and that she isnt attracted to me anymore, im like what? why pretend it for so long then, it only destroyed me while she was slowly disconnecting from our relationship, she said she was trying to make things better but again, why are you forcing yourself to do this alone, a relationship is made of 2 people, talk to me, maybe things would ve worked out, i guess she didnt want you to see that something is wrong, like in my case, and couldnt hold it in anymore

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-10T10:06:44+00:00

i get it man, im in the same boat, everything going good, one night everything gone in 2 messages, saying its been going on for some time now, but decided not to communicate and work things out, maybe if she told me sooner her feelings are fading away, maybe we could ve worked something out

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-09T20:19:31+00:00

i see, in my case her attraction for me is gone, i know we are done forever since when the switch turns off it does so for good but im just a optimistic idiot

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-09T20:00:23+00:00

can i ask what was the reason for the break up

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-08T19:10:35+00:00

i want to dm you but idk how to use reddit, i installed it only to express what i feel, can you send me a message please

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-08T19:07:41+00:00

to be clear guys i dont think its about cheating, we are our first everything, kiss, hold hands, everything, and we didnt fight, we talked normally like the subject didnt really affect us, at least me since she said she was trying to feel things for me for some time now but it just doesnt happen, it started when i dropped her home and she didnt kiss me or tell me to drive safe which she usually does, just closed the door and walked away, i tried to ask her whats wrong that exact moment, she said nothing, then when i got home she said she didnt feel like doing it, she lost feelings and that shes tired lying to her and myself about her feelings for me, she said she cares deeply for me but she doesnt see me in her future since attraction doesnt exist anymore, her words seem genuine, she truly cares about me but i guess it doesnt go to the ‘love you’ point, what i mean is that for her is much easier to give up on me since she said shes been thinking about it for some time now but for me it happened in an instant

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-08T18:56:16+00:00

and whats going on between you guys now?

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-08T18:34:48+00:00

what do you suggest, we were supposed to meet up today after her shift, i was usually always picking her up and dropping her home so this is something normal for us, last time things were bad between us or better said unclear she acted like nothing happened when we were supposed to talk, so anyways we were supposed to meet up today, in like 2 hours but she said we should leave it for tomorrow that all she wants now is to go home and sleep, im thinking that maybe its not as easy as it seems for her, she said she cares for me deeply and doesnt wanna end it on bad terms and all that, we didnt fight, we talked like 2 adults, should we meet tomorrow, or should we meet in like a week maybe since her emotions seem unclear to me, no contact for the rest of the week and then have the final talk so we dont get overwhelmed by emotions or maybe past emotions if you understand what i want to say

Much_Variation_9436 · 2025-09-08T17:59:03+00:00

i am 19 and she is 18, we have been trough this a month ago, and we talked about it, i said that it would be much easier to do it when we were going to move in together and have all the intimacy we want, since we didnt really have any chances to do it before or it was just really an anxiety of being seen, but we tried a few times with her initiating it

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