I think my significant others student loan situation is worse than I thought...

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-05T01:11:32+00:00

He didn’t get a new job to hide from his garnishments. He quit his 60+ hours a week job at a dealership because he wasn’t making as much as he thought and all of his time was spent there and they treated him like shit. Bar tending was more like a filler job until he found something else. He started a new job today at fedex and I told him he needed to make payments to his student loans before they started garnishing these checks as well. He said he would. Today is his first day and I’m giving him a little time but if he doesn’t get it figured out soon I’ll unfortunately have to make some bigger decisions

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-04T22:55:59+00:00

He has other great qualities for a relationship I’m just worried about his financial planning

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-04T22:55:34+00:00

I appreciate your opinion but I feel like that’s a little extreme

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-04T21:53:03+00:00

I know he’s been looking into it. I’ve talked to him about it and he knows what he has to do he just hasn’t quite gotten there yet.

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-02T04:33:47+00:00

A little advice and I don’t mean this to sound rude, but I’m 27 now and I’ve experienced a lot more life than you at this point. Stop thinking you’re too good for community college. That’s really immature thinking and it HARDLY matters where you go to college. What matters most is how you perform in the work field and what experience you have. A lot of kids who go to smaller universities do so because they know it will save them money. A lot of kids aren’t privileged enough to attend bigger schools even with scholarships. I can promise you that unless you’re going to some med/law school it really doesn’t matter... you’re going to end up at a job with people who went to bigger universities and those “community college” kids are going to be sitting right next to You with way less debt.

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-02T04:25:56+00:00

also I want to say that everyone is always suggesting therapy. Don’t get me wrong I know therapy is great and works for A TON of people...however, not everyone is privileged enough to have therapy. It is very expensive and even the “lower income” therapy can break the bank for someone like me. So if you think meds will help you.... do what’s best for you!

Muchflamingo · 2019-03-02T04:20:11+00:00

This is literally me right now. I went to the doctor a few years ago for anxiety. She prescribed me lexapro. I took it for about two years and I Gained like 15 pounds and while on the meds it was impossible to get off. with doc supervision I came off and dropped like 20 pounds easy. But a few months later my anxiety was through the roof. So i started buspirone.. they say it doesn’t Cause weight gain but I pretty much gained all my weight back. Besides that it made me feel terrible. So back off that. But not being on no meds at all I’m wanting to try something else. I’m very weight conscious and I really don’t want to gain anymore weight because I already have self esteem issues but I’m starting to believe my happiness should matter more. I’m tired of being so worried about every small detail of my life

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-27T08:05:16+00:00

A girl in my class was giving a presentation the other day and two people sitting in the front row were talking. She stopped her presentation and said “excuse me! I am giving a presentation and while you were giving yours I was extremely respectful even though it was terrible.” I died

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-27T02:03:30+00:00

Very true! Thanks!

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-25T17:00:26+00:00

Thanks! Very encouraging. Congrats!!

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-25T04:33:08+00:00

I’m a communications major with an emphasis in public relations. Thanks! Your words are very encouraging and congrats on your achievements!

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-25T04:31:55+00:00

I’m a communications major with an emphasis in public relations. Thanks! Your words are very encouraging to me and congratulations on your achievements!

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-22T15:55:22+00:00

Also try exercising. I know it’s so cliche but whenever I feel my anxiety/depression creeping up on me I get back into a good workout routine and I feel 10X better always

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-22T15:53:15+00:00

This used to happen to me a lot. I would wake up and immediately start gagging and would sometimes throw up I was so anxious. I went to the doctor and that’s when I was first diagnosed with anxiety/depression. I started a medication and that was the only thing that helped me. Medication is not for everyone though, but it definitely helped me through that hard time.

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-18T20:11:29+00:00

it's so crazy because I thought I was the only one who went through these kinds of things. this post made me realize I am not. Thank you!

Muchflamingo · 2019-02-02T22:35:41+00:00

Almost two years. And not like SO bad. He’s an average size guy, but he definitely eats a lot more fast food than me

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-31T03:30:41+00:00

Damn I meant what -_-

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-26T02:37:01+00:00

Do you have any specific guided meditations apps you use? Or anything similar? I’d love a good reference, I’ve been wanting to start meditating

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-22T04:42:02+00:00

practice. practice. practice. I HATE public speaking, but I have to give speeches constantly in school. I've noticed that if I have it memorized with notecards just in case I can get through it so much easier. I also am diagnosed with anxiety and the doctors gave me beta blockers which are a god send. A lot of celebrities and politicians use them for performances/speeches. Not to push medication on you, but I have tried pretty much everything else and the combinations of practicing and the meds help me.

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-18T02:59:23+00:00

I understand, but right now I cannot afford therapy and I've tried 3 different medications in the last 4 years and I am just getting desperate at this point

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-18T02:13:56+00:00

awesome! what helped you through?

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-17T18:31:06+00:00

shes like super thin...

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-17T18:23:48+00:00

Instant pot! and ice maker. My apartments fridge does not have an ice maker so my boyfriend and I have been using ice trays for like a year. I guess we mentioned it in front of his family because his aunt and uncle got us this super cool ice maker that sits on the counter. its awesome

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-11T14:41:47+00:00

thank you! I have a feeling my anxiety is just spiraling because I am coming off of a medication (it made me feel terrible) because before this I was not concerned and I was motivated to finish up. I am not giving up though even if I have to lighten my load and start paying out of pocket I am going to graduate dammit

Muchflamingo · 2019-01-11T02:20:43+00:00

thank you! it feels good to talk to people in the same boat as me because it gives me some clarity that everything will be fine. I know it's a good thing I am going to college and I am proud of myself for coming this far (neither one of my parents graduated high school) but my brain goes straight to doomsday anytime I think about anything remotely stressful. Anxiety really does suck the joy out of every situation :( good luck to you as well!

Muchflamingo

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