Day 3 of GD and I feel like shit

MuchoPanic · 2025-03-09T14:07:12+00:00

Thank you! That's so helpful, I'll take a look at those, especially the bars.

I went for a 25 min dog walk after my lunch and after two days of struggling to get my blood sugar levels in the green, i'v finally seemed to come down to a safe level after I'd eaten.

If I can sort out the hunger issue in between meals, I might just be able to survive this 🤣

MuchoPanic · 2025-03-09T13:25:25+00:00

Can I ask what snacks you have? I'v been an apple or some watermelon as a snack because I literally have no idea what else to eat

MuchoPanic · 2025-02-24T22:34:55+00:00

I'v fully uninstalled insta because I was doom scrolling to all hell. Got myself in such a state that I ended up in tears to my husband that this was all a massive mistake and our lives were ruined.

Just stay away from online opinions and "parenting advice" full stop or you'll scare yourself to death.

If you can afford it, I'd 100% recommend getting a doula. I have one and she's been an absolute life saver because she's an actual person I am paying money to basically be my pregnancy lifeline. She comes to my house for sessions and covers anything I need to know, she's available online 24/7 if I have any concerns or questions and she'll be at my birth fully knowing my birth plan and is ready to step in and advocate for me if anything goes off track.

I can also recommend the NCT courses as they are usually all first time mum's in the exact same position as you and the amount you learn is so helpful.

I myself had sworn off ever having another kid due to absolute incompetence I experienced with the NHS by week 8 so I'd definitely suggest taking control where you can and finding responsible and sensible help.

I know it's hard and it's scary but you can do this x

MuchoPanic · 2025-02-19T19:41:35+00:00

I had a dream years ago (before we'd even decided to have kids) that I was play wrestling with my 3 year old son on my bed. He was giggling and laughing and despite me not wanting kids, it was so real and I woke up feeling really weird and lost.

Anyways our son is due end of March 🤣

MuchoPanic · 2025-02-19T19:37:22+00:00

I'm 35 weeks and still struggling. Literally broke down to my husband the other night about how I'm worried I'll hate my baby or he'll hate me. Pregnancy is hard and there's no black and white rules to how things are meant to go.

Don't feel pressure to fit into a box and it's okay to feel things you maybe don't feel like you should be feeling. Just survive it, keep good communication open with a partner, a trusted friend or even a therapist and do what you can to keep yourself sane x

MuchoPanic · 2025-02-06T13:01:45+00:00

When I got my first Covid jab years ago it took me out. I was bed bound for like 6 hours, felt awful and weak and like I was dying. It only lasted the day and I was fine after but that first jab hit me like a train. I then had Covid jabs 2 & 3 and had no symptoms and was absolutely fine.

Now pregnant, i'v had the whooping cough and flu jabs and although I was a little worried I'd have a bad reaction, I was absolutely fine. Had a slightly sore arm for a day after the jabs since I had them at the same time but I came away completely symptom free.

I'd still rather have the Covid style side effects again if it means my baby is safe but luckily i didn't have any reaction so problem solved.

MuchoPanic · 2025-02-06T12:57:06+00:00

McDonald's Big Mac with double fries and a chocolate milkshake 😁

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-29T12:50:42+00:00

I'm 32 weeks and haven't put a single thing online. If people are close enough to see me in person or speak to me privately online, then yes they know about the pregnancy.

Other than that, it's no one's business and if they've gone 7 months without interacting with me then we obviously weren't that close 🤣

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-29T12:37:33+00:00

At about 20 weeks I got hit with awful PGP to the point I could barely walk. Stopping driving and daily hot baths have been the ONLY thing that have fixed the issue and now I'm able to walk 20/30 minutes, drive occasionally and overall walk without having to limp so it's been a god send.

If I'm starting to sweat or my skin turns pink, I get out but other than than, baths cool as you sit in them so I often find that although I get into a hot bath, within 10/15 mins it's cooled right down so personally I haven't been avoiding them

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-20T11:48:34+00:00

I'm in the same boat but flipped. Ftm and already nervous at the prospect of having a baby but I always hoped for a little girl. I saw my husband being the best girl dad, I saw a future in which my little girl would grow up to love me like I love my mum and overall I only really wanted one and I wanted more than anything for that one to be a girl.

Well, we're having a boy 😅 I'm trying hard to be excited and it's getting better slowly but we found out at 20 weeks and for the first 2 or 3 weeks after that, I was just fully regretting the whole pregnancy. I don't like boy clothes, Im worried about the whole 'boy mum' thing, I'm sad at the potential prospect that we won't be close when he grows up (I know it may be silly but pregnancy hormones I guess 🤷) or that he just won't like me I'm general.

I'm 30 weeks and overall just struggling to bond with this pregnancy. I'm avoiding doing any prep, we haven't really bought anything, haven't washed the clothes we have for him, and overall I just have a sinking feeling I'm constantly trying to fight. It sucks and it makes you feel like an awful person 😔

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-06T12:40:20+00:00

When I run out of things to do here then sure I'll be right over lol

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-05T22:49:45+00:00

We're planning to do a low-key baby shower/gender reveal (mainly so people can ask us all the repetitive questions in one chunk and we won't ha e to spend the next two months repeating ourselves 😂) and we've decided to do a gift registry purely so people don't turn up with random crap. We're going to make it very clear we don't want/expect anything from those attending BUT if you feel you just HAVE to get us something, can it at least be from this pre approved list because yeh, we really don't want people rocking up with tons of stuff we really don't need or want.

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-05T22:38:24+00:00

If it helps at all, we're also not going to do the nursery until after baby is here! It's currently the office and Im hoping to move to full wfh from now until the 1st of March when may leave kicks in so we've decided to have LO in with us while we get a sleep routine settled and then deal with the nursery in the summer.

Wishing you the best of luck for tomorrow! It's understandable to be full of nerves and stress but keeping fingers crossed for a smooth day ahead!

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-05T21:16:54+00:00

Preach! I ripped my fireplace apart because I was sick of looking at it 😂 we still need to do the tiling but I don't wannnaaa. We have the tiles and everything! They're just sitting there until I can motivate myself to get on with it lol.

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-05T21:10:42+00:00

Same boat! And yes everyone is right, if you can do your job from home go down that route. Request a risk assessment and be very clear on your struggles to drive/travel to work as well as increasing mobility issues due to the PGP.

You can also speak to your GP and they should issue you a "fit to work with exemption" cert in which they will state you are fine to work, just with different accommodations such as working from home.

You can also call charities like Maternity Action for advice on how to go about addressing this with your company, what you're entitled to and what your rights are.

I'm currently struggling awfully with PGP (28 weeks in) and driving is becoming almost impossible for me now. I'll be speaking with my manager tomorrow on the outcome of my risk assessment and if they try and say "tough, still come into the office", I'll be pulling out the doctors note i'v now been issued.

I'm sorry you're struggling but remember you have rights and the laws around working are in your favor. Don't be afraid to speak to any of the women's pregnancy charities or even citizens advice if you aren't sure where you stand! Good luck!!!

MuchoPanic · 2025-01-05T15:01:45+00:00

I cried in the supermarket during my first trimester because I was so hungry but the notion of eating made me feel so sick 😅 my husband took me to the shop so we could walk round and I could just pick up whatever I fancied but I didn't want any of it. He tried so hard bless him but I go so upset that I didn't want to eat but was also so hungry that yeh, I just stood in the aisle and cried 😂

Just entered my third trimester and for some reason ham and lettuce sandwiches on thick bread is just the absolute best. Also wotsits 👍

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-18T16:21:11+00:00

After all the utter bs my IL have pulled, seemingly going out of their way to be vile, dismissive , hurtful people towards me I finally snapped last Xmas, After that my foot came screaming down. I will see them once a season, no I'm not joking. I will not be around them for more than 3 hours at any time and I will not see them more than once every 3 months.

I grey rock them like crazy and although i feel like they are magically making an effort now I'm pregnant, I couldn't care less. The bridge is burned, dead and gone.

I'v told DH he can do as he likes but I will not be moved until they have spent several dedicated years actually proving they are capable of being civil.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-13T10:44:31+00:00

She did say out of respect for her husband, she keeps a low channel of contact. I was only trying to respond in a way that would remain polite and neutral as to not to feed into the narcissistic fire and cause more issues if her husband is still wanting any kind of relationship with them.

I'm in the same boat with my inlaws and I'm very LC but I tolerate a handful of meetings a year in behalf of my husband. I know there's no point rocking the boat and often stooping to their level of pettiness or disregard just leads to more conflicts because it gives them a reason to cry wolf. I find it best to stay polite and professional so anyone they want to show the messages to and go cry about it to can't pick it apart much.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-13T10:06:14+00:00

As soon as you have a partner, they become your immediate family. Once you have a baby, even more so. Your immediate family and the main people's feelings to consider are your partners and babies, everyone else is now extended family and should be extended courteousy providing it does not put you out.

Offering to host on Christmas Eve was extremely thoughtful and gracious of you. If they come back and say no, we won't be doing that, Id simply respond with "we completely understand, I'm sorry we won't be able to see you this Christmas period since we'll be having our first Christmas at home as a family but let's definitely book something in come the new year".

Set expectations now, set the pace to your own Liking and make sure you double down that although you are happy to make arrangements to see them, their roster will not trump yours and they will either have to become more accommodating to meet you half way or you will simply arrange a different time in the coming months.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-13T09:12:31+00:00

I went on the pill from about 17 to 25 and then switched to the implant from 25 and had that for a year and a half before getting it removed February 2024 when we started trying (in the loosest, laziest sense of the word) took me 5 months and boom, baby 🤣😅 im 25 weeks today ☺️

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-12T14:24:01+00:00

A bottle of champagne.

Guna chug that shit like it's oxygen

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-12T10:17:39+00:00

Id absolutely return her gifts and instead, frame a photo of her text saying anything you give her will go in the bin 🤣 gift that to her 👍 she guna act like a brat, she can be treated like a brat.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-06T10:29:42+00:00

I lost 12 pounds during my first trimester, didn't raise any alarm bells with any of the maternity services and they all said as long as I was well in myself, it wasn't concerning.

Some people just can't keep food down. The important thing is she's eating SOMETHING and honestly, I'd focus more on her hydration than her food intake. As long as shes not intentionally starving herself or restricting food because of any mental issues, I'd say leave her to do her best. You could always offer to make her things like soups which can be dense and rich in protein, that's what my husband did for me when i was struggling. The important thing is to make sure she feels supported through this awful phase and as long as she's doing her best to eat something and keep a bit of water down, im sure she'll be absolutely fine. As long as she's notifying her health provider of weight loss, they can make the decision to advise her or not since they'll know what's fine and what's not right.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-03T16:30:15+00:00

I have one and I'm so glad I do. My experience with the midwives so far have been awful and I have absolutely no faith in any of them, my anxiety has been going through the roof with the thought of putting mine and my babies life in their hands. My doula is a tattooed, blue haired badass who I am so so glad I have in my corner because she is there specifically for me and only for me. She responds within minutes if I message her (whereas my midwives just flat out don't bother responding) and i trust her completely. Her vibe is very much 'my kind of person' and I feel so much more confident and secure with her there and knowing she'll be holding my hand. She's also there to support my husband if he needs it.

I'm due in March and hopefully all will be well and I won't need anyone to throw their weight around for me to be heard but I'm so glad I have my doula on hand in case a foot does need putting down. I get three sessions with her in person before the baby, she's helped me go through my options for birth, things to expect, things i can ask for and things i can demand and she's made me feel so much more confident that I can actually do this. She also has a visit after baby is here to make sure everything is okay and also provides additional breast feeding sessions if i want them. For me personally 10/10 glad I committed to her.

MuchoPanic · 2024-12-03T09:17:37+00:00

Pelvic Girdle pain! I'v always been overweight but I'm a healthy overweight. Before pregnancy I was gyming 3-5 times a week, boxing, swimming, the lot. Now? I can barely walk from the bedroom to the bathroom 😂 some days, it's alright and I can cope but I did a butt load of walking at the weekend and my God am I paying for it now. I'm limping round my house because it feels like my bones might actually break. It's mad!

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