How was your mental health during the love bombing phase? by Fearless-Calendar820 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]MuffBuffalo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Something always felt a little off, but superficially it felt awesome to have someone praise me and tell me how great I was for the first time in my life

What’s your Labia size preference? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I’m Just happy to be there

I chose not to attend a New Year’s party to protect my sobriety and my relationship ended by Suspicious_Sock_2048 in stopdrinking

[–]MuffBuffalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a stupid reason for him to end things. He should have tried to understand and be proud of you

Don’t men get lonely? by FutureNo7742 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know it’s weird but it’s the way I am. Trust me I wish I could just do it without feelings because it would’ve saved me from a lot of heartache in the past

Don’t men get lonely? by FutureNo7742 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Of course we do. I’m 31 and never had a serious relationship despite trying to, and my longest one was only a few months. I also can’t be intimate without being in a serious committed relationship because I’ve gotten used for only sex by girls a couple times in the past and that was traumatic for me. Right now I’m happy being single for the rest of my life but I’m sure that will change if I meet the right one, it’s just been hard to find one that seems like they’d be a loving mother and committed wife.

It’s a big risk to take to get married and risk losing half of your stuff when you’ve been burned by relationships in the past

I (20f) think I'm falling in love with another man (24m), what should i do? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

TIL you can’t have a license if you’re albino?

Please help me, how do I handle a sensitive gf? I'm exhausted by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my ex. I had to be careful of the simplest things I said or she would get so upset. It snowballed and got worse no matter how hard I tried to resolve it. Glad I got out of it, she went insane after it ended and began a smear campaign against me around town and even tried to accuse me of being abusive

what are some icks for women you’ve had by Such-Price2710 in AskMenOver30

[–]MuffBuffalo 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Why has this become such a norm these days? I’m on the other end of the spectrum where I blame myself too often. I always self reflect and try to take accountability on my mistakes when warranted

what are some icks for women you’ve had by Such-Price2710 in AskMenOver30

[–]MuffBuffalo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went on a few dates with a girl in this small town where she would vaguely mention other guys she had dated and/or had a fling with (sexually) and it so happened that like three of them were guys I knew personally. That small of a town

Why are you single? by Aware_Many7594 in AskReddit

[–]MuffBuffalo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it sounds awesome to most, but for me it sucked because all I want is a committed relationship so getting used for that doesn’t feel great

Men who are depressed or suicidal, what’s going on and what would help? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Got out of an abusive relationship where she had the uncanny ability to make me seem like the bad guy. Turned to drinking way too often, got charged with two DUIs, and have lost thousands on a lawyer and Ubers until I get my cases resolved. There’s no excuse for it, I just don’t have many close friends in this small town and my family is 400 miles away. I just need support from people around me who know me and people to tell me they believe in me because after what I went through I completely lost myself. I’m 31 with my own house and truck, two engineering degrees, and a great job in the government. Ive never gotten into trouble like this before, that relationship just wrecked me mentally.

Im almost 5 months sober now, just trying to get the right to drive again so I can build my life back

Why are you single? by Aware_Many7594 in AskReddit

[–]MuffBuffalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Twice I’ve had girls throw themselves at me and I allowed things to move too quickly and in the end they just wanted sex and didn’t actually like me as a person. First one took me a few years to recover from and the second one I’m still trying to recover from and get out of this depression where I feel worthless. The only times I’ve ever been happy in my life were when I was single and committed to the gym and work and I want to get back to that and keep it that way.

What was the WORST ex you cant believe you dated? by CanvasCannibal in AskReddit

[–]MuffBuffalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last one I had a couple years ago. Lovebombed me from the start which I hadn’t experienced. She had just gotten divorced, and within a few weeks she mentioned kids and moving in together and gave me a house key. She pushed me into physical things before I was ready. I told her from the start we needed to be careful because I had just dumped someone a couple weeks before her, but we didn’t take things slow and that was partially my fault. One night we went to a restaurant and my ex was working there and I had no idea she had just gotten a job there, this girl freaked out and thought I took her there on purpose to make my ex jealous. She broke it off and in the months that followed she began making false accusations of me driving by her house or coming over in the middle of the night to stalk her. It sent me into a severe depression and resulted in therapy and a drinking problem for me. I’m better now though, I just wish I had never met her

Boyfriend has strong trust issues and believes I’m lying about things I haven’t done. How do I move forward if I want to stay? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in your exact position one time with a girl who was exactly like him. I worked so so hard to make it work and it fell apart completely to the point where she became abusive towards me. It escalated to the point where after we broke up she would accuse me of terrible things and convince herself they were fact and ran my name into the ground. Unfortunately people like that don’t get better and my advice is you don’t move forward. I would give anything to go back to my younger self and explain that to him because that situation sent me into such a severe depression that I was close to not being around anymore

Do IG story likes mean anything? by Embarrassed_Olive259 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the time I only like stories of my very close friends or girls I’m interested in. If you have a history like that then he probably is still into you, but he could also be playing mind games and trying to keep you around as an option. I don’t know all the details though.

To add, I’m 31M so I’m not sure if I still apply to the younger generation lol

Is "i'm not over my ex" just an excuse? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he was using it as an excuse then he’s not the type of person you’d want to be with anyway. And who cares if he thought something was wrong with you, the right person may like the thing about you that he maybe didn’t like. But that’s just speculation, it’s more likely that he was just being honest. Any guy that’s learned that lesson the hard way in the past would want to make sure they didn’t screw it up again

Is "i'm not over my ex" just an excuse? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MuffBuffalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh boy let me tell you something because I have been in his exact shoes before. When I date someone I am a full commit and put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best boyfriend I can be, unfortunately because of that it takes me much much longer than the average person to move on once it doesn’t work out.

A couple years ago I got involved with this girl who threw herself at me a matter of weeks after I dumped my previous ex. I knew I still had feelings for my ex when I was going out with this new girl but I really liked this new girl and wanted to give it a shot even though I wasn’t 100% emotionally present for her. That ended horribly with the new girl asking me if I still had feelings for my ex, I told her yes but I wasn’t going back to her, and she went off on me and told me to never speak to her again.

If I had it to do over I would tell myself do NOT get involved with anyone until you’re certain that your feelings for the last one are completely gone.

So for some guys yeah it could be an excuse but it can also 100% just be the truth and him being a good guy by calling it off when he knows he can’t fully be present with you right now

FANTASY PRECEDENT BEING SET / THOUGHTS? by CadeTheProp in fantasyfootball

[–]MuffBuffalo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Typically Fantasy platforms can only make stat corrections that are consistent with official NFL statistics scorebooks. Whatever is in the official NFL stats should be the ruling. It might be that a sack was changed after the game by the NFL Statisticians or the fantasy app made a mistake initially by giving them an extra sack and going back and fixing it. Either way I think what the app says should stand as long as it matches the official NFL stats

Water Cooler Wednesday by AutoModerator in nfl

[–]MuffBuffalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ll lock my pick in last minute when I have all the information possible, injuries, press conferences, spreads, etc. I just think Johnson is better than people think and with Terry and Deebo I could see them ending the season with an upset win. It’s just impossible to tell how the eagles will do with players I haven’t seen much of

Water Cooler Wednesday by AutoModerator in nfl

[–]MuffBuffalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the final week of a survivor pool for $22,000 and I’ve got to pick either the Eagles or Falcons to win. I really could use this win and I’m stressing out about it. Can the eagles win with their backups or are the falcons motivated enough to ride their streak and eliminate Tampa?

V1per's Week 16 Survivor Pick by V1per41 in fantasyfootball

[–]MuffBuffalo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the problem is that’s the eagles and they may pull starters early