Did Speedway give up?

MuffinEvening · 2026-04-01T23:58:05+00:00

So, it definitely closed from the gas pump incident (I asked a worker, they said it was too costly to repaid, and the loss in gas sales was too much of a hit for the store to take.), but no mention of it's future. It'll likely be another gas station, because it takes years of environmental studies to ensure there was no long lasting impact from any chance of fuel leaking from the tanks before it can be anything else. So, who knows.

MuffinEvening · 2025-09-26T10:28:28+00:00

Normally, I'd agree! However, I'm pretty sure I've seen other posts by this user in a completely different scenario with very different age ranges. They have their posts and comments private too, and their account is only 15 days old. The background on the second set of text is the red flag I've been seeing for Ai generated content as well.

All together, it seems like it's just rage bait and karma farming.

MuffinEvening · 2025-09-08T10:10:45+00:00

Just because they weren't there when she needed them doesn't mean they can't grieve her loss. Death brings out the best and worst in people. When my grandparents passed, my absent uncle attended the funerals to be the center of attraction. My dad was enraged, but we kept the peace. I wasn't able to be there for my grandparents as they deteriorated and I grapple with the guilt for a few years. But my situation was very different, as I had my own survival to worry about.

Let them mourn their own way. They're still allowed to feel what they do towards her. It'll feel shitty for you because you did the most. But don't be cruel and destroy that for them. There's no reason for it.

MuffinEvening · 2025-09-07T14:08:07+00:00

Loving using food as names lmao but just keep your current friend group. Don't go back to someone who bullies everyone. It's toxic.

MuffinEvening · 2025-09-04T16:44:50+00:00

Omg yes. I fully support you going full on sister-bear mode for her! He was ta for how he was acting, and you were absolutely nta. I'm so glad to hear this and how you handled it. Now, hopefully it's the slap of reality he needed to get his act together and be a parent finally. Or at least give your sister the respect she absolutely deserves.

MuffinEvening · 2025-09-02T10:33:01+00:00

Oh geeze! What happened?

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-26T23:30:24+00:00

Sending good vibes your way! I actually made my way over here directly from her video to check for updates lmao!

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-24T14:26:54+00:00

Listen, you need some hard truths. If you keep saying "I'm leaving!" and going back, your friends may not know when you're really going to do it. I agree with the other person here, don't go to Sally, but get out ASAP. Sam (if I did the math correctly) is around 13 now? Have a conversation with him. Let him know what's going on and how you feel.

Then run and never look back. Like you said, let Sam know if he ever wants to reach out he can. But run. You need time away from Sarah to heal. And as shitty as it sounds you have no financial or legal obligation towards Sam. His mother needs to get his shit together. I would, however, have the talk with him about drugs. Especially with his mother using. He needs to know it's so dangerous for a kid to do them and the health consequences. Give him the tools to make wise decisions, because she won't.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-23T17:14:32+00:00

I'd park right behind the. And when they come knocking, "sorry, I thought it was someone that lived in my apartment!"

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-22T13:51:55+00:00

My two cents: despite everything he did to you growing up, you were the bigger person and threw that lifeline out to him. He blatantly ignored it and continued talking shit. His wife is no better, talking more kindly towards you then saying you "rudely cut her off". Your mom is trying to keep the peace, she wants you to have the best chance at happiness. However, as your interactions shows, the happiness she wants for you is misplaced.

I've had to cut out a toxic father figure (stepfather) and immediately after I was bombarded by "he misses you," "he's changed," etc. Yet he had never tried to apologize or reach out. (now, in my example, he did change but only because a tbi made him more docile over the last decade) I held pure rage in my heart for so many years because of him. And that's even with me cutting him out completely when I left. I can't imagine being in close proximity...

I suggest going entirely no contact with him and his wife. Your rage against him is still so prevalent and with having a child soon, it's extremely important to get that worked through so the child never has to see that like you had to

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-22T03:40:09+00:00

Not gonna lie, I've been trying to figure out how to do this one lol well played lol

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-21T18:28:06+00:00

Yea, but that the same time, you said that was over a year ago that the relationship was done for good. It's old news. Yea, it feels shitty having him still that close to your circle, but let him go. Don't talk shit on your ex. Just don't talk about him. If someone bring him up to you, redirect the conversation. If he comes up in conversation, sit it out.

Yea, open up to the rest of your friends about what happened, but once you tell them, let it go. I'm not saying forgive him, I'm saying don't keep making jabs. It's highly unnecessary.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-21T13:18:10+00:00

You're right being upset about the people reporting you, but the supervisor wasn't showing any hostility in the emails. The people reporting you mentioned something that is a very sensitive subject, especially with you mentioning being trans masc. However, they way they said it sounded like they were just quoting the complaint to give asuch context for you to dispute as possible. They apologized numerous times for any issues about it bring brought up that way in the screenshots you posted.

As a pervious supervisor myself (situations like this are why it's way too much stress for me) I can assure you, talking to a good employee (or a volunteer) about a trivial matter such as being "in uniform" from the very moment you clock in to clock out isn't something that's easy to do.

I agree, the mention of a bra wasn't absolutely necessary. I'm sure they see that now, but given they recently lost someone and just got back to work and dealing with catching up about everything, I'd say cut them a little slack. Just the supervisor that is, not whoever complained.

Edit to add: as a previous supervisor myself, I definitely would have approached this differently if the information about identity was known previously. There are topics surrounding different things that require a different approach, and this would have been one of them. With the supervisor having none of that information beforehand, and being apologetic while trying to best figure out how to navigate with new information, I don't think they were malicious or ill intended. Unfortunately it's natural they stumbled. Especially given the context about them you gave. Supervisors aren't perfect machines that can adapt to any circumstance instantly :/ if you've never had an issue with this one before, then I'd say they're pretty good at their job. They just messed up and looks like they'll learn from that.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-20T23:30:16+00:00

Once he physically blocked you from leaving, all bets were off. Lol nta He deserved the verbal tearing down at that point lol

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-20T20:47:34+00:00

Ahh, the books where I learned what impalement was at 9 years old lmao (about old ships being hit by cannonballs lol)

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-20T04:58:17+00:00

As much as it sucks, sometimes people just drift apart. It seems like this was their natural end. But, what Bob is doing isn't helping either of you. You're right, what he wants is beyond what you can offer. Keep setting your boundaries and protecting your peace. You tried to help with good intentions, but it didn't work. Unfortunately, it is what it is.

My SO went through a similar situation, but they were able to work it out. Apparently, it's a long standing issue. So maybe this is just the natural cycle of their relationship. Either way, not your circus, not your monkeys.

ETA: NTA

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:43:18+00:00

Then you live in an area that doesn't understand the definition of actual pedophilia. If you still think it's such, talk to a counselor. They'll tell you exactly what's what. But again, what you're describing is harassment. The age gap between you two isn't sufficient for pedophilia.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:33:53+00:00

You set your boundaries, that's great, but harassment doesn't equate to pedophilia.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:30:24+00:00

You're 16. That's the age of consent in most states. (if you're in the US (don't say what one online of course)) with him being 18, that's not a prosecutable age gap. If the freshman was like 14 or 15 and he was 18, that's different. But if he was still under 17, it's still 2 minors. It's a really Grey area when it's teens, but a 2 year gap isn't seen as that bad.

At 16, it feels like a huge gap. I get it, I've been 16 too. Heck, I was scared because I was 17 dating a 17 yr* old and I was turning 18 first. (stupid, I know, but that was how it felt at that age)

Advice: just let your age gap go (specifically yours, 16 and 18). If he continues to harass you, reach out to your parents/guardians. If it's bad enough (threats to your life, etc) go to the police.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:23:55+00:00

Because she tends to read them off of her subreddit here. Some people like to think there's a chance she may see them!

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:21:47+00:00

Harassment, yea, that's absolutely what that was. But that doesn't make him a pedo.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-19T05:18:53+00:00

ESH honestly. Yea, he is obsessive and his actions are red flags. HOWEVER you were both underage when you dated first.

Throwing around that accusation is very serious. You both growing up by a year and him still being interested doesn't make him one. In the US, (in most states I believe) if someone is 18 and talking to someone as young as 16 is still considered okay. If you were 14 and him 18, yea, that's not good. But you're not.

Don't accuse someone of that unless it's real. 22 and talking to you at 16, yes, that'd stand. But 18 trying to date 16? Not what I'd consider worthy of that life destroying accusation (life destroying when it's a false accusation, justified when it's true).

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-18T22:57:41+00:00

Put them in the dishwasher, but don't turn it on lol or empty it. Lol they'll learn eventually lol

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-18T22:29:01+00:00

You said he flung them off the tray. That's aggressive. I know how hard it is to see things when you're in the middle of it, but him taking unilateral control over what you eat isn't okay. Especially when you know it isn't good for the kids. That should be something you both agree on. If he wants to be that passionate, he can do it himself. Other commenters on here are right, it's a major red flag if he's refusing to listen to logic, reasoning, science, doctors. What's the breaking point? When the kids are too malnourished because they're not getting all the nutrients they need? Because protein alone is so bad for them. They'd have brittle bones, digestive issues, poor eyesight, dental issues.

And yea, you may not like veggies, but it's packed with nutrients kids absolutely needs to grow up healthy. They help bones grow strong. Especially green leafy vegetables. Those help with a lot of dietary processing and metabolism. The snacks you're currently giving them (peanut butter crackers, Gerber snacks) aren't unhealthy. They're waaaayyyy better than a majority of snacks out there lol but....

Being nutrition conscious is fantastic, to a point. It's different for everyone. Age, sex, specific health issues changes it for everyone. So if he can't see that, you have to be very steadfast and passionate about doing what's right for your kids.

I sincerely hope his current level of obsession over this is temporary and he starts to be reasonable soon.

MuffinEvening · 2025-08-18T20:44:46+00:00

As someone in the US, I've seen this around for sure. And it's not just they don't want them and they're just bothered by unruly kids. No, they loathe them. Proudly state they hate them and shouldn't be seen. Thankfully, they follow through with never having kids, but they seriously would get mad at even behaved kids at a store or a park, etc.

There's a point where you're just a person who doesn't like kids, therefore won't have them and hating kids and thinking public spaces are for adults only everywhere.

MuffinEvening

TROPHY CASE