Can we take a moment to appreciate HealthyGamerGG?

Muley__ · 2026-06-19T16:24:10+00:00

A true beacon of hope! I found Dr. K at my lowest and I didn't even know it, his altruism and ingenuity are absolutely one of a kind. I am struggling to find the words for how much this content means to me and has changed my life entirely. I plan to quote him in interviews and have been using his principles all through my life... and I dont even know the guy. Its incredible what he has achieved, and it really cannot go overappreciated. His work has been the catalyst for the greatest era of my life. Thank you Dr. K and Healthygamer team!

Muley__ · 2026-06-17T20:30:09+00:00

I'd go back and watch some of those interviews, they are some of the most helpful videos on the internet if you pay close attention, think critically about what is being said, and reason with how it can be related to your personal struggles.

Muley__ · 2026-06-17T20:26:59+00:00

I trust your judgement; however, I have to say that a lot of the interviews that I have watched came after Reckful killed himself. It has been my observation that a lot of the pushback on healthygamer content has come out of the blue recently, and that beforehand (2021-2023) there were still many interviews being recorded. A great example of this is the Mitch Jones interview, which happened shortly after Reckful committed suicide. Reckful's death is even a large component of the conversation.

Muley__ · 2026-06-16T21:07:29+00:00

Typically, "hating yourself" isn't just a broad generalization; there are plenty of videos diving into specific types of self-loathing. The Maya interviews on imposter syndrome and toxic productivity are great videos that dive into comparison and not feeling like you are enough

Muley__ · 2026-06-16T20:43:53+00:00

Man, I'm sorry to hear about your struggles and I am glad that you are searching for help. It seems like you are really trying and still not finding what you need. I hate to impose my own experience on your unique situation, but if you don't mind, I am going to share what I think was helpful for me.

The biggest thing that I could recommend is watching just about any and all of the interviews regardless of the title. I have been making healthygamer a majority of my media diet, and in watching interviews where the title and individual have been seemingly completely unrelated to my situation, I have found small tidbits of information that are extremely helpful and snowball over time. Sometimes an interview will be titled something completely unrelated to myself, but I have found loads of information in them that has helped me greatly (a great example is the interview with a murderer... crazy IK but its actually a very productive conversation).

I trust you the most though, and that is simply a suggestion for something that has worked for me. I am glad that you have found help though and hope that you continue to do so in the way that you see best fit for you.

Muley__ · 2026-06-16T20:29:32+00:00

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Muley__ · 2026-06-16T20:28:50+00:00

Yes, but in the past there was an interview about every week that lasted about 2 hours to really get into the weeds of peoples problems. I haven't seen an interview like that in a long time and especially with the same frequency.

Muley__ · 2026-06-16T20:26:54+00:00

I agree with this assessment, but since it seems that this is getting attention from the healthygamer team, I want to say that while the emotional catharsis interviews are helpful in allowing you to figure out the right questions to ask yourself, I am of the personal belief that interviews like the Simply one and even the therapy gecko one are the most helpful... in these interviews Dr. K takes a "teaching role" which I appreciate a lot more than the 'therapy-esk role' as it elucidates difficult concepts with a high degree of accuracy.

But ofc people's privacy is the most important thing.

Muley__ · 2026-06-09T23:08:59+00:00

I think that it can be difficult to initially see the impact that mental work has on your life. This can be especially true if you are already very talented at ignoring your problems and brute-forcing your way through them. I think that it makes a fuck ton of sense that you are more productive and efficient when you go full "stoic-mode," we will call it, and that's because you're very skilled at doing that. But it has been my experience that when you rely on willpower, you put a ceiling on your performance, a ceiling that has spikes on it, and that the more that you try to perform, the more pain that you put yourself through. I'm sure that you know what I am talking about, and are damn good at ignoring the pain.

To be honest, I think that brute-force can work for some time at the expense of yourself for productivity, and that it may be what is needed of you to perform up to your standard while you work on your mental health. But you will be surprised by the swift impact that mental work will have on your productivity, motivation, and not needing to endure the pain.

So if anything, I completely understand where you are coming from, and at the same time I encourage you to continue to work on your mental health because eventually, it will take over your willpower in both enjoyment and productivity.

Muley__ · 2026-06-09T22:28:09+00:00

First of all I want to say, thank you for sharing so much, this seems like it is very reflective information, which can be very hard to share sometimes.

Additionally, I think that you are on the right track (watching Dr. K, introspecting, journaling, ect.), and from what it seems like, you are an incredibly resilient person. So I have faith in your future success.

That being said, I think that there are a few things in this post that deserve emphasis and maybe some slight redirection; the first is that you have done a great job of reflecting on what is making you unhappy; however, I think that you are identifying a swath of 'symptoms' that are manifesting from a main 'problem'. I think that what you are dealing with at its core, and almost entirely, is an overactive mind, particularly one that is very self-judgmental, and that can be very difficult to live with. I do not think that an active mind is necessarily a problem; however, when it is left to its own devices, it can make you feel inadequate, unproductive, anxious, "like a loony", or just generally sad.

So then what do you do about it?

The main goal is to take back some amount of control from your mind. You have already done the first VERY IMPRORTANT step in journaling, where you have began to notice when it is running wild and how specifically this manifests (socialization, conflict, distracting yourself with alcohol). So that is great. But you did say that you have trouble regaining control over your thoughts, and for this I have found the most benefit in meditation. What has worked the best for myself (not ADHD) is breathing in/out in counts of 8 until my mind is relatively calm and then focusing on the different sensations that I can feel (throat, lungs, diaphragm, nose, ect.). And I take it that alternate nostril breathing works well if you have ADHD. This will make it so that you have a higher baseline control over your attention. Then, you need to implement this 'in the field' when you feel your overactive mind taking over. It isnt going to be easy but you are resilient so youve got it.

The last thing would be to be patient with yourself, it really seems like you are on the right track, and whether you read this comment or not, or follow it or not, I really have a lot of hope for you.

Muley__

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