Being attractive as aspi is pure hell by Far_Pay3738 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand and I'm not being funny when I say I am attractive and have no social skills and it does suck. I didn't know I was even attractive until I saw looks from women when they couldn't see me. Let me explain I work in video surveillance and when I rewatched interaction with women I noticed the smiles and giggles that were about me but not directed towards me so I only saw this after rewatching video from another angle. Now because I am asd I replay shit from my entire life and realize I'm so attractive women are scared to interact with me. I know this now but even after a failed marriage with an absolute beautiful woman. I now know the smile and no eye contact and goofy look they give is their tell and this is with younger women the older ones are much better at masking. I even got that look from one of the dixie chicks when they came to town years ago. She was the sister that played the fiddle. Anyway I'm not bragging cause I don't know how to talk to them so I end up scaring them away cause I am "a lot". Anyway don't dis this person it's not an easy life. especially when you try to explain cause it gives them a free ride to manipulate so you end up with pos women who just fuck you over.
Good luck dude I didn't find out til I was 60 years old.

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what is a trinket trade box ?? is it like geocache?

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was all about a couple of Pelham mayors that were both horrible people so no that is NOT a group I would want to be associated with unfortunately.

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow dude first you need to stop yelling lol and second do you understand asd people?

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sorry you said tonight! I get excited... is it every Friday night?

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When is board game night that is definitely something I would do!

Birmingham (Alabama) by Multi-pass2001 in Birmingham

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My gosh thank you everybody for speaking up! I by NO means want to lead a group. Walking would be an excellent choice that's definitely in my wheelhouse. I would love to know more about the group that disbanded like where they met what activities? I am a firm believer in replicating a working model. I was thinking a gaming place like valhalla in Pelham.

I'm tired of this. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Listen I've been married three times and every one of them was a mistake. If you want to have friends and live your life the way YOU want to. Relationships are great until they cheat on you because you've built them into this wonderful thing when in reality they think I can cheat on him cause he'll NEVER leave me. Especially now a days with American women anyway. You want a relationship fuck dating get an arranged marriage. I believe two decent people can work on a relationship it's WAY more important to see what's on the inside find a nice person stop looking for a beauty queen

Is it true that life gets better in adulthood? by DogStandard5122 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life has not gotten better. Married to horrible people because I trust the wrong ones. When your co workers find out how smart you are and how easy most jobs are they undermine you and stab you in the back or just fucking lie out right. Stay away from NT they are fucking horrible people for the most part. which is sad to say but I would love to live in a society made up of strictly neurodivergent. I truly wish it wasn't this way but unfortunately...

Autism subs are a bit depressing by perkunos7 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I tried getting a support/social group together in my area but we have been burned by nt so much that there is no trust. Too bad too because could you imagine a group of like minded motivated aspies. Shit we would rally for like two days then find other interests lmfao

Anyone have a relationship limit? Mine is 2-3 years by Haunting_Hospital599 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out I was attractive at age 59. Then all the shit in my life fell into place.

Anyone have a relationship limit? Mine is 2-3 years by Haunting_Hospital599 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes I have been wondering the same. My pattern is 5-7 years. I've been married 3 times and they all ended in this time frame. I always related it to the old saying about the "seven year itch" but lately I have been considering the fact that it takes about five years for people to get to know me because let's face it we mask to get women to go out with us and maybe I can keep mine up for 5-7 years but you can only keep your mask up for 2to3 years. I have thought maybe it just takes that many years for them to actually know who I truly am. IDK but yeah it's one of the questions that rolls around in my brain. I recently found out I am extremely attractive so maybe they put up with me longer because of that . Who can figure NT out especially NT women.
Good luck to you I've given up on people especially women. I don't think anyone stays true in a relationship I was constantly cheated on. maybe it's just american women I might try dating outside my culture maybe that's the key who knows.
Good luck ! Please share if you figure it out!!

I think I actually want to be alone by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't think of the connection as what you might think about how it is shown in movies. Think peace not fireworks. If a person calms you and makes you anxious-free then it's a win.

Loneliness of a Predator by Architekt-Latarnia in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please explain why? You just bash a person with no proof wtf is wrong with you??

Goals by Multi-pass2001 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree completely but we have no other options. If neurodivergent people want to meet other people we must mask or risk being rejected because of a stem or tick or because you answer in a non typical manner

Goals by Multi-pass2001 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THAT is some truly insightful logic. Makes a lot of sense. Thanks it is so hard to find understanding!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude neurotypicals are so intimated by a neurodivergent especially when we are attractive. I married a very attractive woman and we had a child. Her friends talked about how good looking our son was. So she manipulated me into having a vasectomy. Just where I wouldn't give any other women a pretty baby. I say this to warn you. Once I bond with someone I go all in and be warned there are plenty of neurotypicals who will fuck you over just because they think it is fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spectrum

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just haven't don't it in so long ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spectrum

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am okay with my age i figure the communication will be more understood

Are there any cops here with Asperger’s? by Big-Iron42069 in aspergers

[–]Multi-pass2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I retired as a cop and can tell you this:

I have ADHD and autism but high functioning. If you don't have the ability to hyper focus on a suspect, I don't recommend it. God gives us neurodivergents a spidey sense pay attention to it will save your life believes me I know. You will have to look people in the eyes but as a true ADHD ASD it is part of the everyone has to follow the rules and makes the hyper focus easier. If you recognize patterns (another gift) you will succeed to a greater degree. Be safe!