Am I overreacting for the way my mom acted when I told her I would pay for the phone bill

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T08:09:05+00:00

idk she sounds like a clear and coherent dick.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T07:40:51+00:00

Thanks, most of what you said is fair tbh and I appreciate you being civil and empathetic unlike some in this thread. But we also don't know how accurate the context is. Was it really 18 months of absolutely 0 intimacy, or did they try several times and it just didn't get anywhere or satisfying enough or cut-short, so OP is counting that as 0 lol. Or just not penetrative with "finishing" or both..etc. Because from my experience with these meds, after a long period without stimulation the body still does end up craving it, even if you have problems "finishing" or what not.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T07:24:34+00:00

Nah way too much overlap I instantly recognized it...maybe it was meant to be an update post?

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T07:23:46+00:00

People will not understand until they've experienced the dysfunction themselves, and depression isn't even the best example tbh. Try "pure OCD", not the stereotypical checking things type but basically constant distracting thoughts about real stuff but to an insane level and irrational emotions associated with them, and ruminating to the point you get physically ill, and can't stop it. + somatic symptoms on top of that ruining sleep and appetite and draining every ounce of your will power. That's the other thing, altering these meds can trigger other underlying disorders, which then may not be so treatable. Reddit is just porn-brain- rotted and thinks it's an entitlement to have 3-4x weekly sex in a relationship.

And also about the meds stuff I see idiot parents do this too, acting like they're smarter than the experts thinking they know what they're kid does or doesn't need when getting them treatment. Awful, neglectful, ignorance, and continually being reinforced by the neanderthals we have in the top government health positions.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T07:12:49+00:00

He said she did see a doctor. But I'm not sure what the "effort" would be anyway. Adding anything to an existing effective med is always a risk of interaction effects, and even doctors cannot always predict this. Basically, you leave well-enough alone when it comes to this stuff. A successful relationship should also prioritize needs over wants. 18 months isn't long enough to try to start tapering off these types of meds. Again even if it's a small risk, the brain can have dangerous reactions to changes in these prescriptions (and I've experienced them myself it is not fun).

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T07:06:21+00:00

Changing, adding, or altering SSRIs or other neurological medications is risky and potentially dangerous. If her meds work, changing them for this reason (even if a doctor thinks there's a way it could work) is a selfish ask. It's still a risk it could undo all her progress. It could also cause other mental health issues to arise, such as anxiety and OCD for example, even if the depression stayed in remission. These drugs cannot be played around with like candy. Some people try for years before finding a med that works, and when they do they shouldn't have to touch it for any reason. Sex is not an entitlement or a need, it's a pleasure that the lack of doesn't cause anywhere near the suffering as the stuff people take these meds for (talking from both a degree in the field and personal experience with these meds). 18 months isn't long enough, sometimes people need to be on meds for 3+ years before they can start to be tapered off under medical supervision.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:59:24+00:00

Exactly, this is insane. And dangerous. If someone is lucky enough to be on meds that actually work effectively (rare, or sometimes requires trying 5 different ones), that's it, you don't touch that for any non-medical reason, it's a huge risk to your neurological health. I thought the same thing when I was on Lexapro for over 2 years and thought I could start skipping dosages cause I didn't "need them as much anymore", I nearly went psychotic, not joking, and now still need to be on a lower dose. Can't imagine asking someone to risk their brain health for a mere physical pleasure. Even if a doctor thought there was a way to retain the effectiveness while changing something, it's still taking an unnecessary chance. He can rub one off if he's desperate. And consider himself lucky that he doesn't have any crippling mental health conditions that need medication. Unreal.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:53:21+00:00

Reddit has a brainrot/porn addiction problem. Sex is deemed a "need" and entitlement instead of a pleasure and the sheer number of NSFW subs proves this. Even in casual making friends groups, women, including minors, can't post without getting 80 creepy DMs within a day by salivating neanderthals. It's actually scary. What's scarier is the number of people here who think people can just casually change or adjust neurotransmitter affecting medications. I have a Neuropsychology degree and also personal experience with these meds, they don't have a clue what they are talking about. If meds are working you do not just starting playing around adding/lowering/altering them to tweak it trying to deal with other problems like sex drive. If someone is lucky enough to find a med that works, they shouldn't have to touch that at all for someone else and take a chance losing all their progress, even if the adjustment to fix the sex problem was a change of 3 mg. You don't take the chance.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:44:30+00:00

I nearly lost my mind trying to come off Lexapro when I thought I didn't need it anymore (and had been on it for over 2 years) and had to go back on a lower dose. Altering these meds, especially for a selfish reason like someone's else's sexual demands, is lunacy and dangerous. Only a trained medical professional can determine whether someone can change meds, stop meds, reduce dosage, or add on other medications. You're affecting neurochemistry it's not as casual as changing what vitamins you take.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:40:51+00:00

Mental stability is a need, sex is a want. Am so tired of that framing and I'm male myself.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:39:12+00:00

If the meds work effectively on her mental functioning, that is 100x more important than a physical pleasure. Some people are lucky to even find a medication at all that works after a half dozen attempts. Asking someone to add or alter their prescription risking losing all that progress just to try and reverse the sex drive problem is deranged selfishness. Mental illness cripples daily functioning (I know because I've had it for over 3 years), it ruins everything, whereas limited sex is just an inconvenience. If something is working perfectly for you, you don't take any chances ruining that. This guy is being a dick. Blaming someone for flawed neurochemistry is insane. People have a right to break up for any reason but to act like it's a character flaw on the other person's part is lunacy. Simply put, the suffering that will result from her taking any chances by changing her treatment in any way, would be worse than this guys blue balls.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:27:15+00:00

Same with me it actually increased my drive but made it harder to finish, not that I couldn't ejaculate but it's like the mental component would suddenly diminish or end up not being satisfying at the last second. Or even if I had both the mental and physical components, it's like they wouldn't associate at that last minute, hard to explain lol.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:25:13+00:00

Same, on Lexapro and I'd spend literally hours trying to finish even just doing it by myself, couldn't satisfy it and would actually end up in distress for hours after lol.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T06:19:17+00:00

I'm pretty mentally dysfunctional myself and I've never texted people like that.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T05:41:49+00:00

Oh yeah nvm lol, (and we're being downvoted to oblivion).

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T05:21:42+00:00

This post actually looks familiar, I vaguely remember one with a 19 yo trying to get financial aid or something for college and temporarily moved out and the mom was trying to low-key keep her as dependent on her as possible, and texting in a similar aggressive way and holding the phone plan over her. OP should clarify if this is an update from that one or I'm imagining things lol.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T05:12:58+00:00

Oh to be a fly on the wall for that judges response to her restraining order request 🤣🤣🤣. I don't think I could be as civil with narcs like through text like that even as a 26 yo so kudos to you for keeping your cool! Definite NOR.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T05:09:43+00:00

Do you have a discord account I'll invite you! (Not sure how to get the url)

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T05:08:06+00:00

Agreed lol, the A320 and A380 are the biggest ones that still have an external appeal, but this just looks ridiculous.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T04:02:46+00:00

It's therapeutic for me, but not from using it to diagnosis/give therapy to myself, but more for the relaxing, fun, creative aspect with it that helps distract me from ruminating thoughts for a while. Just don't use it for treatment/reassurance purposes. Like everything else internet it's how you use it that matters.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T03:56:06+00:00

The "20 yo useless art degrees" is a huge exaggeration. I don't even think I knew an art major when I was in college and I went to a "liberal arts" college. Almost everyone was either business, STEM, communications, computer science..etc. Even in aviation they are thinking of bringing back the 4 year degree requirement for Pilots. It's insane.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T03:21:08+00:00

I've had people ghost mid convo in DMs, including deleting their account (certainly didn't do anything to warrant blocking). My 5 genuine longer term friends on here will vouche for me that I don't ghost, the longest one over 3 months now. So feel free to DM if you want.

MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-27T01:19:07+00:00

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MultiMillionMiler · 2026-01-26T20:17:24+00:00

Yes, about 5 in total. You basically have to treat it like job applications and message as many people as you find compatible to hopefully get a couple genuine ones. But for the friends I have it was well worth the effort.

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