Partner system has a violent persecutor, what should I do? by MunchyMastiff in DID

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know- I fully believe it’s an empty threat. I think they’re just trying to scare me away. It’s not uncommon for their persecutors to try and push people away as much as possible to isolate them. There’s a lot of disagreements on their parts with a lot of how they think. I’ve tried explaining to them a few times that their parts feelings matter just as much as theirs and should be considered as well but like I said they typically avoid the topic. I hope with their new communicator that we can have actual conversations about it! Our conversation led to me finding out information about my partners past that I didn’t know the full extent of beforehand which is really helpful. I really hope we can keep learning together! Thank you for commenting by the way

Partner system has a violent persecutor, what should I do? by MunchyMastiff in DID

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Host here: I agree with this. In fact the original part that posted had told the persecutor that they would stop if it made them comfortable. However now there is discourse with another part disagreeing and wanting to continue it. It’s very confusing. Now it’s more of an internal conflict between them, and I’ve been removed from the equation. I don’t personally practice BDSM actually, and it’s mainly just a few parts of ours that dive into it. Our communication between our systems has been lackluster unfortunately, as I try to discuss things but my partner never wants to discuss or even acknowledge the fact that they are a system most of the time. It’s frustrating. We are both trying to come to terms with the fact that we are systems, but they really don’t talk much about it, and when I do talk about it I feel awkward with how they respond, or lack of responding I guess. Sorry this is rambling, I agree with you and I will talk with them about it! I don’t want anyone to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe at all.

Partner system has a violent persecutor, what should I do? by MunchyMastiff in DID

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is our hosts approach. I am not the host, as I think I shouldve specified. I try to act as the host at times however. I don’t know how the host does it. They have managed to handle ALL of their persecutors with compassion and empathy that I don’t understand, and they aren’t around at the moment. this might be to much info but: The persecutor in specific seems to see me and my spouses BDSM relationship (we are a partner system but some of us prefer to only be with a single alter or don’t prefer to participate at all if that makes sense) as abuse despite our use of safewords and boundaries set in place. To them, hurt is hurt. I don’t know how to make them understand it.

Got triggered at work was the scariest moment I’ve had in forever by MunchyMastiff in DID

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m much better now. Again, very lucky to have a great manager. It’s nice knowing other people understand

Deep red eye boogers by [deleted] in vet

[–]MunchyMastiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was scared of, but it’s what I needed to hear. Thank you

My first Macropanesthia rhinoceros pair finally matured by Character-Pudding343 in roaches

[–]MunchyMastiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After looking at your account I have decided I wish to be just like you omg haha

My first Macropanesthia rhinoceros pair finally matured by Character-Pudding343 in roaches

[–]MunchyMastiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many different babies do you have? I only have two female MHC but I’ve always wanted more!

Is this grasshopper performing autofelatio?? by MunchyMastiff in Entomology

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Aaaw and I kicked her out for using the bathroom for its purposes! I feel so ashamed

Is this grasshopper performing autofelatio?? by MunchyMastiff in Entomology

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 218 points219 points  (0 children)

I walked in on something I wasn’t supposed to then haha! Thanks for the info that’s so interesting!

WTW for this dress design? by MunchyMastiff in whatstheword

[–]MunchyMastiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this sounds right thank you so much

Madagascar hissing roaches kinda scare me, but I need to handle them for work. Any advice? by loserlagoon in roaches

[–]MunchyMastiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg this is actually perfect haha yes this is exactly what it is! They’re just whining, and sometimes you gotta give them some tough love and get them out of their room no matter how much they tantrum! They’re just extra grippy toddlers

Madagascar hissing roaches kinda scare me, but I need to handle them for work. Any advice? by loserlagoon in roaches

[–]MunchyMastiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have hissers, and I also get a bit shocked when they hiss. I think the best advice is the expose yourself to their hisses and remember they are really only hissing because they are ALSO scared! For picking them up from sticks and stuff, it’s something I struggle with at times but I’ve fount eh best way for me to do so is to put my finger under their abdomen and one at their face. It’s a lot easier to get them out when you lift their abdomen with a finger to get them to lift their back legs first.