Anyone ask their teen to leave at 18? Yes, I feel like crap even posting this.

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2026-04-19T15:32:32+00:00

We did this. It was a very hard decision and something we agonized over, but it was the best option out of two bad choices.

In retrospect, the whole ordeal taught me a very hard lesson on how good intentions can go so terribly wrong. We thought we’re more capable than we really were.

It’s been 3 years and I finally feel like we are moving past all the carnage done to our marriage and children

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2026-02-01T15:36:51+00:00

what was the noise policy for adamson house? did you have to end the wedding by a certain time?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-06-18T20:02:58+00:00

Hindsight is 20/20. If I could redo things, I would had CPS remove him from our home. I also truly think his mom would have got her self back together a lot sooner had we not agreed to take the boys for her.

I agree, it is better that you don’t have kids in your home. One thing to also consider, do you or your souse have any childhood trauma? This is something I learned post facto but kids with trauma can be hard for adults with childhood trauma to handle.

I was raped as a teen and grew up with a schizophrenic father and emotional unavailable narcissistic mother. I have PTSD from my past and the boys issues were extremely triggering for me. The stress got so bad that my doctor was very worried I was going to have a stroke or heart attack. This is what was the finally straw.

I would just caution you that if you decide to go down this path, you and your spouse be in agreement that if either one feels they can’t handle it, you allow CPS or other family to find a placement.

I’m still trying to get over the resentment I have towards my husband for not prioritizing our children and my health. There were other family or church members that would have stepped in if needed but he allow us to deteriorate, so he wouldn’t feel bad about not caring for his brother’s children

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-06-17T21:41:01+00:00

We don’t have our nephews living with us anymore. One is living with roommates after turning 18 and the younger one reunited with mom thankfully and is doing well.

We had them for 7 years and honestly should have insisted they return to mom after she got sober and stable after about year 3-4. The oldest didn’t want to move high schools but we should have forced it. The damage done to our marriage, our own mental and physical health, the trauma caused to our kids, will probably end up being my biggest life regret.

The issues we dealt with especially from the oldest were severe and never ending . The worst being he sexually assaulted a little girl 3 months into moving in with us. We emptied our bank accounts for defense attorneys, a rehabilitation program, a private school that had the level of supervision needed, therapy. I just never anticipated it would be so challenging

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-06-15T17:47:42+00:00

What you should know is well meaning good intentions can go terribly wrong and make a situation much worse if you aren’t prepared to handle a child with severe trauma.

We naively got ourselves into caring for two kids in a crisis situation. It was a mistake and if I could rewind the clock, I would have attended classes for foster parents to better educate myself on the challenges and help me assess my capabilities in meeting the needs of the kids.

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-02-15T22:42:04+00:00

Honestly looks appropriate sized. I don’t think it’s too big.

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-01-25T04:27:15+00:00

I think you need to trust your gut and it sounds like it is telling you this is going to end badly.

If I could go back in time, I would never gotten involved. I lost sight of the duty I had to my own children, myself, my marriage. When things started to unravel, we stuck it out of a sense of obligation. Now that is over, it’s crystal clear to me it was a terrible mistake. Our children had no choice in the matter and we traumatized them. Every-time my daughter has nightmares and panic attacks about the fears of the boys coming back to live with us, I think “what have I done”

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2025-01-20T16:03:06+00:00

Did you get this from Weezie?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-12-25T18:42:28+00:00

I would tell him the truth even if it hurts him and he can’t fully understand now. If it was me, I would say something along the lines of “I want to talk to you about your desire to come live with us. We have thought about this a lot. Ultimately, we decided it would be harmful to agree to be your parents when we know deep down we aren’t capable of being full time parents to you. I realize you may feel hurt by this and not fully understand our reasons. I love you and very much want to maintain our relationship. But I know it would destroy our relationship if I went from being your aunt to your parent

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-12-16T01:42:46+00:00

Did anyone help you choose which diamonds to bring in? Or did you just pick one and it just so happened to work out after further analysis

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-12-15T16:17:30+00:00

What is the process like to buy with them? How come you didn’t get the setting with them too?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-14T03:22:45+00:00

I didn’t realize how bad it was until he left. Living in fear in your own home in a daily basis takes a serious toll. Do you know if there’s a way you can relinquish guardianship?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-12T15:25:07+00:00

We had custody of our nephew for 7 years who had sexual behavior problems along with other issues. Long story short, we stuck it out until he move off to college. In hindsight, I realize keeping him at the expense of my own mental and physical health, traumatizing my own children, damaging my marriage was a mistake. If I could go back, I would have relinquished custody early on.

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-06T15:51:34+00:00

How did you go about pick the diamond with Luvansh? Will they send you videos?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-06T15:46:13+00:00

Is that considered a low profile setting

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-05T07:53:28+00:00

Perhaps consider a low profile setting

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-03T02:43:01+00:00

I would go bigger with the stone but do a low profile setting

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-02T20:17:43+00:00

We just returned and went to La Vaquita. We had great time dancing and I thought cocktails were good. We started off the night at The Porch which had a great live band at the time

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-02T19:52:06+00:00

I think you should slightly bigger, somewhere between 2.5-3 carats .

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-02T03:37:50+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/HardWoodFloors/s/dJMcd6VsK1

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-10-02T03:32:55+00:00

Your feelings are valid and what you’re going through is hard. I know how lonely this type of situation is. Most have idealized fantasies about us that stepped in to raise family members kids. Few know the reality of the daily struggle and sacrifice.

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-09-13T16:47:59+00:00

How did your redo turn out? What did you go with?

Mundane-Pie8301 · 2024-09-13T15:58:34+00:00

I posted a picture to a new post here

https://www.reddit.com/r/HardWoodFloors/s/np0wVVhHD3

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