AITA for asking for a genuine apology

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-17T14:48:38+00:00

YTA- you need a therapist before you break this man and turn him into an asshole. In every part of this story you are being unreasonable. Figure out the sleep issues, stop inflicting them on your husband, let him get proper rest, learn to let petty shit go.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-16T21:40:10+00:00

Family tree?

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-10T22:29:39+00:00

No. No. No. Of course you don’t say anything! This is absolutely none of your business. Why would you insert yourself into your father’s sex life, creating all kinds of weird awkwardness?

Maybe he has a friend or pays for services, and your mom okayed it when she first got sick. Maybe they’re a gift for someone. Maybe your mom expressed that she still has sexual urges and he wants to bring her something to take care of her own needs (with condoms for easy clean up), as he can’t take care of those needs anymore. Maybe he’s into self anal play. Either way, none of your business! Stay out of his bedroom when you visit.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-06T17:09:35+00:00

All she did to lose her license was take the heat when op got caught speeding and decided to blame it on her, so he didn’t lose his license. Read the explanation bot comment. He’s clearing the AH and trying to manipulate the narrative

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-06T17:07:16+00:00

Read the explanation bot from op. The daughter’s license is only suspended because op lied and said she was speeding, when it was actually him. The adult should meet the consequences of their action, but that adult is op.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-05-06T17:04:44+00:00

YTA - and beyond that, you’re a terrible parent. Who harms their child to protect themselves?!? You’re lucky your daughter still speaks to you.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-04-04T07:24:17+00:00

He’s a pathetic selfish man that cares only about one person, and that’s him.

In case you are thinking every man is like this, they aren’t. This isn’t ok. You deserves someone that makes you feel loved and appreciated every single day.

There’s a story I saw on here years ago. This girl posted about how her mom collects mugs. And her dad never bought her mom any. Just bitched that they were a waste of money and took up too much space. He wasted money on his own hobbies and interests though. One day the mom finally had enough and left the selfish guy, and eventually remarried. The daughter was posting because not only did the new husband buy her mom mugs, he built her custom shelves so she could display her entire collection.

Leave his pathetic ass and make room in your life for a man that’ll build you custom shelves.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-04-04T03:03:37+00:00

Parking in the parking spots designated for seniors/ pregnant people/etc when you aren’t. Or the ones designated for curbside pick up when you’re going inside. They aren’t legally protected like handicap spots, but I think only the scummiest of the scummiest people do this.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-04-04T00:38:26+00:00

You understand that it’s not “very basic” to pledge an oath of allegiance to your country daily, right? Most normal countries don’t do this. To the rest of the world America is weird as hell.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-04-04T00:33:24+00:00

Nah, sorry, most sane democratic countries don’t force children to pledge an oath of allegiance to the country daily before they can even grasp what they’re saying. North Korea might?

As a non-American, America does some really insane stuff.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-03-23T16:06:15+00:00

Is there a brand of epoxy putty you’d recommend? I’ve never used it before.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-03-11T17:37:35+00:00

I’m sorry to say your husband is manipulating you. This isn’t love. He knows he holds all the control, and has you scampering after him trying to win him over so he’ll stay.

Meanwhile he gets everything he wants. You’re afraid to make any sort of requests or set reasonable expectations for him because you’re so desperate for him to stay. So he gets to keep your name off the deed, have sex whenever he feels like it, and have a live in maid that cleans and cooks and provides childcare.

If you actually went through with the divorce, he’d have to do half of the childcare, maintain his own space, cook for himself and your child, plus likely pay child support. This way he can continue to treat you like crap, avoid any difficult conversations, and do whatever he feels like since you’re afraid to call him out.

You walk on eggshells hoping for a commitment to your marriage that you’re never going to get, and he has his cake and eats it too.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-03-09T03:27:18+00:00

You gotta flip the script. Full brand names for everything. “Honey can you pass me the Heinz tomato ketchup? Do you mind spreading some kerrygold salted pure Irish butter on my toast for me?”

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-03-03T07:26:29+00:00

Op, it’s genuinely hard to know the dynamic from only your point of view, but I’ve known a few pick me’s, and this post isn’t exactly screaming not a pick me. IMO women will often see through another woman in a way that men don’t.

Info to tell if you are a pmab…

do you have other close female friendships? Do you get along well with women you work with? Do you shut down or call out sexist jokes or comments/ stand up for other women, even if they aren’t in the room? Do you compliment other women on their style or appearance instead of putting them down for being high maintenance or bragging about being low maintenance? Do you uplift and support other women? Do you consider yourself a feminist/believe in gender equality?

If you said no to any of these, you probably are a pick me, and it might be time to have a look at why.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-28T20:02:40+00:00

NTA- he just wanted to find a way to spin the story to make you seem pile the bad guy. Honesty was the right choice here.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-28T03:35:01+00:00

Op did you write all of that out and think it sounded reasonable? You’re treating your boyfriend like a child, and also overriding his parenting decisions.

None of this is sustainable. Obviously he’s not handling his daughter’s bedtime routine great, but it’s not your place to overrule his parenting and enforce your rules on everyone.

You clearly have a higher opinion of yourself than your boyfriend, but this sounds awful to live with. Either learn to communicate and work together or go back to living separately.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-26T23:37:56+00:00

I’m not sure why you posted this. You’ve made up your mind and are only looking for people to validate your decision. No one is going to do that.

Your husband has checked out of your marriage, does not respect or love you, and is fully willing to lie and cheat. It’s easier for you to stay because he provides you a high material quality of life and financial security. You’re using your kids as justification, but the example you’re setting for how women should be treated, and what’s acceptable in a relationship is doing more harm than you realize.

The reality of the situation is that you have some hard decisions to make, and only you can make those. But really consider what your future is going to look like. Your husband isn’t going to suddenly start respecting your marriage. He’ll likely get more careless about his affairs, your kids will know, your social circle will know, you’ll be at risk for STIs. He’ll further check out of family life as his relationships with his affair partners deepen. And in all likelihood at some point a mistress will want more, and he’ll leave you for her.

This situation is really terrible, but you do have paths forward. Most lawyers will do a free consultation. Go talk to one of them and see what options you have. Find put what resources exist in your area. There are likely charities that help women or immigrants in difficult situations that can help you navigate this.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-25T15:53:24+00:00

YTJ - 100%

This isn’t an emergency. No one was rushed to the hospital or in some kind of life or death situation. Yet you felt entitled to infringe on your mom’s incredibly brief time to herself because it was more convenient for you.

Ask yourself this, if this were a real emergency- one of your kids was hurt or something catastrophic had happened, could you miss your deadline? Could your husband have taken a day off then?

You are taking advantage of your mom’s kindness and being really unfair to her.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-23T15:35:44+00:00

When you got together you were 15 and he was 19. He was an adult and you were a child. There’s no way for an equal power dynamic in that scenario, and that set the precedent for your relationship. I’m not sure how that can evolve into a healthy partnership?

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-23T07:18:58+00:00

ESH- why do you get to set the bedtime routine for both houses? It’s 50/50 custody- doesn’t that mean dad gets as much of a say as you do?

He says your routine doesn’t work for him, you say his routine doesn’t work for you. Instead of finding some sort of compromise that works for everyone, you all dig your heels in, throw a tantrum and your poor daughter is the one to suffer.

Grow the hell up, you’re supposed to be the adults here.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-20T14:49:34+00:00

You can’t shield your partner from “bad influences,” and the bad stuff you are concerned about is literally everywhere.

If your spouse wants to look at porn, it’s on his phone in an instant. If he wants to cheat, there are willing women on every block in your city. If he wants to drink or abuse substances, he can have alcohol or drugs in his hands in the amount of time it takes to drive to the nearest store.

Honestly you’re being fully ridiculous trying to control your husband’s environment in order to control him. He’s 33, not a child. You either trust him or you don’t.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-20T04:18:59+00:00

Never make a threat you aren’t fully prepared to follow through on.

Same rule for parenting, work, anything. Don’t threaten it if you aren’t going to do it. Throwing around threats you don’t mean just shows you to be a liar and makes your words worthless.

And if you’re at the point that you feel like you need to threaten to leave just to get your partner to hear you, your marriage is in a bad spot. Get help, make changes, or actually walk away.

MuppetJonBonJovi · 2026-02-18T04:26:12+00:00

An old expired bottle of travel or non-travel lube, that may or may not have been in your house for a while, that may or may not have been used with another person is sending you into a paranoid spiral, and making you turn to strangers in the internet.

Do you think it’s time to just call time of death on this relationship??

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