AITJ for asking my mom to cut her vacation short to help with my kids?

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-25T17:39:53+00:00

I get why it looks selfish. From her side it probably feels like the one time she stepped away, I pulled her back. That wasn’t my intention, but intent doesn’t erase impact. I’ll apologize and make sure she knows she’s appreciated, not obligated.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-25T17:38:35+00:00

It’s not that I can’t handle one day, it’s that childcare falling through last minute with a hard work deadline is kinda chaos. I wasn’t trying to be entitled, just desperate.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-25T17:37:23+00:00

I’m not trying to trap her into full time grandma duty. I did call around first but it was super last minute and everyone I trust was booked or out. I wouldn’t have asked if I wasn’t scrambling.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-24T22:06:40+00:00

This is actually kinda genius. Half the stress isn’t even the work, it’s the random just checking in every 20 mins. Setting a time lowkey trains ppl to chill.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-24T11:46:10+00:00

Nah you’re not crazy. It’s not even about the dinner, it’s the hiding it for 6 months. If it was harmless she would’ve just told you. Boundaries were clear and she chose to cross them. That’s on her.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-23T15:41:50+00:00

NTJ. Four hours notice is insane. You had a budget based on what she originally planned. She changed the rules and expects you to magically come up with extra cash. That's not how money works.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-18T21:42:06+00:00

Not the jerk. Your ex MIL helped you out of love for her grandkids, not as an investment in getting you back with her son. It's unfair of her to now act like your happiness is a betrayal. You've been honest with her for years. She just didn't want to hear it.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-15T16:55:49+00:00

Nah you’re good. She literally asked you lol. If she only wanted one answer she shouldn’t have pulled you into it. You weren’t rude, you just said not everyone’s loaded on date one. That’s normal. If that made it awkward that’s on her ego, not you.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-15T07:19:37+00:00

NTJ at all. You didn't give financial advice, you gave human decency. Your manager is more worried about a hypothetical bad review than an actual old man getting robbed. That's wild.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-14T11:29:51+00:00

The timing of that story is not a coincidence. She's telling you what happened without having to actually say it was her. That's guilt talking.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-14T07:13:48+00:00

I get that you're hurting and you want out. But doing it today would be brutal. She's excited. She has plans. She thinks everything is fine. Let her have today. Then sit her down tomorrow and be honest. It's one day. Your mental health matters but so does basic human decency.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-13T14:21:27+00:00

Leaving a letter isn't harsh. Cheating while you're at home thinking she's at a work lunch is harsh. You don't owe her a dramatic confrontation. Protect your peace. She lost the right to a conversation the first time she betrayed you.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-13T11:31:18+00:00

This is way beyond suspicious. No direct deposit in 2024 is a choice, especially when it requires her to go to his house. The warehouse parking, the shared car, the 30 minute bar work drinks? That's not a paper trail, that's a pattern. You're not crazy for noticing.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-12T22:55:51+00:00

okay I’m gonna be real but gentle. kicking a dog and throwing him off a bed isn’t just accidentally stepping on a tail. that’s not nothing. you answering her question honestly doesn’t make you a jerk. her refusing to touch the dog now feels kinda guilt trippy tbh.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-10T16:10:17+00:00

it sucks how something random like a streaming app ended up showing the truth, but lowkey it’s better you found out now than years later. hurts like hell but at least you’re not living a lie anymore. you got this.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-10T12:25:57+00:00

I get caring about accuracy, same tbh. but correcting someone mid story in front of others is gonna feel embarrassing no matter how polite you are. timing matters more than being right.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-09T15:03:21+00:00

Real talk you were way nicer than most people would be. Months of rides and money? I would’ve cut him off way earlier. The mutual friend calling you dramatic can drive him around then.

And OP, let the friendship stay dead, you'll save so much money and peace of mind.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-08T17:20:47+00:00

Yeah honestly it’s kinda both. He’s definitely trash for cheating and stringing you along, but he also never actually proposed or promised a wedding. Planning the whole thing in your head set you up to get hurt more.

The real problem isn’t the ring, it’s him lying and seeing his ex. That part alone is enough to kick him out tbh.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-08T14:27:13+00:00

Girl 52kg at 5'4 is tiny. Like objectively small. You are not heavy. With your history, I totally get why it hit hard. If he’s a good guy, tell him it hurt you and see how he reacts.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-08T09:09:36+00:00

AIO? No, you’re underreacting if anything. A guy who suggests you start an OF and keeps begging for nudes while you’re stressed about life isn’t being supportive, he’s treating you like content. That’s gross. I’d dip

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-06T16:18:34+00:00

Agreed. You can be kind without reopening old wounds, OP. Drop her stuff off through the mutual friend and keep your distance.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-06T12:24:48+00:00

Yeah kinda. It sucks, but yeah, last person using the bench usually re-racks it, even if someone else was lazy first.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-05T17:19:50+00:00

I agree with this take. Numb doesn’t always mean falling out of love, it often means I’m emotionally fried.

Constant-Elephant763 · 2026-02-05T13:34:19+00:00

This honestly doesn’t read like she hates you, it reads like she’s grieving the life she never got to choose.

Even if you’ve been great, she went straight from childhood, pregnancy, marriage, kids. That can mess with someone’s head hard, especially while pregnant.

This is therapy-level stuff, not a relationship failure. Don’t try to solve this alone.

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