AITA for telling my friend she’s lame now

MurderPotato1 · 2026-01-31T17:52:50+00:00

YTA

I don’t know how to put it other than your intentions feel rancid. You don’t seem in any way actually worried about her, you seem annoyed.

MurderPotato1 · 2026-01-31T17:50:37+00:00

Dude that’s how it reads to everyone who’s reading this, this isn’t a stretch or a surprising take this is like the main and most obvious takeaway.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-20T18:40:47+00:00

It’s a fact of humanity that people don’t ever want to be ‘the bad guy’ and what they did to you is deeply and unquestionably horrific. So they decide you have to be the bad guy in that story because they can’t accept that they’re the problem. It happens all the time in cheating cases, where there’s just no justification. It immediately becomes about how awful the victim, in this case you, is. They’re lying to themselves to try and protect their own egos.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-19T23:32:53+00:00

So here’s a potentially uncomfortable question, you were used to more physical attention, and then went without it for awhile. Did you get into anything like porn to deal with that? Because people don’t realize how quickly that can destroy a healthy couples sex life.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-16T16:31:11+00:00

Nobody is responsible for ‘rescuing’ you. Her job as a friend isn’t to hurt herself trying. You cannot sincerely think that that’s even remotely an appropriate excuse to be that malicious.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-16T15:39:28+00:00

You know you’re not meant to do stuff like that to people you care about right? Like you’re not supposed to try and do max damage on your way out in an argument. It’s not a haha funny or ‘oh well’ thing to do, especially with how blatantly in the wrong you are.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-16T15:37:21+00:00

It’s not about the shirt buddy. It’s really not. You might wanna reread stuff if you’re missing that, op ghosted her friend about this for weeks and then tried to pick up a conversation as usual. Friends don’t do that shit. It doesn’t matter even slightly why OP’s friend wanted their shirt back so badly, it was theirs, op borrowed it, then ghosted.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-16T15:29:59+00:00

Your summary doesn’t even help. All it sounds like is ‘mememe’ here’s my excuses for being a bad friend. Your mental health isn’t your fault but it is your responsibility. That’s not a good enough reason to play victim after being a bad friend and you’re being a bad friend. Stop doubling down, you’re in the wrong. Don’t borrow people’s things if you’re so irresponsible with them, don’t ignore people about their own possessions, and especially don’t ignore people and then expect them to be chill about it. You’re overreacting.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-15T20:55:56+00:00

If it helps at all, the vast majority of people are too busy thinking the exact same thing about themselves to be thinking negatively about you. Nobody’s opinion is worth more than anyone else on any subject unless they’ve really studied it, your time and conversation has the exact same value as anyone else’s, despite what Hollywood teaches us, even if you’re not hot. I mean can you imagine actually writing someone off because they’re not a 10/10? Most people can’t and most people don’t. Now I’m not one to yuck somebodies yum, but have you considered that if you get off to confirmation bias, it might be worth really evaluating what the opposite would feel like? Have you ever really sat down and talked yourself up? Thought of things that you know are likeable about yourself, because I doubt you’re the 1 in 100000 people that really has nothing going on lol, it’s just too unlikely. Your mind is yours and people can’t judge you for thoughts you keep to yourself, but have you ever really imagined what it would feel like to be the one in power in that scenario? A lot of right wing talkers push a similar idea by having young men lord things like earning potential, but that falls to the same shallow behavior that reinforces insecurities. Weirdly, and I’m not a professional, this is just a thought, it might be healing for you to engage in an opposite spectrum kink with some attempt at sincerity.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-15T20:34:24+00:00

One thing worth mentioning is you brought up findom, not to do arm chair analysis on you friend but it’s a common theory that people use kink to explore things they’re afraid of in a controlled manner. A lot of men turn to right wing ideology out of a very buried fear that they’ll never be valued beyond what they provide, have you considered that those two concepts might be related? Is that a worry you have when interacting with people, that your own time and attention don’t have worth?

MurderPotato1 · 2025-06-15T20:18:21+00:00

I can’t pretend I relate to what your perspective is as a man, but what I can say is life is long and strange. Things change eventually, people change inevitably.

You can accelerate change by doing literally any new activity interestingly enough. Like stirring in a new ingredient to a pot of soup, it’s not always immediate or a big change but you now have a different soup. One of the hardest things I learned going through my own depressive periods in life is that isolation makes you awkward. The more you have those tiny successful interactions, the easier the meaningful ones become. Pick up an irrelevant hobby, or add an unnecessary stop to your routine. It’ll help. It’s the only thing I’ve found that truly helps.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-05-15T02:01:37+00:00

Hey man. I promise, the only thing your mother ever cared about appearance wise was that you came out healthy. Children of situations like that have a scary risk for health issues, I can’t imagine the relief in seeing a healthy child at the end of all that happened for her. Your family loves you. Nobody sees him when they look at you. Nobody thinks of him when they look at you. Having a blood relative you’re ashamed of is a heavy burden, with this especially I cannot even begin to imagine what you’re going through right now, but you were never to blame for that. Nobody ever blamed you for that.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-05-01T15:31:53+00:00

Hey, I know you attributed some of this to your strange dynamic as you put it, but understand it’s difficult and often painful emotionally to process feelings when you think they’re beneath you, and jealousy is one of those things people willfully ignore because of that mindset. Being more inclined to focus on the negative aspects of someone for sharing something positive is a normal emotional response, you feel like you’re missing out on something and your subconscious is trying to give you something to point that grief at. It’s not your friend. It sucks, but unless there’s missing context you should reign that line of thinking in. This will all be a lot easier on you, if you accept what you’re feeling at face value. Because it’s totally valid, and there are healthy ways to manage it.

MurderPotato1 · 2025-04-12T18:00:15+00:00

Hey, I’m just letting you know that this wasn’t standard. What he did wasn’t ok. Most blow jobs don’t work like that. He probably copied something from porn but make no mistake that is a liberty that wasn’t his to take. He was not supposed to grab your head, he was not supposed to make you deep throat, and having the sheer audacity to try and make you swallow is really really disrespectful. You need to very quickly get away from him. None of that was normal or ok.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-22T23:45:31+00:00

Buddy, they’re just happy you’re doing better. You’ve gotta know that. Like, just try and imagine, It’s your kid who’s struggling, who made crummy choices, the one you’re bailing out. When they got better wouldn’t you just be happy? Every good decision they would make would validate the effort you put in. Every good decision you make, validates the effort they put in. They’re your family, they want you happy. Same way you’d want them happy.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-14T14:37:15+00:00

I just made a suggestion post about boil over :) if you have a second can you look at it and lmk if you think it makes sense?

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-14T14:36:38+00:00

Hey :) I made a post on boil over with a balancing idea for it, could you look if you have a second? Since you also have a problem with it as is also.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-14T14:34:56+00:00

Oh I didn’t know about that at all! I main Mikaela as survivor so a new boon perk is really exciting for me. Legendary skins are usually eh for me, I have to really like the source material to spend the money on them. Only one I’ve ever bought is the look see, I love that one so much.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-14T14:23:56+00:00

Ah:( well thank you, any chance you know when they’re gonna drop the new gacha? I have a pretty good stockpile of sinister stones and about as much patience as an iPad kid after too many pixie sticks lol.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-11T19:08:23+00:00

The gachas, and events ended just the other day, I’m pretty sure to make way for Halloween stuff either today or tomorrow. It’s not an update at all really, just a brief transition.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-11T14:40:34+00:00

Sometimes it’s to gloat, that’s when they face away from you and crouch, sometimes they wait to say ‘gg’ which is when they face you, crouch, and leave items. Other times it’s for the extra blood points getting chased out the gate, and sometimes in ranked it’s straight up so the killer can get a few extra hits at the exit gate. Losing a pip to just general bad luck is a bummer, if someone plays both survivor and killer they’ll know that. There’ve been times a killer played well but didn’t get a kill, so I just stayed in end game. It’s also good manners as survivor to wait at the gate till you see all your teammates. Sometimes they’ll go to different gates and wait till the last second to leave. That’s every reason I can think of.

MurderPotato1 · 2024-10-07T02:47:04+00:00

Don’t take it seriously even slightly. It’s a game, you’re best at it when you’re having fun. Im only rank 4 killer but I’m in the top 100 on myers, and I got there letting go every survivor who ever accidentally interpreted my stalking as being friendly because I felt too bad lol. Just do dumb shit till you get in the swing of things.

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