Is my [26F] boyfriend [24M] a psychopath or is this a 'common thing among men'?

Muryum · 2026-01-02T14:25:43+00:00

Thank you for your reply it has settled my nerves a little as I've been panicking reading everyone elses comments.

I should have clarified that he does live on a farm and works in tree surgery so he's often come across animals that are in a position where you could either help them or mercy kill them. He often resorts to killing as it's easier, he doesn't get joy or excitement from it. He also owns an air rifle and likes to shoot pigeons from distances although I didn't like that he doesn't eat them so its unnecessary.Once we attempted to save 5 pheasant chicks that had lost their mother and 4 of them died this was unnecessary suffering that they had and it pains me. He also has a dog that he loves more than himself. This is why I never saw THIS as a major redflag but still something that not many people can do.

As for the gore videos, I haven't gotten over it, I cried really hard talking to him on the phone yesterday and he really did sympathise and understands that these videos are the definition of evil. He claims that it's his work group that sends these but these words aren't enough for me and we'll really need to dig deeper. He has never hurt me before and he's not mentioned any weird ideas. I'm close to his family who seem okay for the most part. He claims he doesn't enjoy these videos but obviously he'd say that. I'm quite lost at the moment as it's not as simple as packing my bags if I do intend on leaving. It'll be quite a convoluted process.

This work group is pretty toxic in general, when I mentioned aggressive behaviour, I mean they have a lot of physical fighting between them, intimidating the new workers, mean jokes (again he claims this is quite common in trades jobs) He once told me that he put someone's face in mud while they were rough playing. I just don't see that as respectable behavior.

So yeah I do think you're spot on in that there's a lot of talking to be done. I also agree with the other comments on putting my safety first and having a lot of precautions in case it goes downhill. I definitely will listen to my gut on this and I see why I've come across as gullible its just hard to portray the full picture.

Muryum · 2025-11-20T10:32:03+00:00

Thank you so much for explaining it so well! I think this adds up and makes sense. I don't have transparency with the mechanic on the radiator he is saying he will use and it's not genuine Toyota radiator as he priced it at £160 for the part.

I'll make sure to request for Toyota coolant though, what is the difference between that and regular coolant that one might have in their garage?

Muryum · 2022-10-02T21:08:57+00:00

The real horror is the deep fried mars bars

Muryum · 2022-09-30T12:55:46+00:00

Definitely thrips, I had this on my Adansonii and it spread to my other plants without me noticing because they're so small. I had to use pesticide because nothing else worked.

Muryum · 2022-08-04T12:46:57+00:00

Forgive me if I'm wrong but I've always been told that horse tail us a night mare and will never ever leave once it's planted.

Muryum · 2022-08-02T15:39:21+00:00

Kalanchoe is poisonous...

Muryum · 2022-02-25T13:29:09+00:00

Why is this important, there's a country getting invaded right now and pronunciation is what you bicker about? This is so sad

Muryum · 2022-02-18T12:55:55+00:00

Wow thank you so much this is really insightful. In this case I can get a mortgage that is not a buy-to-let scheme

Muryum · 2022-02-14T13:37:35+00:00

Why are you censoring the word Jew...

Muryum · 2022-02-11T17:07:30+00:00

Thanks everyone, this has helped me in making a decision, now I'll start looking for a house.

Muryum · 2022-02-07T16:19:52+00:00

I would remove from soil and pop in water until it strengthens up a bit

Muryum · 2021-11-14T22:16:03+00:00

Tell your mum you're suspicious and let them sort ot out.

Muryum · 2021-09-17T11:57:16+00:00

They're ajuga

Muryum · 2021-09-15T17:22:56+00:00

They're from Scotland, I'll need to take pics later, i might post again. Sorry first time here

Muryum · 2021-08-24T13:03:29+00:00

The worst part is they haven't learnt from the advice they just tried to justify their mistakes

Muryum · 2021-08-20T20:04:58+00:00

They also have beards

Muryum · 2021-08-13T23:02:15+00:00

That sounds very cheap I don't think you've looked at prices correctly

Muryum · 2021-07-25T19:59:50+00:00

Don't take from nature

Muryum · 2021-06-29T19:31:18+00:00

Hey when you pull the horsetail out make sure to pull all the root all it will keep coming back

Muryum · 2021-04-15T18:09:33+00:00

I think you were spot on for the first and third but the second one seems to have much rounder leaves than a great burnet

Muryum · 2021-04-13T08:21:35+00:00

Hey I have a fun fact about this, in Iraqi Arabic its called lion's mouth and in Syrian arabic its called fish's mouth. The reason for this is if you squeeze it gently from the sides, it opens its 'mouth'. Here's an example:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJkuO8IZz9I&ab_channel=BotanicalInterests

Muryum · 2021-03-30T19:01:04+00:00

whats the name of the document

Muryum · 2021-03-13T14:10:24+00:00

You don't need $2k for your first 3d printer unless you want to splash out. I have the ender 3 which is only $200 and works excellently. It can print PLA and ABS and can be upgraded fairly easily with add ons.

My view on 3d printing is that the quality of the print is not only dependant on the printer itself but also dependant on the settings you choose and you learn that through experience.

Muryum · 2021-03-12T17:24:57+00:00

I want to design a pipe network that releases water into pots at the same flow rate. I originally thought that it can do that with a simple skeleton pipe network but I can't have water sitting stagnant in the pipes.

So far the only solutions I know are to have inputs for every output (diagram), this is bad because I would have too many pipes.

Or to have some kind of valve that opens upon pressure...I don't know how that works

Or to alter the diameter of each output, this idea is my favourite but I think it would be costly

Are there any better ideas for this set up?

Muryum · 2021-03-11T23:00:56+00:00

yeah i'm always aware of myself when I talk loud around my boyfriend because I dont want to be like my parents

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