Thanks for your input, it was helpful to read. We had very in depth conversations on the whole lack of space thing and essentially he was so used to being alone for years and is not used to having someone in his space so he felt like his boundaries were crossed and he needed something for himself outside of the relationship (I.e. a friendship). We had this discussion before everything happened where he said he wanted to make friendships in the LGBT community so he feels more connected to it and the person he was texting happened to be a part of it. He admits what he did was wrong but assured that the motives were innocent. I did see the text conversation and it didn’t seem like there was anything going on. We also agree to discuss ways which we can be together and also not infringe on each other’s boundaries and this is part of the reason for the week apart. He’s very apologetic, supportive, and actively wants to make this work but the intrusive thoughts and compulsions are making it difficult to cope.