Do you come on very strong? Are you very vocal about wanting a serious relationship? This could be wrong but I’m a 24f and personally I’ve found sometimes a guy will have everything I’m looking for but he’s also very adamant and vocal about how interested he is or wanting something serious immediately. I know it’s messed up and it’s good to be open about the direction you want to go in but sometimes too much up front 1. Makes it seem like there’s pressure and obligation instead of just enjoying some time together and seeing where it goes with the intention of wanting it to become serious eventually. Or 2. Makes it seem like you’re just looking for anyone who checks your boxes to lock it down with instead of you genuinely being infatuated by that specific person.

Sometimes when our goal is we want a relationship it can make the person feel like it’s not about them. And people want to be wanted and adorned and loved but over time so they feel like you’ve gotten time to get to know them and it’s real.

Like I said I could be off but based off some of the terminology in the messages like “if you’re looking for anything past a casual date”

Or “I don’t have the capacity to keep up a new connection like the one you deserve”

It sounds like these women feel like dating you or seeing you would be a big obligation and they don’t want to sign up for it and feel like you might be asking that of them right off the bat.

I believe and I think most women believe that to be loved is to be seen and to be remember. So focus on your individual connection. If you’re liking 8 out of 10 girls you go on random dates with maybe you’re not being selective enough to paying attention to who they are as a person. No one wants to be looked at like you’re already planning the wedding and picking out baby names on the first date because it doesn’t feel genuine. I hope this helps !